Bookstore Approach

[BobbyJ]

I just stopped by the bookstore after work today to peruse through the Neil Strauss book. I'll buy it eventually when I get paid. Anyways, as I was heading out, I passed a cute girl looking at some audio books.

As I passed her by, I said, "Oh, you're one of those lazy readers?"

Her: Haha, no, the book I need is only available in audiobook here.

Me: What book is it?

Her: I can't remember the name of it, but it's a self-help book.

Me: Is it one on improving your memory?

Her: Haha, no. It's a self-help book that my boss wanted me to read.

Me: If I were you, I'd be worried about my job security if my boss told me to read a self-help book.

Her: I'm not worried, I got plenty of job security.

Me: Yeah, janitorial jobs tend to have lots of job security.

Her: Haha.


Unfortunately, she was married and I'm not into dating married chicks. But it was fun.


BobbyJ

 

[DinoCassanova]

Well, good practice at cold-approaching if nothing else, right? Incidentally, how could you tell she was married? I assume you noticed a ring, and during that quick exchange you were clearly able to tell it was a wedding ring?

Mild constructive criticism: Where were you going w/that "janitorial" job thing? Seems like kind of , I don't know, rather a bit of a harsh neg, or it seems like it just came out of left field in the conversation you were relating. If anything, this is just my view, what I would have done to keep the conversation rolling would have been asked what she does for a living when it got to that point. Even if she was / is married, she was still talking to you rather openly it sounds like, so she seemed receptive. You might have been able to take that one a bit further.

~Dino

 

[SELF-MASTERY]

If she weren't married, I would follow the janitorial joke with this:

you: (your janitorial joke thing)

HER: laughs

you: no serious where do you work?

or

you: (your janitorial joke thing)

her: laughs

you: (take and feel her hands) you don't have janitors hands, what do you really do for a living???

That's just my personality--- Might not work for you.

I think you made a good approach.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Originally posted by BobbyJ
Unfortunately, she was married and I'm not into dating married chicks. But it was fun.


BobbyJ

And this is why I still consider this a successful approach; you had a good time regardless the outcome.

 

[Inc. ©]

I was laughing reading that stuff you said....you'll be successful, keep at it!

 

[dirtysouth]

You're self-help book crack about her job security was good. The janitor comment, well, I didn't understand.

But who cares, you still talked up a hottie in a bookstore. Points for that!

 

[BobbyJ]

The Janitor response.

When she started mentioning her job and her job security, she was making it seem like she had a very good job. There was this real confident and happy tone to her voice as she mentioned her job.

So I was under the impression that she had a great job with great job security. And janitor was the first job that I thought of that a lot of people really don't want to do, and so there's a lot of job security. I know that janitorial jobs aren't considered the greatest jobs, and I was pretty sure that she wasn't a janitor.

Also, I was just talking to an old buddy from school and he was telling me that he was getting a new, better job. I didn't ask what it was, I just jokingly said that he was going to be a janitor and he started laughing. The janitor comment is kind of random, but it's all in the delivery.


I live in a college town and some girls (& guys) don't know what they want to do for a living. And in the event that the girls are older than me or the girls I normally date, I'll joke that they should become one of those Walmart Greeters.

Another fun line to use when I meet girls around where I live is to guess their major in school. If they seem to have a ditzy/fun personality I'll usually name off one of the more intellectual/nerdy majors like Math or Molecular Biology and if they seem like a hardworking brainiac, I'll just ask them which beauty school they go to. And we usually have a laugh at that.

I like doing this because in most college towns, the first questions people ask are "What are you studying" or "What's your major?" So it adds some pizzaz.


BobbyJ

 

[crossboss]

Bobbyj

Hey, you seem to be pretty funny. Do you think you could put a post on how to be funny? Just do a search, "Building Blocks of Being Funny" Post there. Hope to hear some your input.