BPD's can control their behavior…they choose not to
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noBSgames
Senior Don Juan
Hey I wonder if your ex was the same as mine she would ask me often "why do you love me?" After like the 4th time in a 2 month span I started to get annoyed she always wanted the next time I answered to be more elaborate then the next
No it was more of asking more and more and more of me while giving nothing and if i didnt do as she said or give her every second of me she would respond with rage or anger or punishment for not letting her control me.
Tried to control me from the gym. Not gonna happen.
Tried to control me from hanging with buddies, shame me , accuse me. Nope not happening
backbreaker
Master Don Juan
this is a pre lexapro rant i had against my wife
you know what she did lol? like i had asked her to met me at basket robins cause i was bored and she was at the gym and didn't feel like stopping her workout
http://prntscr.com/g85ntx
dude when i take it there i take it there lol.
she knew by now not to take it personally and 30 mins later we just pretend like it doesn't happen lol.
but it really doesn't happen all that much any more
i legit have a mental disease i get so pissed my mind goes blank and i just type and say ****
you know what she did lol? like i had asked her to met me at basket robins cause i was bored and she was at the gym and didn't feel like stopping her workout
http://prntscr.com/g85ntx
dude when i take it there i take it there lol.
she knew by now not to take it personally and 30 mins later we just pretend like it doesn't happen lol.
but it really doesn't happen all that much any more
i legit have a mental disease i get so pissed my mind goes blank and i just type and say ****
Yes that is def not normal.
Mine did as well, she would go off like this all the time, just ridiculous flippiing out for no reasons.
Then she would follow with punishing me severely
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noBSgames
Senior Don Juan
So I ended up watching the exes snap and I guess she's getting backlash or whatever she says people are noisy looking at her social media and if she posts something it's not meaning she wants your opinion.. not sure who she's directing it to as I haven't been on Facebook in almost a month I wonder if it's people seeing her patterns? I doubt it however
noBSgames
Senior Don Juan
Ha typical trying to get a reaction out of me she said two things if she's already jumped in another relationship she had to show he got her something at Victoria secret I wonder what makes these girls follow the same pattern. I'm sure as hell don't care I like working on my car and that's what really started pissing her off.. she pretty much told me to stop buying stuff however I rebuilt the motor in my Subaru Legacy entirely that costs money.. she would always try to distract me by having me come out to see her and spend money at least $120+ when I started to watch the patterns and close my wallet she went and told my mom I'm being cheap. I also noticed another thing she used the car as her way of control because I had no car I could not get around so easy when I started working on it that's when it was slipping from her. I told her about that and she was like that's not true blah blah same ole stuff they normally say
backbreaker
Master Don Juan
The only difference with me is I'm aware that is not normal behavior. I've even caught myself a few times from doing bpd ****. Undiagnosed u literally think everyone is the devil
noBSgames
Senior Don Juan
I think my ex is back to playing games again.. on her snap shes says shes trying to catch a train to a town that's over from the one I work at.. I know it by the back of my hand and it's nothing to do or see because it's so small I don't think shes planning on going and it's just a way of her trying to bate me.. I'm keeping my ass home.. Again she saw I was making progress on my car and I'm sure if she really did come it would be like hang out, lets go to the store and blah blah.. next thing you know I already spent $120..
Since she changed her number I wont get the 3 pages of texts so I don't have that to worry about.
Since she changed her number I wont get the 3 pages of texts so I don't have that to worry about.
I blocked my bpd ex on Facebook. It's great. She doesn't even show up on likes on mutual frriends posts.
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I would block mine, but that would show her, she has some kind of power over me. Fvck that. She can suck his cawk on her profile picture and I still wouldn't block. There's no way I'm giving her the satisfaction
Not only that...but why the fvck would you want to block a hoover attempt?
stovepipe
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You got it backwards. Blocking her shows you've moved on, not blocking her shows you're open for a hoover and not over her.
Right.
Other wise looking for trouble.
Believe me i understand NOT getting hoovered is rough because even tho all theor **** the hoovering is a way we felt loved or wanted thro all the other crap.
But u gotta block and stay away to move on.
Im 15 days no contact today and it is rough.
Part of me misses my best friend but the other part of me is receiving this peace and tranquility, something that has been absent on a consistent basis for a few years.
Its hard.
noBSgames
Senior Don Juan
Hey I was wondering how many bpd females are gold diggers?
What happens, IN HER MIND, is that she comes to see you as WORTHLESS simply because she hasn't had to INVEST anything in you in order to get you or to keep you.
You were an interesting diversion while she had nothing else to do. But now that someone a little more valuable has come along, someone who expects her to treat him very well, she'll have no problem at all dropping you or demoting you to lowly "friendship" status.
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I see her 4 times a week when I pick up and drop my son off. We have to stay in contact because of it. I keep the contact as low as possible. If she wants to hoover there's nothing I can do about that. She will have plenty of opportunity to do it.
She also changed her profile picture with the two of them laughing together a while ago. That picture went up the same day i told her my son needs to be ready to make the handover as short as possible, making the timing a little suspect. She has my family members as friends including my brother which she doesn't even like. He was the one that told me about it. So yeah blocking her would from my perspective only show her she has a hold there. It would make sense if I didn't have to see her.
if I react to her having a replacement and flaunting it, then that's a battle won for her. She has tried many tricks to get a reaction out of me and so far I haven't reacted. Indifference is the only way to win. Blocking is an emotional response in my case. It would only make sense if I could go no contact
She also changed her profile picture with the two of them laughing together a while ago. That picture went up the same day i told her my son needs to be ready to make the handover as short as possible, making the timing a little suspect. She has my family members as friends including my brother which she doesn't even like. He was the one that told me about it. So yeah blocking her would from my perspective only show her she has a hold there. It would make sense if I didn't have to see her.
if I react to her having a replacement and flaunting it, then that's a battle won for her. She has tried many tricks to get a reaction out of me and so far I haven't reacted. Indifference is the only way to win. Blocking is an emotional response in my case. It would only make sense if I could go no contact
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She's a scumbag and he doesn't realize he is a pathetic cuck.
Well done not playing into their games.
Thanks exhausted. The more I read, compare and contrast. Specially what I've experienced after it ended, I no longer lean towards BPD as much anymore. She does fit BPD traits, but now she's showing more signs of being a covert narcissist. Some suggest narcissism is part of BPD. Only thing that doesn't fit is narcissists tend to lie about how great her childhood was which she never did. They both have overlapping traits, specially the victim mentality and playing on it. The new guy is nothing more than narcissistic supply just as I were. My role was to take care of her and the kids. His role will be much bigger. Now she needs her house fixed and help with the kids and daily life.
That's how narcissists operate. They find supply based on what they need at the moment. When she left her husband, she needed a father figure for the kids which i fit perfectly. This also explains why she won't be hoovering me. The times after, she tried to elicit sympathy i grey rocked her. I'm a dried up well and no longer worthy as a supply source
Which makes me come to the final conclusion. She's basically prostituting herself. First prostitute i've ever slept with and it only nearly cost me my soul and spirit. I'm glad I'm on the other side and can see her sad attempts now. Even laugh at it at times.
Right now I'm reading and watching videos of how to fvck with a narcissist and it's pretty funny. Don't know if I will ever use it but it makes me laugh
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Yep bpd and npd traits are similar. The cluster b.and crossover characteristics.
Plus she is unintelligent as she doesn't even realize she is being a shchit mother bringing around different men and so quickly.
Does she not even know how that looks?
You are better off! Count your blessings.
Keep reading and keep venting it definitely helps.
Thanks a lot for all your support exhausted it has meant a lot and made my day a couple of times.
Well I just met him having to pick up my son for this weekend.
Oh my god
What a meek guy. I went over to shake his hand like a man. He gives me this half limp handshake and could barely look me in the eyes. Plus he was a bit drunk. I really wish I could post a picture of him, you would be shocked. Not only did she trade down in the looks department, he looks like an alcoholic. This is one guy she can wrap around her little finger.
Now I know why she has avoided me meeting him. She knows I would see the desperation. No wonder she was in such a bad mood. Polite but she looked like somebody had pissed her off. There goes her last leverage over my emotions.
I suppose i should feel good, but she looks like she's in a bad place and just picked the first guy that gave her attention. For a second I had some pity and felt the old rescuer rear it's ugly head. Thankfully just for a second
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