Calling a woman out

[BadBoy89]

I've probably made a thread like this before, but anyway here we go.

If a girl assumes something about you, you have to hit her back. Alot of this site keeps saying "walk away, be smooth, girls are silly, don't take it seriously." Well, I somewhat listened to that advice during my last date, and it messed me up. Usually I'm quick to reply, but this time I didn't for a while.

Went out a woman, she looked ok but not really my type. At the end of the date she said "nice meeting you, talk soon." I said "take care" Came home. About 2 hours later, she texts "Hi Badboy, thanks for coffee, just wanted to say didn't feel romantic connection. Good luck in your search."

Now because this site, the players who sleep with girls with their eyes closed in 10 min of meeting them, teaches to "walk away, be smooth" I didn't respond.
But it bugged she assumed that I felt something.

So today, I almost 2 weeks after the date, I exploded inside. I texted back "Hi xyz, I just got your message. I don't remember saying I felt a romantic spark. Good luck in your search," Oh man it felt good.

Now if I said "Hi xyz, I enjoyed our date, lets do it again" and she said that, OK ,no problem. But when I don't say anything and a woman assumes, IT'S ON.

Now I'm not a player who sleeps with hundreds of girls, but my main point is this: if a woman assumes something about you, you have to, HAVE TO, HAVE TO hit them back.

 

[Vanderdonck]

About 2 hours later, she texts "Hi Badboy, thanks for coffee, just wanted to say didn't feel romantic connection. Good luck in your search."


But it bugged she assumed that I felt something.

She said she didn't feel anything. Where did she she say anything about you feeling something? I don't see it.

 

[Westminster]

Don't let in bug you, OP. It's just a date which didn't go anywhere for whatever reason. You didn't have a lot invested in it. Personally, I wouldn't have responded, but maybe something short like "OK, no probs. Ditto" would be alright. But I probably wouldn't bother.

Rise a above it, just move on.

 

[Barrister]

I don’t think this site teaches “just walk away” so much as to always let things roll off of you. In this situation specifically, “agree and amplify” was the way to go immediately after the text was received. Responding two weeks later makes you look like you’ve sat around being angry about it - which is accurate because that is exactly what you did.

“hey, no hard feelings at all. Had a good time but agree there was no spark. No use forcing anything. Good luck with everything and I’ll see you around if you’re lucky.”

 

[SW15]

I would have forgotten this woman ever existed within 24-48 of receiving that unpleasant text message. Some things aren't even worth acknowledging.

She would have been deleted from my phone as soon as it was received.

Also, I typically don't do coffee dates. The only time when I might do a coffee date is if I am doing a bookstore approach and I manage to do an instantaneous date in the coffee shop located inside a bookstore. Some bookstore locations have coffee shops set up inside of them.

 

[Clockwerk50]

It reminds me of this thread. - Proof that women past 50 play AW games on apps! | SoSuave Discussion Forum

There is no point in arguing with women over text, especially 2 weeks later. Too much ego. Hopefully, you didn't lose sleep over this, even though "exploded" seems like you were angry at the text since it made you feel undesirable.

 

[Dr.Suave]

Next time, you text the girl first: "Hey you didnt pass the boner test. Good luck in your search". Ahhh just messin with you, bro.

Not really much I can add to what other members have already contributed. Sounds like maybe you allowed a girl you didnt even like to live on your head rent-free for a couple of weeks. Most of us have made similar mistakes at some point on our journey but you live and you learn.

 

[New_Journey]

If a girl assumes something about you, you have to hit her back

Nope, this is petty

"Hi Badboy, thanks for coffee, just wanted to say didn't feel romantic connection. Good luck in your search."

You took her to a coffee date? You could do fun dates where you can have her smiling and having fun, but instead you took her to cheap coffee date? I imagine you two sitting next to each other talking about $hit, you're boring.

Now because this site, the players who sleep with girls with their eyes closed in 10 min of meeting them, teaches to "walk away"

It applies to everyone.

So today, I almost 2 weeks after the date, I exploded inside. I texted back "Hi xyz, I just got your message. I don't remember saying I felt a romantic spark. Good luck in your search," Oh man it felt good.

This is nice guy behavior, you got mad cause you went with a cover contract of having sex, but instead you should have gone to a date to have fun, teasing her, making fun of her, competing against her with some game in a fun way, not as an interview.

Now if I said "Hi xyz, I enjoyed our date, lets do it again" and she said that, OK ,no problem. But when I don't say anything and a woman assumes, IT'S ON.

This makes no sense. You don't know what you're saying.

if a woman assumes something about you, you have to, HAVE TO, HAVE TO hit them back.

If a woman assumes you're a bad boy and a player, are gonna tell her "noooo I'm not like that other guys, I'm different"

Women love validation, women loved to dress hot for people to look at her. Use that to your advantage. You should have taken her to do a fun activity.

I'm picking you up at this time, I want you to wear X outfit and high heels. Then you should have taken her to fun place where people dress nice. And you should dress nice too, women love validation and if a hot woman is with a hot guy on a date where other women are looking at him, that's pre-selection, use women's hamster to your advantage. Don't be a boring man

 

[BeExcellent]

Advice from the old lady:

Never let a stranger chick get under your skin. Block & move on next time to forget about it (and so you don't look like an angry wierdo two weeks later).

Sometimes the best response is zero response. That would have been best in this instance.

 

[The Duke]

I think your reply and timing made you come across as a little butt hurt. It wasn't necessary.

A man's time and energy is better spent on other women that are interested.

This is what sucks when people treat others crappy...this girl was actually honest with sharing her thoughts and didn't play any games with you. BUT It wasn't what your fragile ego wanted to hear so you got upset and said something ****-ish to try and get back at her, 2 wks later. She didn't deserve that.

Should she string you along next time? Is that what you want?

Your response to her did nothing but confirm you were a tool bag and she was glad she had no romantic feelings for you.

Instead of creating a thread about "calling a woman out" to settle the score, you should start one about "What does it mean when a woman says there was no romantic connection".

 

[Divorced w 3]

I think your reply and timing made you come across as a little butt hurt. It wasn't necessary.

A man's time and energy is better spent on other women that are interested.

This is what sucks when people treat others crappy...this girl was actually honest with sharing her thoughts and didn't play any games with you. BUT It wasn't what your fragile ego wanted to hear so you got upset and said something ****-ish to try and get back at her, 2 wks later. She didn't deserve that.

Should she string you along next time? Is that what you want?

Your response to her did nothing but confirm you were a tool bag and she was glad she had no romantic feelings for you.

Instead of creating a thread about "calling a woman out" to settle the score, you should start one about "What does it mean when a woman says there was no romantic connection".

Agree. His perception was not reality. If this were a business transaction or anything else, he would have said thanks no worries and been grateful for the time back that he didn’t have to waste chasing that fruitless situation.

We’ve all been there. The fix is to get more at bats. No other way. Good luck

 

[taiyuu_otoko]

A first date is to see if you vibe enough together to see if it's worth exploring, or to get laid.

Not a massive ego battle to see who can outframe whom the fastest.

OP: Get over yourself and move on.

 

[BPH]

I disagree with the premise of this thread, and it looks like I'm not the only one.

The reason a lot of the good advice is to "walk away and forget her" is because if you didn't feel something, you shouldn't care, and she wouldn't be worth this level of afterthought.

What this really stems from is you feeling that you are above her in some way, and the fact that SHE rejected YOU damages your ego, so you feel the need to "take back control" of the situation - which inevitably leads to you looking butthurt, as others have mentioned.

1. Leave her on read
2. "Ok"
3. "I feel the same way, good luck in your search"

All would've been better responses.

 

[pipeman84]

Went out a woman, she looked ok but not really my type. At the end of the date she said "nice meeting you, talk soon." I said "take care" Came home. About 2 hours later, she texts "Hi Badboy, thanks for coffee, just wanted to say didn't feel romantic connection. Good luck in your search."

She wasn't your type. You weren't her type. Case closed.

So today, I almost 2 weeks after the date, I exploded inside. I texted back "Hi xyz, I just got your message. I don't remember saying I felt a romantic spark. Good luck in your search," Oh man it felt good.

She must've felt even better because she didn't pursue anything with you. Sending this text message, and doing so after 2 weeks, you confirmed most stereotypes that women have about guys on dating apps. Just as we look down on women who are on them, they do the same about the guys on them.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

I've probably made a thread like this before, but anyway here we go.

If a girl assumes something about you, you have to hit her back. Alot of this site keeps saying "walk away, be smooth, girls are silly, don't take it seriously." Well, I somewhat listened to that advice during my last date, and it messed me up. Usually I'm quick to reply, but this time I didn't for a while.

Went out a woman, she looked ok but not really my type. At the end of the date she said "nice meeting you, talk soon." I said "take care" Came home. About 2 hours later, she texts "Hi Badboy, thanks for coffee, just wanted to say didn't feel romantic connection. Good luck in your search."

Now because this site, the players who sleep with girls with their eyes closed in 10 min of meeting them, teaches to "walk away, be smooth" I didn't respond.
But it bugged she assumed that I felt something.

So today, I almost 2 weeks after the date, I exploded inside. I texted back "Hi xyz, I just got your message. I don't remember saying I felt a romantic spark. Good luck in your search," Oh man it felt good.

Now if I said "Hi xyz, I enjoyed our date, lets do it again" and she said that, OK ,no problem. But when I don't say anything and a woman assumes, IT'S ON.

Now I'm not a player who sleeps with hundreds of girls, but my main point is this: if a woman assumes something about you, you have to, HAVE TO, HAVE TO hit them back.

So I am not really sure why you even bothered. Clearly what she said wasn't what was important. That's some standard BS line from women who don't want to see you again. Doesn't matter what it says, only what it means.

And it meant, she wasn't interested. So you waited and stewed over this and then responded in a way that basically validated to her that she was right by responding like a butt hurt little boy with a bruised ego. You essentially told her "I'm not experienced enough with women to actually know what this means and am emotionally immature".

I can guarantee you nobody with any sense in this forum would have suggested you respond this way and if that's what you have taken away from being on this forum, I'm not sure you've learned anything of value here.

If a woman isn't interested, just move on to the next woman, which of you are doing it correctly you would already have in your pipeline. This shouldn't have even registered that emotion IN THE MOMENT she sent the text, let alone register that deeply 2 weeks later that you would send that.

Negative energy does not get you positive results.

That's what the forum would suggest.

 

[New_Journey]

What this really stems from is you feeling that you are above her in some way, and the fact that SHE rejected YOU damages your ego, so you feel the need to "take back control" of the situation - which inevitably leads to you looking butthurt, as others have mentioned.

Nailed it!

 

[BackInTheGame78]

I disagree with the premise of this thread, and it looks like I'm not the only one.

The reason a lot of the good advice is to "walk away and forget her" is because if you didn't feel something, you shouldn't care, and she wouldn't be worth this level of afterthought.

What this really stems from is you feeling that you are above her in some way, and the fact that SHE rejected YOU damages your ego, so you feel the need to "take back control" of the situation - which inevitably leads to you looking butthurt, as others have mentioned.

1. Leave her on read
2. "Ok"
3. "I feel the same way, good luck in your search"

All would've been better responses.

An emotionally immature reaction.