Boot Camp Journal

[Walden]

Remedial Training Day 2

Yeh today went to **** in a big way.

Unfortunately I met a really good (female) friend of mine who said something along the lines of "wow you look like you've been in a serious accident".

Which means I really feel like I'm gonna have to bag this b/c game until I get the stitches out in a few weeks. I don't really know wether to continue after that or not cos in two weeks time I'll be pretty much back to AFC agaion I suspect.

 

[Oxide]

never give up. think about this. u wait and 2 weeks later u break your leg. now ur ****ed for even longer....

i had something simular, my lip was messed up bad, and i thought i woundt go out, after 2 weeks i realized im not gooa spend my summer inside and i started going out again and picking up chicks. if a chick likes you she should be able to look pass this.

 

[Microphone Fiend]

keep going Walden, do let it deteriorate your game. If there's a good story behind it you can open chicks with it if you catch them looking or something like that.

 

[Walden]

Remedial Training Day 3

Yeah f*** it you guys are right.
I decided to stay in the game , and keep up training.

Ddidn't get much by way of opportunities to practice weeks 1-3 today I made a late night trip to the supermarket , and started convo with one woman there.
A great topical opening line for the market is to put on a sheepish grin and ask if she's seen any sundried tomatoes , chick tonight gave me directions then started into a joke about how it's my cooking night and my flatmates are getting sick of oeuf sur le plat , yeah , you hadta be there.

 

[Walden]

Remedial Training Day 4

Spent today in the office so very few chances to DJ , (there's lots of cute women in my branch but if I hit on any of them my Warrant Officer will call me into her office and do extremely unpleasant things to me over her desk besides hitting on subordinates opens a huuuuge unprofessional can of worms).

So I went out to the supermarket and then to a cafe after work. Mediocre success , one approaach to a cute girl with one of those muppet backpack things.It was "the count" from sesame street , and I said "hey that's kinda cool he's the count right?" and she was like"the count?" , and I was "y'know they call him the count cos he loves to count things..." and she just didn't get it.

My friend told me I'd overthought , I shoulda just gone with "Nice muppet , wanna f***?"

I think I'm gonna get a lot out of week 4 , I really need to lift my game to the level where I can number close. I'm already able to approach in situations where I never thought it was possible , and I'm getting more comfortable with it by the day , and I think getting along of number closing will be the next plateau. I want to spend a few more days remedial training so I can get better at approaches. At the moment I do a lot of cruising around before I can get a situation where I'll approach , I really need to get to the stage where I can approach on even really poor situations. I feel like I'm givin maybe 60% comittment here , if I was givng 100% I'd be out there getting an approach out of every place I went to , cold approaching on the street or to groups, in short I could be playing much harder than I am.

On my way to town I saw an ex GF with a mate of mine. They were totally destined for each other and it's good they're together but I couldn't help but have an evil chuckle that I'd rolled on her first.

Maybe I need to set some kind of minimum , like 5 approaches per day for the rest of the week or something to force me to play to less perfect situations.

 

[A1SteakSauce]

"Nice Muppet, Wanna Fvck"

That is classic. When you can use that line successfully you are a DJ.

A1

 

[Walden]

Remedial Training Day 5

Went to my gym cardio-boxing class today , and totally coundn't move I dunno what the **** was going on.

I totally matrixed myself , for some reason imagined that I couldn't walk across the room and say "hi -phew- that was quite a class " or something equally inane to either of the the solid 8s in the class.

I don't know why I think it's clever to hide the fact that I rate some chick , I mean ideally I should be vibing like I'm the kinda guy who sees a chick he likes and goes to find out what size thong she's in.

I read Pook's (as per usual) brilliant bit in the bible about testosterone and for some reason was taking the game waaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaay too seriously.

I should approach women cos it's fun to DJ on cute women, but unfortuanately I was a bit too purpose focussed.
It's a game that can't be won , only played.

I have to go to a do at college tomorrow night with some women acquaintances, I haven't been able to hit on women in my circle lately but I really should get my mack on there.

 

[Walden]

remedial Training Day 6

Well stoked.

Went to the do at school , unsuccessfully number closed on one chick , successfully number closed on the other. Mainly I'm pleased cos I got myself to go for digits which I don't normally do.

BIg plan to crank up the operational tempo this weekend , will start into week 4 either tomorrow or saturday.
More to come.

 

[Walden]

Week 4 Day1

Went out with friends to a bar.

Number closed twice , a coupla cold walk ups, one number , one rejection.

Drank vodka.

Need a nap.

ZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZzzzzzzzzzzzzzz

 

[Walden]

week4 day2

Calling the tally at 2 , 8 to go.

Spent the day helping my dad shift house , but went on a date with the girl whose number I got the other day. Went well , strong belief in comedy as a first date.

Let her pay for her meal and show ticket , but I paid for the drinks at the improv and deserts after the show.

Goodnight kiss on the first date, which is generally where I like to finish the first one, just went in confidently after walking her to her car, a polite mouth kiss rather than a full on snog.

And , had a really enjoyable evening.

 

[Walden]

week 4 day 3

Went to town today to practice my walk ups. 4 cold walk-ups all with really positive responses but for some reason I was still a little too nervous to close/ follow up very well.

A disappointing performance but a massive improvement on where I started the program in that (A) I'da never have dreamed of busting cold approaches like this before and (B) I've started to kinda enjoy it (kinda).

So the tally's still at 2 (unless something particularly unlikely happens when I go out to buy cereal and a fresh tin of boot polish) but I'm well pleased with the day's training.

 

[carbani]

Great thread! Keep it rolling!

 

[Walden]

Week 4 Day 4

Spent today at work , and am gonna have to spend tonight working on my standup routine (I have a show on wednesday night, and I'm too new at this club to just phone it in). Also I have a date for the show on weds, for friday night and (I suspect) for thursday night as well. (Hey this DJ s*** is working ).

This is unfortunate in a way, I think week 4 is really where the rubber hits the road as far as my training goes.

One of my key goals was to be able to walkup on a cold approach and get things to the level where I'm comfortable number closing. I think I'm close to that.
With that in mind I'm gonna give myself until the end of next week to work on week 4 , it's gonna be a long week (apologies to any of you who thought this was going to take 8 weeks) but I think I'm motivated enough not to need the time pressure (which you really need in weeks 1-3 ).

So the tally remains 2 down 8 to go, but stand by.

 

[Da-OnlyX]

Damn Walden, talk about determination.

Good luck n keep it up.

 

[Walden]

Week 4 Day 5

Tonight I went to the gym, and thought nothing of busting walk ups on 3 women. However I didn't feel comfortable number closing on any of them.That is to say I knew I hadn't got on enough rapport with them to successfully close.

This is a problem cos starting convos with women is a start but that's about it , cold convo that goes nowhere still doesn't get me girls. This is great , my problem used to be that I couldn't even meet women

The thing is with developing rapport , I think that what I need to do is (quoting some SS stuff here) give the grl a 'good feeling' ie make her laugh or compliment her or otherwise make her feel good. Then I need to get her talking about something she likes to talk about (ie,say it with me "herself") and be an interested listener.

Then I go for the venue change or number close.

Yep that pesky # close tally is still only on 2.

 

[isotope]

i understand what you mean... most convos go normally, nothing special.. .dont feel right to ask for a number really, you are still strangers.

only idea is maybe try to do CF a little more. SOmethign that gets her smiling, happy, laughing, or otherwise makes her like you MORE than the average conversation. Then number closing would not be akward. But im still not quite at your stage, just thinking out loud.

 

[Walden]

Week 4 Days 6,7, and 8

For the record the computer at my house thinks Sosuave is a porn site and won't let me access it (I'm on a military server).
But the update for the past coupla days is as follows. Have been working mostly and haven't had much practice. Took Kelly (a number close from a few weeks back) ona second date to see my gig at the comedy club. Unfortunately for me my opening gag sucked ass (I loved it but go figure) so my set was a bit mediocre. Date went great and we are about to go for a walk (her idea) this afternoon.

Incidentally I have three dates this weekend, so maybe I really am learning something.

Hung out in a bar last night , lotsa successful (and fun!) walkups there (a few in the last coupla days actually) C&F all good , one unsuccessful number close. Am not quite at the level of "anyone anywhere anytime" but am getting closer.

Uni starts again on monday (this is saturday afternoon) so will have lotsa time to practice, will stay at week 4 until end of the week and I expect to learn a lot.

Tally is 3 down 7 to go.

Yeh I'm definitely thinking on your wavelength Isotope , will share what I learn next week.

 

[Walden]

Week 4 Day9

Went out to an independant theatre last night.
Saw 3 opportunities for walk ups and didn't take any.

 

[drixsa]

sounds to me like you are still afraid of rejection...

have yo got to the point where you've had to get 10 girls to reject you?

that was awsome, yet hard

 

[Walden]

Week4 Day 10

Damnit you're right DX!

This morning I bust two walkups (one failed number close) both of which were single women , stationary , with context (SWSc).

My fat-a** grandmother could start a walkup on that.

If I'm gonna beat my approach phobia I hafta start hitting harder targets.

Also I know I coulda turned around the negative number close , (bible talks about reflexive rejections) but I forgot to go past the rejections (!).

4 down 6 to go.

Gotta try some more the hard way. I have (like, once) managed grouped women , stationaries in context (GWSc) and even a moving single woman with no context before (MSWnc). It's just a matter of doing it until I'm as comfortable there as I am with SWSc's.

Sorry about the jargonising here but I want to catlogue the type of walkups I'm working on cos at the moment I'm getting one type and not the others.

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Yeh I have a long time between classes today.

Saw one solid 8 in a short skirt (SWSnc). She stopped to read a nticeboard so I said "Hi , are you studying here?" (duh) and asked directions to the jazz conservatory. My next move shoulda been to thank her and then (suddenly realising that I am in fact talking to a cute woman) make conversation by asking her about her course/ distinctive necklance/ semen stained blouse.

But I didnt' (dad gum it)

Then I saw another 8 sitting outside at a table (SWSnc) and rocked up and sat next to her, this time conscious of the crap odds. "Unfortuately" she was stoked to have someone to talk to , and gave me a tamarillo (it was at this point I noticed the fat rock on her ring finger).