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Bombed on first meetup - advice?

itishe

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Met up with girl I sort of knew from highschool of facebook. exchanged numbers. From what I know she's inexperienced and has only been with one guy.

1st night to do something didn't go through but she asked if I wanted to do something else. I told her I didn't work the next morning so she should come over and hang out.

She did. I picked up a movie and picked her up and brought her over. I didn't realize my roommate had 2 friends over and were playing beer pong so that kind of threw a wrench in my plans. We played a couple rounds and I got some light kino in (back touches, high fives, etc.).

Shot a text to my friend to kind of clear the place out so I can isolate and escalate. He leaves but one of his friends stays and watches the movie with us. I sit close to her but I notice she keeps leaning forward and doesn't seem like she's relaxed.

I keep up some sporatic light conversation and tell her she can relax you know jokingly. After a bit she tells me she has to go take care of her dog and that I should stop drinking so I can give her a ride back to her place. I say ok, but my friend offers to give a ride so she does that. Few minutes later she gets up and leaves.

Shot her a text saying, "hey hope I didn't make you feel uncomfortable."

She replied saying, "Hey sorry about that. I just get really shy/nervous around new people. Don't take it personal."

I replied, "Nah it's cool. No worries have a safe trip back to school".


Did I come on too strong or was the interest just never there. I can't imagine a girl thinking that I'd invite her over to watch a movie with me alone wouldn't be sexually oriented.
 

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You should have taken her somewhere. The covck block friend of yours made her uncomfortable. You don't take a girl to your place right away (unless she's a sluvt you met at a club). You take her out, let her have fun. A way for a woman to fall in love with you is TIME. A way for her to take her pants off is COMFORT. I would be uncomfortable too, if some chicks roomate sat there staring at me while I was watching a movie with a girl I liked. Taker her out man. What's the matter with you? How is she suppose to be "sexually oriented" with your friend there? For all she knows, she might be attacked by you two. You need to make her feel comfortable.
 

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Yeah, I got some advice for ya.... are you ready for it????? Bottom line is simple. If she is extremely interested then you may very well get a second chance to make a first good impression. If you do get that chance remember the things in the first meet that were not so desirable.

If she is not very interested, then GAME OVER!!!! It happens. If you sense this, pick yourself up and move on like it does not phase you.
 

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itishe said:
Shot her a text saying, "hey hope I didn't make you feel uncomfortable."

She replied saying, "Hey sorry about that. I just get really shy/nervous around new people. Don't take it personal."

I replied, "Nah it's cool. No worries have a safe trip back to school".
Why did you make any mention of "feeling uncomfortable"? What conceivable purpose does that serve?

I'm not saying that it ruined you. It's just like....it doesn't need to be mentioned.

That was the only issue I had with the situation.

I don't know who this "friend" is who hangs out when you're obviously trying to hook up with a girl. But you need to piss in his beer next chance you get.

Did I come on too strong or was the interest just never there. I can't imagine a girl thinking that I'd invite her over to watch a movie with me alone wouldn't be sexually oriented.
Yeah I can't imagine a girl coming to your house to "watch movies" and not assuming a sexual move is gonna happen. Either she was bothered by the extra people being around or she's just a social r*tard, and can't pick up on a guy's signals (i.e. "come to my house and watch movies").

But no, you didn't come on too strong. Ain't like you were grabbing her boobs or anything.
 

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I think your friends, friend ****ed you. I would put him on the spot light and been like, hey 3rd wheel only room for two on this couch. or taken the movie into my room, if she was hot then he was def hatin
 

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Shoot a text/call to her in a week and keep it casual? Best step?
 

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got a lunch date set up for when she comes around next time.

thanks guys.
 
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