Dash Riprock said:
I've also found that in most situations, they want to work things out when you do this. Not all, but most. I've also found that they’re open to trying things again in the future. It positions you as the leader, DJ, take-no-**it bf.
this is what goes through their head...
her: (inner thoughts) 'you know, i can do better than Dash. i think its time to give myself some options. i should probably think about taking a break. maybe ill bring that up in a week or so. then ill have time to hang out with Joekerr guilt free."
Dash: i think we need to take a break.
her: (inner thoughts) "WTF! what do i do now? If Joekerr is better than Dash and DASH is kicking my *ss to the curb, what chance do i have with Joekerr then. Jesus, what was i thinking? I gotta get Dash back."
hehe. no offence dash, just used our names for fun.
anyway, the moment you reject a woman its the equivalent of taking a sledge hammer to her ego. When a woman has a man her ego is blown up, she thinks she can get any guy in the world just because shes got one. but when you sledge hammer that ego back to reality she becomes VERY aware that not only was she lucky to have you, but that if she can't even hold on to you what chance does she have of holding on to a male she perceives as being of even higher value?
as men we tend NOT to put any value in what others think (which is a good thing). which is why we see it as silly to think in this way. after all, if a chic dumps us we shrug our shoulders and go fishing and catch another fish. but women aren't like that. when a woman gets dumped it reinforces every single negative thought she has about herself. it REALLY rattles her cage - BIG TIME.
because at the end of the day women are not use to getting dumped. they are used to getting turned in to wh*res by their boyfriend - ie. he really doesnt care about her anymore, treats her poorly, but still likes getting laid regularly. but they are NOT use to getting straight out DUMPED. it REALLY messes with their minds.