Yes it is - and a well known one on here.
Can not find the Thread I was thinking about. But here a Link to an interesting Thread about red Flags in general. Just a Little reminder.
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/threads/the-ultimate-red-flag-list.130918/
Thanks.
Scrolling thro among my own red flags here is my list or ones she displayed
Ex smoker
Ex pothead- told me she smoked pot daily for 4 years
Commented a lot how pot helped her always wanted to smoke it again.
Was married at 18 and divorced at 22 because she "didnt want to be married anymore"
4 months post divorce she dated a guy and wanted to get married. Wtf
He didn't want marriage so she got pregnant anyways. - STUPID
Got pregnant on purpose out of wedlock to a guy she knew for only 4 months.
The baby daddy was 40 she was 22. GROSS
Baby daddy is a loser, last year claimed making only 12,000 dollars.
She smoked thro pregnancy- FOUND THIS OUT LATE UNACCEPTABLE.
She is terrible with money.
Been caught lying to me.
Showed little effort with my family, expected me to be there w hers 100%.
50- 50 custody,she was agreeable to it.
Told me and said all thro ltr " i dont deal well with stress"
Npd. Borderline traits. Cluster B.
Diagnosed Bipolar by 2 psychiatrists.
Believes pychs are wrong.
Lazy
Doesnt cook.
Junk food addict
Eats fast food daily. - disgusting.
Lazy mom, wanted me to be primary parent of her kid.
Rages yells screams. Over nothing.
Rages in public.
Bad teeth.
Cellulite on legs at 28 year old now 30.
Jealous. All the time constantly.
Envious to a fault
Unappreciative.
NO compassion or empathy especially when mad.
Mouthy, beyond disrespectful.
Drama queen. Everything is a big deal
Few girl friends
Few friends in general
Always having problems with people at work
Parents have low standards, allow her to underachieve.
Below average parent, spoils with materials not love and guidance.
CONTROLLING. Ridiculously.
Moody, can flip at the drop of a hat.
Either loved or hated me.
Low comprehension.
Makes terrible life decisions admittedly yet wanted to control everything.
Financially irresponsible with spending and saving.
Double standards, wanted to do things i was forbid to do
Didnt even cook for her kid,fed her fast food all the time.
Gaslighted to ridiculous extents. Unreal
ALWAYS THE VICTIM noted by many diff people
Wanted more time tog only without her effort
Wanted me to sell my home for a bigger one b4 marriage. I disagreed
Nonreligious, wanted me to leave my religion to go find a new one w her.
Constant breaking things off (discards) and getting back tog immediately or acting like she didnt break things off.
Wanted to control my money.
Wanted to move in for free or barely help financially
Slept sll the time.
ALWAYS tired. Always napping.
Never happy.
Bottomless pit
Nonchristian.
No effort to spend time w my family or get to know them.
Selfish beyond reason.
Mean
Cruel.
Verbally and emotionally abusive truthfully
Disrespects boundaries.
Is a no it all that onows nothing.
Good traits.
Can be very loving - love bombing.
Loyal, usually i am skeptical but this has been found as true.
Active, would rather be active out and about hiking kayaking riding than to sit in the house.
Ambitious at work.
Can be loving mother, puts kid first.
Could be a loving gf when wanted. Or when happy, usually not often.
Always wanted to spend time tog.
This put a lot in perspective.
What a ****ing ******* half the time
This girl is a pos. I am ashamed to have kept her around a year too long.
I.am embarrassed to show this list honestly.
I need to let go.
I came from a very good family and had great parents. My dad is gone but he would expect better of me.