I've been cruising this site for a bit now and finally decided to join up. Roughly a year and half ago I had realized that I wanted more out of life, things were bad with my girlfriend of 2 years and I broke it off. I began to change and mold myself more into, what is called here, a DJ. It had always been there, but I let the moldings of my mother and the values of society take place and the AFC shone through.
Unfortunately, I had a birthday about 2 months after the break up and allowed the then ex to take me to dinner. One thing escalated to the next, we slept together, and now, a year later we are living together.
Things have grown stale and I realize again that I really don't want to be with her, which puts me in a quandary. I do care about her as a person, I would even say that I love her (in more of a sister/friend way), so I can't bring myself to just move out on her. She doesn't make nearly what I do and it would be practically impossible for her to live. Friend wise, the few that she has, probably wouldn't/can't take her in and her parents live far away.
I also know that she still loves me and wants us to be together. In my own mind I think she has the same feelings I do, but it's deep down and buried under all that emotional female garbage which prevents her from acknowledging it.
To not ramble on any further, I'll boil it down to two questions:
1: Is there any way to make her realize what she denies herself...if so, then how?
2. How do I get out of such a sticky situation? I know the responses to this will be "Man up; Just do it." However, if you have been here than you know that after almost 4 years of being together, it isn't just that simple.
On a side note, I'm looking for intelligent, articulated comments here. If need to call me a bytch...then by all means, do so....but at least try to provide a bit of insight.
Thanks in advance !
CN: Howdy. Been with g/f almost 4 years (broke-up...got back together one year ago). Live together. She cant support herself w/o me. Still care about her as a person. Want out of it, but how? How to make her realize its never going to work?
Unfortunately, I had a birthday about 2 months after the break up and allowed the then ex to take me to dinner. One thing escalated to the next, we slept together, and now, a year later we are living together.
Things have grown stale and I realize again that I really don't want to be with her, which puts me in a quandary. I do care about her as a person, I would even say that I love her (in more of a sister/friend way), so I can't bring myself to just move out on her. She doesn't make nearly what I do and it would be practically impossible for her to live. Friend wise, the few that she has, probably wouldn't/can't take her in and her parents live far away.
I also know that she still loves me and wants us to be together. In my own mind I think she has the same feelings I do, but it's deep down and buried under all that emotional female garbage which prevents her from acknowledging it.
To not ramble on any further, I'll boil it down to two questions:
1: Is there any way to make her realize what she denies herself...if so, then how?
2. How do I get out of such a sticky situation? I know the responses to this will be "Man up; Just do it." However, if you have been here than you know that after almost 4 years of being together, it isn't just that simple.
On a side note, I'm looking for intelligent, articulated comments here. If need to call me a bytch...then by all means, do so....but at least try to provide a bit of insight.
Thanks in advance !
CN: Howdy. Been with g/f almost 4 years (broke-up...got back together one year ago). Live together. She cant support herself w/o me. Still care about her as a person. Want out of it, but how? How to make her realize its never going to work?