Bored of it all

[WhitePimp]

Maybe some of the older guys here can give me a hand with this, I'm kind of at a strange crossroads.

I find any kind of dating BORING nowadays. From calling the girl up, to arranging a stupid activity, to pretending like I actually give a sh!t when I just want to bang her, etc. I am only 25 and I honestly am just completely bored with the entire dating thing. I was actually thinking about bringing girls on "fake" crimes as dates and pretending I was this sleazy criminal just to make it more exciting for myself, and possibly her.

I just don't know where to go from here. I feel like I should be meeting girls since I'm still in my prime, but the interest just isn't there. Coincidentally, I've been bluntly honest with girls because of this and it's really upped my attractiveness because I am an aloof, confident sack of balls who isn't afraid of saying what he thinks.

Advice? I'm actually kind of excited at the thought of pretending to be a criminal. It's like being an actor on each date - I get to create a totally unique persona. Yeah, it's psycho as hell but could be fun.

 

[Warrior74]

I don't know where you date on the ratings scale but maybe going after hotter girls, or high society girls might make it more exciting. Shoot for the richest single chic in town just for fun. Try a challenge.

 

[Jitterbug]

You're not at any cross road.

Any hobby that you do too much of will burn you out after a while. Taking a break and doing something else will help.

 

[jophil28]

If you want a challenge, take a trip to a foreign country and try gaming in another language!

Take a trip "down under" - and bring your NJ accent wit choo...:wave:

Look who greeted this guy down here when he stepped off the plane ... ( he's from Hoboken I believe )

www.jeremymitchell.net/Australia_files/image048.jpg

 

[mrRuckus]

You guys are excited by the chase? I'm not and never have been. My favorite girls have ALWAYS been the ones where it was easy and just happened. She'd persue me or i'd ask her to hang out and she kept saying yes without any dumb crap.

I really don't put more value you on the girl who is "hard to get." Fvck that. If one chick is calling me and the other takes 3 hours to reply to a text then I'm heading out with the girl calling me and don't think about the other one. I guess i'm just lazy, but i'm not goign to drive 20 miles for pizza when some pretty good pizza is 5 miles away. No pizza is that exciting.

 

[jophil28]

You guys are excited by the chase? I'm not and never have been. My favorite girls have ALWAYS been the ones where it was easy and just happened. She'd persue me or i'd ask her to hang out and she kept saying yes without any dumb crap.

I really don't put more value you on the girl who is "hard to get." Fvck that. If one chick is calling me and the other takes 3 hours to reply to a text then I'm heading out with the girl calling me and don't think about the other one. I guess i'm just lazy, but i'm not goign to drive 20 miles for pizza when some pretty good pizza is 5 miles away. No pizza is that exciting.

THis ^^

If it is easy it usually works much better and smoother.

The "chase" is highly overvalued. That is HER game- contrived and manufactured by women to control men.

I have better rewards to "chase" than some "hard to get" overrated, overused pvssy.

 

[The Inside Man]

Coincidentally, I've been bluntly honest with girls because of this and it's really upped my attractiveness

Use this to score with hotter/ better quality women than you have before. I have noticed I've had the same kind of attitude since being back in my old college town, with a lot more attention from the girls than last time I was here ( and 30lbs lighter now with definition). This is how it's supposed to be... carefree and fun. I realize more and more how much of a mental game this is, how you can psych yourself out. And that girls are often very interested but they won't let on until you prove you have the confidence to walk up and talk to them.

Also, no masturbation. That will give you your drive back.. Might want to work out a few times a week if you aren't already. I'm the same age as you and I think it's pretty normal. We have enough life experience at this point to not be super infatuated over a coffee date. And that's a good thing IMO.

 

[High Voltage]

I have the same "problem".

In my case, it's that I want the pvssy, not the girl. This means that I don't really care about her and find dealing with her overwhelmingly boring, if not mind-numbingly tedious. I can't remember the last time I met a girl who was actually interesting.

Right now, masturbation works just fine. When I get tired of that I'll start gaming girls again.

 

[Dust 2 Dust]

I'm pretty much in the same boat. I've pretty much lost all interest in the modern American dating scene.

I find the whole dating scene to be a boring chore especially when all I want is to get laid.

 

[Solomon]

I can relate

I can relate and I'm only a year older then you, I think for me it was a combo of things

First was burning my self out on this seduction shyt (it will happen when you approach nearly two thousand women in two years, and going out 160+ times)

I started noticing when I talked to women I was just going through the motions and wasn't genuine they could pick up on this, hence I felt like a robot and my game actually got worse over time (I can tell you in all honesty I was much better at game in my first 6 months then I am now, when it's a novelty and you have the passion it's more exciting then just wanting to approach a woman cause you wanna drain your sack in her cooch)

Life has thrown me a lot of curve-balls this year, and I don't enjoy the game at all like I use too, even approaching women something I enjoyed, I don't care for anymore, when I go on dates, I get bored easily cause a lot of women aren't interesting and expect the man to "wow" and create a "spark" while they sit on their entitled ass's and not contribute nothing remotely interesting at all to the date.

I went on a date recently were the women told me flat out to "step my game up" because she wasn't feeling the "wow factor" only in America is a entitled woman arrogant enough to expect to be entertained then wonders why she is single

p.s. lol @ the criminal thing, when girls ask me what I do for a living i tell them I'm a "secret agent" if the girl is fun this can be a "Inside joke" and you can go of many treads with this, some free chick crack for ya.

 

[Mr.Positive]

Life has thrown me a lot of curve-balls this year, and I don't enjoy the game at all like I use too, even approaching women something I enjoyed, I don't care for anymore, when I go on dates, I get bored easily cause a lot of women aren't interesting and expect the man to "wow" and create a "spark" while they sit on their entitled ass's and not contribute nothing remotely interesting at all to the date.

I went on a date recently were the women told me flat out to "step my game up" because she wasn't feeling the "wow factor" only in America is a entitled woman arrogant enough to expect to be entertained then wonders why she is single.

Wow, I've never heard of a woman saying to "step my game up". I believe I'd just get up and leave right then and there.

I can relate to this part. I get extremely bored and disinterested as soon as I feel like I've got to entertain someone. I'm not here to amuse people, especially women. It takes too much energy and effort, that I could better focus elsewhere.

Now, when I meet a woman, I have a let it flow type of attitude. I just don't care what she thinks.

Imagine you are both kayaking down a river. The river is going to flow it's direction that it goes, it's about paddling your way with it. Not trying to paddle upstream to impress her. Guide the kayak down the river. If she's interested, she'll be onboard with you. You find out really quick as well, without wasting much time.

 

[SoldMySoul]

I can relate to this part. I get extremely bored and disinterested as soon as I feel like I've got to entertain someone. I'm not here to amuse people, especially women. It takes too much energy and effort, that I could better focus elsewhere.

Now, when I meet a woman, I have a let it flow type of attitude. I just don't care what she thinks.

So in essence you are saying that YOU will not be the C.E.O of woman's entertainment? I completely agree with that! I am in that same mindset and if it does not flow, why bother or waste energy? Once you stop caring about things like that you become better off.

 

[The Inside Man]

This means that I don't really care about her and find dealing with her overwhelmingly boring, if not mind-numbingly tedious.

Lol.. this happened to me last week. Met a girl when I was out, some dancing and making out, and one week later have absolutely no interest. And pretty much told her that when I saw her again last night. There are girls out there who are interesting, but I think being smoking hot and interesting is what we're looking for..

 

[Mr.Positive]

So in essence you are saying that YOU will not be the C.E.O of woman's entertainment? I completely agree with that! I am in that same mindset and if it does not flow, why bother or waste energy? Once you stop caring about things like that you become better off.

Exactly, there's enough dancing bears out there putting on acts of entertainment for women, while the gals sit back and enjoy the attention.

Guys make so many life choices, fashion choices, and personality changes, just for the praise of women...it's pathetic. There's guys on this site yanking on their ****s to make them bigger, see the jelking thread...and we wonder why we have a pussified society?

I want nothing of it! Life is great once you just let all that **** go and feel the weight lift off of your shoulders.

Who gives a damn what other people think? It DOES NOT MATTER. Do what you do because it's what you do. My two bits.

 

[Demonicale]

Exactly, there's enough dancing bears out there putting on acts of entertainment for women, while the gals sit back and enjoy the attention.

Guys make so many life choices, fashion choices, and personality changes, just for the praise of women...it's pathetic. There's guys on this site yanking on their ****s to make them bigger, see the jelking thread...and we wonder why we have a pussified society?

I want nothing of it! Life is great once you just let all that **** go and feel the weight lift off of your shoulders.

Who gives a damn what other people think? It DOES NOT MATTER. Do what you do because it's what you do. My two bits.

NOW THIS SUMS IT ALL UP!, and this is what i'm doing from now on ... i'm sick of all the **** and it really bores me ... i even "act" nice because that's what i think they want ... when all i want is some *****!

 

[parrot84]

Advice? I'm actually kind of excited at the thought of pretending to be a criminal. It's like being an actor on each date - I get to create a totally unique persona. Yeah, it's psycho as hell but could be fun.

Life ain't like a radio, so you can rotate the knob and change it like you'd like it to be!

It's more like a trade-off... Give some away, get something else instead. So, maybe you should be a criminal! A real criminal. That may be fun!

As of pretending to be just one, instead of the real thing, how could that be fun when you're doing the same thing (i.e. screwing the same kind of *****es) and you know that you're a fake (pretending to be a criminal). It brings nothing new: no new kinds of *****es, no new experience because you're a fake criminal.

 

[squirrels]

Maybe some of the older guys here can give me a hand with this, I'm kind of at a strange crossroads.

I find any kind of dating BORING nowadays. From calling the girl up, to arranging a stupid activity, to pretending like I actually give a sh!t when I just want to bang her, etc. I am only 25 and I honestly am just completely bored with the entire dating thing. I was actually thinking about bringing girls on "fake" crimes as dates and pretending I was this sleazy criminal just to make it more exciting for myself, and possibly her.

I just don't know where to go from here. I feel like I should be meeting girls since I'm still in my prime, but the interest just isn't there. Coincidentally, I've been bluntly honest with girls because of this and it's really upped my attractiveness because I am an aloof, confident sack of balls who isn't afraid of saying what he thinks.

Advice? I'm actually kind of excited at the thought of pretending to be a criminal. It's like being an actor on each date - I get to create a totally unique persona. Yeah, it's psycho as hell but could be fun.

I don't know about the whole "pretend to be a criminal" thing, but I seriously know where you're coming from.

I guess it happened just as I was starting to really "get the hang of" the whole dating/fooling around thing. Even now, I'll flirt and play games but when it comes time to 'set the hook' and arrange a date, I'll always hesitate and back down from it.

Main reason being exactly what you said...women are boring. I mean, I don't HATE on them as much as I pretend to, but they bore the heck out of me. I've always been the kind of person who gets bored quickly. I need to be engaged or my mind just goes spinning off on life's great mysteries and I get in this bored/sullen mood. That's why I do the things I do...riding motorcycles, rock-climbing, etc...even something like chess or video games engages me. It's one of the reasons I have very few friends, because I honestly can't find many that I can have a DEEP conversation with.

Women...well most attractive women just aren't interested in anything worth talking about...and they SUCK at fun, engaging date activities, stuff like pool or bowling or mini-golf or go-karting. I always used to joke that you could tell a lot about a girl by how she plays air-hockey...and I've never found a girl that can play back at me. She'll always just tap the puck around and then look cute and confused when I whoop her arse.

That's what dating feels like to me...like playing air-hockey against a confused, passive 6-year-old who just wants a hug. I honestly get more stimulation out of sitting home and watching the damned History Channel.

Now I get 3-4 drinks in me...enough to dumb me down...and I relate better to women than I normally would. But too much and I start tripping and stuttering.

There was a time when sheer sex drive/testosterone in itself was enough to get me over all that and push through it to get a cute young thing in bed with me. Not any more...the sex drive has tapered off at 31 it seems, and although it's still there, it seems largely situational. I can't summon it at will to power through a boring date.

All I do now is flirt with my friends' girlfriends, honestly. They're around because my buddies drag them everywhere, so I just "practice" on them, treat them casual and bust on them, and they eat it up to the point where they're trying to have "secret conversations" with me. They're not even that good-looking, they're just convenient because I don't have to "set up dates" with them. They just want to hang out and have a good time.

I've asked them before to hook me up with single friends...they don't HAVE any. Every girl they know is either married, pseudo-married (shacked up with some dude), or in "it's complicated" territory. I had a buddy's girl say she wanted to set me up with her sister...but then she's already got a "boyfriend who's a loser". I don't even feel like messing with that. Seriously...if she has a loser for a boyfriend, what does that say about HER? What "high-value" woman has a loser for a boyfriend? Is that someone I want to associate with??

I'll tell you...the "dating game" seems more and more laughable every day...and I know...I KNOW I could get back into it if I could summon the initiative to put more than a half-arsed effort into it.

Meanwhile, this ugly loser friend I have in New Jersey is banging a new cutie every weekend. Dude seriously looks like a troll and has an "I hate life" attitude. Why do these women fall for him? Because he has nothing better to do than chase them down and he puts in the work that I find absolutely abhorrent.

Like anything else in life...losing weight, making money, etc...it's all a matter of how bad you want it, and whether you're willing to endure the SH*T that comes with it to get there. If the juice isn't worth the squeeze, you won't squeeze.

I honestly don't know if there's anything wrong with that approach. Depends on how much p***y means to you. And I daresay it means too much to most men in this day and age.

 

[SoldMySoul]

I've asked them before to hook me up with single friends...they don't HAVE any. Every girl they know is either married, pseudo-married (shacked up with some dude), or in "it's complicated" territory. I had a buddy's girl say she wanted to set me up with her sister...but then she's already got a "boyfriend who's a loser". I don't even feel like messing with that. Seriously...if she has a loser for a boyfriend, what does that say about HER? What "high-value" woman has a loser for a boyfriend? Is that someone I want to associate with??

I total feel what you are saying about asking do they have any friends. Like a complete waste of time!!! I guess when I was younger most of the time I could network like that. Now, like you pointed out.

This thread is why I took a break! The whole getting to know you routine Bores the $hit out of me most of the time. It is like a damn boring song that you hear over and over and over.

What most men and women have in common is equal to this: an outlet on the wall and a plug that goes in it. If you can find more than that you are doing extremely well.

 

[squirrels]

What most men and women have in common is equal to this: an outlet on the wall and a plug that goes in it. If you can find more than that you are doing extremely well.

Here's what bugs me more than anything...if you CAN'T find anything in common with a woman, she assumes it's YOUR fault. She doesn't have a damned thing interesting to talk about except shoes, her sh!tty co-workers, and gossip, yet it's YOUR fault if you're not fascinated by those things.

I guess we're all just "immature".

 

[DanelMadr]

I don't know about the whole "pretend to be a criminal" thing, but I seriously know where you're coming from.

I guess it happened just as I was starting to really "get the hang of" the whole dating/fooling around thing. Even now, I'll flirt and play games but when it comes time to 'set the hook' and arrange a date, I'll always hesitate and back down from it.

Main reason being exactly what you said...women are boring. I mean, I don't HATE on them as much as I pretend to, but they bore the heck out of me. I've always been the kind of person who gets bored quickly. I need to be engaged or my mind just goes spinning off on life's great mysteries and I get in this bored/sullen mood. That's why I do the things I do...riding motorcycles, rock-climbing, etc...even something like chess or video games engages me. It's one of the reasons I have very few friends, because I honestly can't find many that I can have a DEEP conversation with.

Women...well most attractive women just aren't interested in anything worth talking about...and they SUCK at fun, engaging date activities, stuff like pool or bowling or mini-golf or go-karting. I always used to joke that you could tell a lot about a girl by how she plays air-hockey...and I've never found a girl that can play back at me. She'll always just tap the puck around and then look cute and confused when I whoop her arse.

That's what dating feels like to me...like playing air-hockey against a confused, passive 6-year-old who just wants a hug. I honestly get more stimulation out of sitting home and watching the damned History Channel.

Now I get 3-4 drinks in me...enough to dumb me down...and I relate better to women than I normally would. But too much and I start tripping and stuttering.

There was a time when sheer sex drive/testosterone in itself was enough to get me over all that and push through it to get a cute young thing in bed with me. Not any more...the sex drive has tapered off at 31 it seems, and although it's still there, it seems largely situational. I can't summon it at will to power through a boring date.

All I do now is flirt with my friends' girlfriends, honestly. They're around because my buddies drag them everywhere, so I just "practice" on them, treat them casual and bust on them, and they eat it up to the point where they're trying to have "secret conversations" with me. They're not even that good-looking, they're just convenient because I don't have to "set up dates" with them. They just want to hang out and have a good time.

I've asked them before to hook me up with single friends...they don't HAVE any. Every girl they know is either married, pseudo-married (shacked up with some dude), or in "it's complicated" territory. I had a buddy's girl say she wanted to set me up with her sister...but then she's already got a "boyfriend who's a loser". I don't even feel like messing with that. Seriously...if she has a loser for a boyfriend, what does that say about HER? What "high-value" woman has a loser for a boyfriend? Is that someone I want to associate with??

I'll tell you...the "dating game" seems more and more laughable every day...and I know...I KNOW I could get back into it if I could summon the initiative to put more than a half-arsed effort into it.

Meanwhile, this ugly loser friend I have in New Jersey is banging a new cutie every weekend. Dude seriously looks like a troll and has an "I hate life" attitude. Why do these women fall for him? Because he has nothing better to do than chase them down and he puts in the work that I find absolutely abhorrent.

Like anything else in life...losing weight, making money, etc...it's all a matter of how bad you want it, and whether you're willing to endure the SH*T that comes with it to get there. If the juice isn't worth the squeeze, you won't squeeze.

I honestly don't know if there's anything wrong with that approach. Depends on how much p***y means to you. And I daresay it means too much to most men in this day and age.

F@ck. You nailed it.

Easily bored + being a little too lazy. That are my problems too. I also need constant income of brain food. Well, time to have some children or what? :]

For me the biggest problem is that even in my naive years I just knew in few seconds what the person sitting in front of me is made of.
And in most cases I just knew it had no future. Mainly because most of the girls were just takers, emotional wrecks and leeches sucking on others energy but of course trying to prove everyone they are strong and in control and hard to get.
No hate. I just laughed to myself: "Oh lucky you, another interesting date."

Well, f@ck it. I don't need a soulmate. i just need a decent woman who is not completely soft in the head and is willing to cooperate. No free rides on my ride.

Or I pack my things and head to Afghanistan. But guess what...it will be boring there too after a while I guess for I am cursed