BPD=Last Refuge of Femininity

[Bible_Belt]

Sosuave has the following generally accepted principles:

#1 - Feminism has destroyed the idea of the traditional female gender role.

#2 - BPD women are evil.

#3 - Guys who pursue BPD women are incomprehensibly foolish.

All three points relate to each other. As the years pass, the world's women become more masculine all the time. But if you've ever known a BPD woman, they are not that way at all. They are the most feminine women I've ever known, which is why so many of them are escorts, strippers, and sex workers - they know how to make a man happy. If the other women in the world knew how to be women, then BPD girls would not be so popular.

I joke around with my bpd girl about gender roles, but there is truth in the jokes. I tell her I think it's hot when she's in the kitchen cooking my dinner. Instead of being insulted, she tells me that she thinks its hot that I think that's hot. She has also said that she was never meant to work and pay her own bills; that's the job of the man in her life. Feminists would scream.

So when we see so many guys on this web site or real life being attracted to a bpd woman - that's why. Modern women want to be men, and they have forgotten how to be women. BPD girls are the last feminine women left.

 

[ludis]

This reeks of self-serving sophistry.

Cherry picking a couple of attributes, does not make up for the fact that whatever it is they're doing with a man, does not reflect their own personality, simply because they have none. You're being blindsided.

Chameleon-like change of colors that fit the ones of the host is simply a survival mechanism amongst others.

I could go on and on but it isn't worth it.

You appraised her for something that should be treated as business-as-usual.

That's a chump move my friend.

And so are your weak rationalizations.

 

[Peaks&Valleys]

This reeks of self-serving sophistry.

Cherry picking a couple of attributes, does not make up for the fact that whatever it is they're doing with a man, does not reflect their own personality, simply because they have none. You're being blindsided.

Chameleon-like change of colors that fit the ones of the host is simply a survival mechanism amongst others.

I could go on and on but it isn't worth it.

You appraised her for something that should be treated as business-as-usual.

That's a chump move my friend.

And so are your weak rationalizations.

*facepalm*

The OP is explaining WHY men are attracted to, and fall for BPD women. It doesn't mean he's condoning marrying one.

You are right though ludis, they are a bunch of chameleons.

Good break down OP. "Know your enemy", Sun Tsu.

 

[Die Hard]

Yeah, BPD's are hyper-feminine and very attractive.



They're also emotional vampires who will destroy your soul before you know it...

 

[zekko]

Just curious: Has this girl you talk about actually been diagnosed with borderline personality disorder, or are you calling her that based on what SoSuave says?

 

[Paintballguy]

BPD women are very good at acting like being very feminine. They know what you want in a woman and they act out that role almost perfectly. IE, they will be sweet and caring and also fvck the **** out of you until they get you locked down. Then, the crazy comes out.

 

[Boilermaker]

Bait for another 17 page discussion where anything and everything stated must validate BB's current life-choices?

I am not interested.

 

[Boilermaker]

Just curious: Has this girl you talk about actually been diagnosed with borderline personality disorder, or are you calling her that based on what SoSuave says?

Very good point. Everyone in sosuave has been with a BPD at least once.

If she broke your little heart, she must have BPD.

Heartbreaker? BPD!

For real BPD prevalence :

http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/18426259

Also:

I have never seen our guys talk about BPD men but research shows men are just as likely to have BPD ... So if you have a guy friend who has BPD, chances are you would recognize this considering how eeevil they are right?

 

[speed dawg]

This reeks of self-serving sophistry.

Cherry picking a couple of attributes, does not make up for the fact that whatever it is they're doing with a man, does not reflect their own personality, simply because they have none. You're being blindsided.

Chameleon-like change of colors that fit the ones of the host is simply a survival mechanism amongst others.

I could go on and on but it isn't worth it.

You appraised her for something that should be treated as business-as-usual.

That's a chump move my friend.

And so are your weak rationalizations.

I'm with you. Bible Belt's sh*t is easy to snuff out these days.

 

[jjacob]

Feminine in the way they carry themselves, the way they dress, the submissive endearing gazes. However, within the contexts of an actual relationship they are truly too insecure to let go and allow their man to have anywhere close to enough power to potentially hurt them. They'd rather make repeated attempts at manipulating you into being submissive to them and risk driving you away rather than relaxing and truly being feminine.

That said, they are one hell of a lot of fun when things are good and are good practice for **** tests because they really never stop doing it. Takes one hell of a lot of game to actually tame one into good behavior - even then it's probably only temporary until you show a glimmer of a beta trait - then just sit back and watch her wheels turn as she hatches her next scheme to make you her doormat so she can move on and avoid being hurt by you.

 

[LiveFreeX]

If the other women in the world knew how to be women, then BPD girls would not be so popular.

Other women in 'the world' do know how to be women. I would agree with you and say that BPD's are the last bastion of western femininity. That is truely a scary thing.

My wife spends her time cooking, creating new meals and cleaning up the house. She wears a dress 90% of the time and high heels, she is quite the prude though and tends to wear shorts underneath her dress (doesn't want other men seeing her goods). She was a virgin when I met her and cannot fathom slvtting it up. Doesn't particularly like western women not to mention thinks most of the fat ones are grotesque. So yes I agree feminism has destroyed the west completely. There are still plenty of 3rd world women who were raised in supporting roles to cook, clean and take care of their grandparents/siblings. Put them in a little makeup with a bit of fashion and you have a 1, 2 punch to the feminist gut.

 

[SBW]

Mirroring and marked identity issues are key attributes for many BPDs - where they hook their victim into a relationship by presenting themselves as being exactly what the poor guys concerned thought they always wanted.

Which in some cases is the essence of perfect femminity and in others it could well be the exact opposite.

In the case of my one, by the time she had reverted to type and eventually I got wise to her, I learned that she had positioned at least four radically different self-images/personas to each of the guys who suffered through the major relationships in her life - so I think I can safely assume she probably had even more variations on the theme for the others she was less serious about?

And even now from the little contact/news I've had of her since, it looks like she has done it again for number five - completely reinvented herself as the "ideal woman" for her current victim.

 

[taiyuu_otoko]

BPD girls are the last feminine women left.

You forgot Mormon girls. Get yerself a whole harem if you got the dosh...

Some wholesome looking cuties, too. How hard can it be to fake Joseph Smith game?

 

[( . )( . )]

I don't agree with this at all. I've seen them mimic femininity but as for genuine feminine grace and submissiveness, no way. The only time I've seen true femininity come from a BPD chick is that calm period that lasts for about 5 to 10 minutes post orgasm when she's just a base model woman, peaceful, uncluttered and free of the angry hornets that otherwise take up residence in her fvcked up mind. You must be grasping if your trying to find femininity in these hot messes of mixed up sh!t.

I have never seen our guys talk about BPD men but research shows men are just as likely to have BPD .

BPD is more commonly diagnosed in woman than in men. In fact, about 75% of those diagnosed with BPD are women (edit: ^^mauser96 beat me to it).

So if you have a guy friend who has BPD, chances are you would recognize this considering how eeevil they are right?

It doesn't really apply though. Your not trying to bang him or spend long amounts of intimate time with him. Plus you won't go to jail for punching him in the snot box. Most men are also inherently aware of consequences.

 

[zekko]

BPD is more commonly diagnosed in woman than in men. In fact, about 75% of those diagnosed with BPD are women (edit: ^^mauser96 beat me to it).

BPD is closely associated with Antisocial Personality Disorder. Usually if the person is male, he gets the APD tag, and if the person is female she gets the BPD tag.

BPDs are also more likely to harm themselves. Women are naturally more passive, so a lot of their aggression ends up directed at themselves. In fact, self harm is one of the most common traits of Borderline Personality Disorder. I'm surprised I don't hear more stories about this here, since there are so many BPD tales on SoSuave.

 

[speed dawg]

I'm surprised I don't hear more stories about this here, since there are so many BPD tales on SoSuave.

Because 90% of the BPD cases on here aren't really BPD. It's just that the posters are extremely AFC, so they get treated like sh*t. Thus the rationalizing for their fragile egos and the creation of an evil BPD.

ALL women will treat weak men like dirt. It's even more of a blood bath when they woman has low self-esteem/BPD/etc.

 

[Die Hard]

Sure, PairPlus... You just say that coz you're AFC and rationalizing for your fragile ego

 

[Die Hard]

Double post

 

[Peaks&Valleys]

BPD is closely associated with Antisocial Personality Disorder. Usually if the person is male, he gets the APD tag, and if the person is female she gets the BPD tag.

BPDs are also more likely to harm themselves. Women are naturally more passive, so a lot of their aggression ends up directed at themselves. In fact, self harm is one of the most common traits of Borderline Personality Disorder. I'm surprised I don't hear more stories about this here, since there are so many BPD tales on SoSuave.

I could see that happening with an ugo BPD. She can't really harm too many men so she harms herself? Or once a once good looking BPD starts losing her looks. I'm not sure if I've heard of that. I never witnessed it.

I think BPD women are good at coming across as being passive....playing the role. But actually being passive? I wouldn't count on that. I'm sure there's quite a few of them in politics, perfect job for them to exude their power and control.

On a side note, are most BPD's hot? Or are those just the ones we hear about because those are the ones that affect us. The problem I had with a BPD woman is she was pretty good looking, an all around 7.5, or an 8 on good days. At the beginning I wasn't wholly invested in her....she really wasn't the type I was normally attracted to. It wasn't until she started pulling her BPD succubus games, that stirred up my emotions and somehow increased my attraction and my "need" to be around her. BPD's are some of the best game players around....100% sociopaths. In the end your emotions mean nothing, just as long as you're at her beck and call.

Like another poster mentioned, I hadn't heard about BPD until I got on here. I just thought I had brought out her craziness. I've been told I'm an "enabler" for craziness before haha....and it didn't work out only because I couldn't handle her.

But the $hit she did was almost exactly like the links of articles and information I've attained from this site. I educated a friend of mine about BPD, now we sit around drinking beers and telling our BPD stories....it's actually pretty fun....and hilarious.

As unhealthy as it may be, I'd like another round with her. Not a relationship, hell fvck no, but a meeting, a run in. Just see what happens. Now my guns are loaded with inside info on how a BPD operates, I'd like to see what the outcome would be. It's like un-finalized business....that my ego needs to resolve.

 

[expos]

As unhealthy as it may be, I'd like another round with her. Not a relationship, hell fvck no, but a meeting, a run in. Just see what happens. Now my guns are loaded with inside info on how a BPD operates, I'd like to see what the outcome would be. It's like un-finalized business....that my ego needs to resolve.

Exactly. Do you notice that you never go back to your duller ex-partners? You probably forgot what they even looked like. They never challenged you.

We are just as guilty going after "bad girls" as girls are guilty for going after "bad guys".

This is why BPD's develop so many obsessive ex-partners. F*ck, me included. They come on so strong, engage you so quick, and devalue so fast. And man, are they hot. Why?

The come quick, leave quicker, and your head is spinning and as you sit and try to figure out what they are doing and thinking. By the time you figure them out, they are already f*cking someone else, which leads to all sorts of jealously, crazy thinking, and depression. Never trust a b*tch with an obsessive ex...odds are you'll be that guy in 6-8 months!

This is why you should never play the BPD game. It's not that you can't destroy them emotionally (it's very possible), it's just that they bounce right back and move on to their next victim with such ease. People with normal, healthy coping skills aren't able to do this...and be glad that you can't. The greatest minds out there are the people who have incredible amounts of emotional depth.

The only way to beat a BPD? Move on and never allow them to take any part of your soul.