If she tells you about her BF when you ask for her number, next her. If she tells you about her BF within a few days of meeting you, next her. If she's into you in either siutation she will chase you. Don't chase her.
The problem is girls with BFs can waste a DJs valuable time. I wasted 2 and a half months and had oneitis over a girl with a BF. She strung me along. The farthest I got with her was second base. She's back with the BF. Basically she went out with me long enough to figure out if she wanted the BF or me. I made AFC mistakes that screwed me over in the end, but I think if I had not made those mistakes and had been a DJ I could have got her.
This girl was not 100% happy with her BF and wanted to see if I was better. My advice to you is ask the girl on a date, and show her a good time. When she starts showing a high IL you MUST pull away, act as if she is not your only option (even better if you don't NEED to act).
I increased this girls IL to over 80% by being funny, confident and UNAVAILBLE. She'd leave messages for me to call her and I'd get back to her 8 hours later or even the next day. She left these messages EVERY DAY. She'd use any excuse to call me. Sometimes she'd leave a message, call me TWICE the same day and not get hold of me.
If I felt her IL level decreasing, I would just not call her AT ALL until she called me. If she asked me favours that required too much, I turned her down. She asked me if we could go to a club together on a friday night, two days before I asked her if we could go with ALL MY FRIENDS the saturday night for some girls birthday. This pissed her off cos' she knew she wasn't that important to me which made her WANT ME MORE. I also "accidentally" let her read my text messages, she found out I was going on a date THAT NIGHT. Needless to say, I got a lot of action that weekend
. She kept LJBF me, but we kept making out within a few days of that happening (she plays games).
Remember she has a BF, so don't feel guilty about messing with her head. You have to intesify techniques here, especially if the BF means something to her.
Don't call her every day.
Don't always return her calls.
Don't always accept her plans.
Don't insult her BF or mention him in convo.
Don't be too available.
Don't accept "just be friends" (she wants to have time to compare her BF to you).
Do ensure you have other options.
Do keep yourself busy.
Do create a good first impression.
Do use kino and C & F.
Do SUBTELY let her know you have other options.
You date her about two or three times, but make sure she REALLY enjoys herself (I was lucky - me and this girl had real chemistry). Make sure you flirt and use C & F and KINO HER! She MUST be able to think of you sexually (this girl was having dreams of f__king me within a week of meeting me). Then you start playing your games. (Follow the advice above). Be a DJ. Follow the DJ principles.
Where did I go wrong?
For the first 2-3 weeks I played the game brilliantly, but then:
- I became too available.
- I talk on the phone too often and too long.
- If she once tried to LJBF me after we made out, I got pissed off (a sign of weakness). I recovered slightly, but naturally she will ALWAYS remember this.
- She started to realise how I HAD NO OTHER OPTIONS.
- I got pissed off with her ONCE MORE, for a stupid reason. (Her BF and her were getting to me). This was the last straw and I got LJBFed for good.
- I was no longer a mystery to her. (Thanks to the long phone convos)
- Sometimes I got too nervous around her, mainly cos' I was a virgin and she was not (VERY BAD).
Basically I VIOLATED all the DJ princples because she became my oneitis. Then your game goes to sh*t. If you show her a good time and take her out once in a while, she will start chasing you. Remain a challenge and a msytery is important. You have to resist the inner AFC.
Good luck!
Santos
