In my recent struggle to detach from my BPD girlfriend of almost a year, I am wondering if anyone else has noticed the following characteristics in someone of whom they were with. Granted, I do realize these characteristics are not exclusive to BPDs/Cluster Bs and that everyone has their quirks about them. But when you add these to all the mainstream traits of the personality disordered, it is rather thought provoking. Most of these seem to do with seeking attention.
Has trouble holding eye contact for too long. Would very often look up at me while talking or looking at me. Made me somewhat self-conscious as I thought my hair was messed up or something.
Complains of physical maladies all the time. She's tired, back hurts, stomach hurts, etc. I noticed that most of the time this happens is when things are good between us - almost as if she is seeking validation that I care for her current state of being. But has also told me people have told her that she whines a lot. Shocker.
Yawns excessively. AND when doing so does it very loudly in melodramatic fashion, also as if to draw attention to herself.
Often talks in Third Person. Is this a way of dissociation? I've never known anyone to talk in Third Person and I have been around a while.
Lack of facial expressions.
Admits to having ADHD, which is often paired with BPD.
Calls me by first name and first and last name when angry or upset. Does this with her kids too. Ironically, I feel as though she treats me like a child in her scolding/punishing ways.
Any input and personal experiences similar to this is appreciated.
Has trouble holding eye contact for too long. Would very often look up at me while talking or looking at me. Made me somewhat self-conscious as I thought my hair was messed up or something.
Complains of physical maladies all the time. She's tired, back hurts, stomach hurts, etc. I noticed that most of the time this happens is when things are good between us - almost as if she is seeking validation that I care for her current state of being. But has also told me people have told her that she whines a lot. Shocker.
Yawns excessively. AND when doing so does it very loudly in melodramatic fashion, also as if to draw attention to herself.
Often talks in Third Person. Is this a way of dissociation? I've never known anyone to talk in Third Person and I have been around a while.
Lack of facial expressions.
Admits to having ADHD, which is often paired with BPD.
Calls me by first name and first and last name when angry or upset. Does this with her kids too. Ironically, I feel as though she treats me like a child in her scolding/punishing ways.
Any input and personal experiences similar to this is appreciated.
