guywhoneedshelp said:when she calls I'm going to be very blunt about it.
"You call me now? After I canceled our vacation and got my money back? After I canceled the tickets I ordered to that show you wanted to see? I thought we were done girl...you used to say you couldn't go an entire day without speaking to me...well now that you're able to, I take the hint, you don't want me anymore! I get it! I'm moving on!"
That's impossible to answer without more context into her various behaviors as a GF. Generally speaking I would have a firm boundary regarding Xs, but it depends on the situation.Danger said:Interesting, and I definitely find the logic in this.
Now, would you treat this differently if you had a relationship of any level with a woman and she did something that bothered you, like perhaps had lunch with an ex?
Would you pretend it didn't bother you?
Or would you speak your mind and draw a boundary?
when your woman says 'i think we should take a break', 99.9% of the time its end game.
you see, what she has created a lose lose scenario for you. its a scenario that gives her ALL the power in the relationship moving forward.
No its not. The plate spinning theory is limited in its effectiveness because it encourages you to to 'branch swing' in situations like your's.dmatter said:so now my question is. isnt the best way to resolve this to have other girls around? so that way u wont get derailed if your girl starts to play games?
dmatter said:yeah i just went throught this. the 1st time she wanted a break she said she needed a week but couldnt stop texting or iming me. then 3 days later shes like forget the break and lets just be with eachoter. so fast fwd a couple months the same thing happends after a bunch of fights happend and i couldnt really see her too often. but then she said she wasnt too sure about us and i told her we canget through so she gets happy and says yeah we can. but truth is i FELT her interest fading and i knew it as much as she protested. so the next day i ended up breakinup with her. but i called later in the day for her to take me back and then she wanted to but i said no again. then one last moment of weakness i told her i wanted ot get bak again and this time she said no and then days later. she kepts texting me but i ended up sayin i need to straighten my life and ill get back yo you when i do i admit the feelings are still there but I know that the fact is its over and I should learn from my mistakes.
so now my question is. isnt the best way to resolve this to have other girls around? so that way u wont get derailed if your girl starts to play games?
bump/STICKY requestmrRuckus said:You want to be the "different" guy that she regrets letting go after 3 months of dealing with guys much worse/afc than you.
I like this, made me think of the monkey bars and how you don't let go of the last bar until you have a firm grip on the next, just in case you fall.Sinistar said:...are often done when they have already grasped another branch.
If she's asking for a "break" due to a death in the family...you're obviously not close enough to her to "be there for her", whether you THOUGHT you were or not. If you two really had a strong relationship, she'd turn to you for comfort, not away from you. It's time for you to leave her alone and find some other women to date while she collects herself.joekerr31 said:the only excuses that potentially might warrant a break would...
- a death in her family that messed her up psychologically
- if you've been abusing her verbally / physically
- if she caught you cheating
- if you're banging a MILF with kids and things are getting too out of control and she needs time to get her head together for her kids
Your explanation for this is spot on.joekerr31 said:when your woman says 'i think we should take a break', 99.9% of the time its end game.