I must say im very impressed that someone with so little experience with women seems to "get it" so well.... If you don't let the "game" jade you too fast - you'll be on your way to being a ladies man in no time! Seem to already be! Keep at it man... Now my comments....
FeelsGoodBro said:
Honestly, I am more confused everyday. I am attracted to her physically to the point I can’t help myself when I am with her. I can’t even describe it. You should see how this girl looks at me, it’s almost sad, like I am God or something. I remember a few weeks ago we went out to a club and she is just staring at me shaking her head. I just look at her and ask her, “what?” she tells me “You are gorgeous. You know I want to be with you, right?” Another recent time we screwed, we met for a drink, she was with a male friend who I’ve met a few times, I have a drink and tell her I am leaving. As soon as I get to my car, she is texting me how good I was looking, she wants me to sleepover, not because she wants to fvck me, but because she misses me.
However, I do know I don’t have the energy for the mind games / bull**** in-between the times we do not go out.
Pay no attention to what she says. If she stayed over - she would be open to fvcking! It's her bargaining chip to get attention back from you. The same can be said about her emotions (although a good bit of that is her uncontrollable desire to be with a man who's such a challenge)...
"Oh, i seem to be losing him; what's going on here? He's not responding to me leaving his life like other guys have? I better throw every bit of my femininity at him!"
You see - the more you push her away now - the more she will be drawn to you! At least now you're seeing the power of such a thing!
FeelsGoodBro said:
We only have like 5 classes left together, I remember on the phone I said “It doesn’t really matter, we have a few more classes left together.”
She got emotional again and said “stop it!”
This girl will 100% cry on the last day. I plan on finishing my final very quickly and getting the fk out.
You might not realize it - but you're definitely fvcking with her head hardcore! Telling a woman who's IL in you is insane that "we have a few more classes left together" in the way you did - is gold! Seriously, you're just being honest, and cold to her; but - any mention of "the end" to a woman who's trying to hold on - will result in insanity in her head! I can only imagine how bad she's taking it out on her boyfriend!
This is going to make it hard for either of you to move on completely. I've been in similar situations with women i've worked with, and the emotions and attraction will definitely fade once you don't have to see her. So once those 5 classes are over - things should get easier for you and her.
FeelsGoodBro said:
She will not leave him for me right now. I know this for a fact. I believe she mentioned after this relationship she said she was going to be single for a long time. That is why I am so confused.
What she says is not important and standard material used by women in her situation. At this point - it's quite clear to me that this is not the type of woman you should date anyway. Fling? Sure... Date? No! It doesn't matter that she hasn't cheated on her boyfriend - the fact is - she would! And that's why - you're doing the right thing by not letting her suck you in!
FeelsGoodBro said:
Maybe she would. But, she would only run back to her boyfriend the next day and try to sucker me in longer. The sex is great, but not at the cost of my sanity.
Beautiful!
FeelsGoodBro said:
The sick part is I am starting to believe she is in love with me.
Yes. But that's not important and is more a reaction to how well you're handling it.
There's a lot of people who believe love is only a temporary form of psychosis, and that once it wears off - people only stay together after out of comfort and attachment. I believe this woman is consumed with you at the moment. A very unhealthy psychosis.
FeelsGoodBro said:
She won’t leave her boyfriend for me. She has been with him a year & a half and has said she just can’t dump him and jump to the next guy.
For future reference: Fvck what she says! She doesn't know what she's talking about... At this point: it's clear that you shouldn't want to be the "next guy" anyway...
FeelsGoodBro said:
I am saying it because this is like a sick form of torture. I can’t cut off all contact with her, we still have class together. And she keeps texting me **** like that. I tell myself I am over it when I am out of class and then I see her and I can’t help but feel a bit hurt.
Your body is biologically designed to give you good feelings when you're experiencing pleasure, and bad feelings when you take that pleasure away. Even more so when you have sex with a person because the chemicals in your body will BOND you to them. Each time you have sex with a woman - you bond with them stronger (which is why FB relationships rarely work unless you're having sex with other people; aka: exclusive FB relationships almost always lead to LTRs)
Right now - your body is punishing you with these feelings because you have disconnected from your pleasure source as well as a person you have bonded with.
Solution: Other pleasure sources. Some men turn to drugs, alcohol, gambling, etc. at this point.
My recommendation: Other women AND hobbies in which you can reach achievements that make you feel good.
Have 1 woman in your life and no hobbies and you care 100% about her.
Have 3 women and 7 hobbies and you care only 10% about her.
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So far, you've handled yourself like a champ. I wish i had half the ability and insight you seem to have at this stage in your experience with women! Amazed!
Keep your head up bro.... You're on your way...
