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When men date younger women (the most common age arrangement), the most common age difference range is 0-4 years. It doesn't matter how old the man is, this is what is likely to happen. This is why I have said many times on this forum that the typical 30s/40s man is a vagina beggar who ends up with some woman close to his own age. Small age gaps are very common for men 18-25. A young male who goes to college is likely to end up dating some girl on campus. There are plenty of 20 year old juniors dating 19 year old sophomores. Sometimes these relationships last many years and lead to a marriage, which may or may not end in divorce at some point. More of these relationships fail within 3-5 years of the man's graduation. Right now, the median man is 30 at his first marriage and the median woman is 28 at her first marriage. This is an indicator of small age gaps. This persists throughout life, but is more common in a man's 20s because men in their 20s don't really have the potential for big age.
Once a man turns 30, he has the option for some bigger age gaps, but the typical 30 something guy has a girlfriend/wife who is 0-4 years younger.
5-9 years becomes more impressive. A man is typically 30+ and successful when he's able to pull off this age gap, but there are 25-29 year old men who can get an age in this range. In order to get a girlfriend in a committed relationship 5-9 years older, a man needs some decent achievements in life. It's easier to get this age range from in-person approaching than on the swipe apps. Some women won't do their own swiping on men 5+ years older, but this is meaningless because you can appear in her swipe queue as a potential match. Female abundance is a real and challenging element on the apps. It's possible for a man to be 7 years older than a woman and have some impressive things going on, but he gets lost in the shuffle for any reason. Also, it might be possible that the woman has such abundance that she also has a man 3-4 years younger as an option that is quite similar in achievements than one 7 years older and she goes with that option. In general, I recommend men start all interactions in-person as compared to behind an electronic screen, but this becomes more important with 5+ year age gaps.
10+ gets more challenging than 5-9 years. While with 5-9 years, men and women can still be in somewhat similar life stages. At 10+ years, a man is at least half a generation older than a woman and they start to want different things. A 45 year old man dating a 30 year old woman can be a challenge in the longer term. A 30 year old woman will most likely want to start a family if she's childless at that point, whereas her 45 year old boyfriend is far less excited about adding new children. Money/status becomes a bigger part of the interaction in these 10+ year age gaps, though looks are still important.
When men date younger women (the most common age arrangement), the most common age difference range is 0-4 years. It doesn't matter how old the man is, this is what is likely to happen. This is why I have said many times on this forum that the typical 30s/40s man is a vagina beggar who ends up with some woman close to his own age. Small age gaps are very common for men 18-25. A young male who goes to college is likely to end up dating some girl on campus. There are plenty of 20 year old juniors dating 19 year old sophomores. Sometimes these relationships last many years and lead to a marriage, which may or may not end in divorce at some point. More of these relationships fail within 3-5 years of the man's graduation. Right now, the median man is 30 at his first marriage and the median woman is 28 at her first marriage. This is an indicator of small age gaps. This persists throughout life, but is more common in a man's 20s because men in their 20s don't really have the potential for big age.
Once a man turns 30, he has the option for some bigger age gaps, but the typical 30 something guy has a girlfriend/wife who is 0-4 years younger.
5-9 years becomes more impressive. A man is typically 30+ and successful when he's able to pull off this age gap, but there are 25-29 year old men who can get an age in this range. In order to get a girlfriend in a committed relationship 5-9 years older, a man needs some decent achievements in life. It's easier to get this age range from in-person approaching than on the swipe apps. Some women won't do their own swiping on men 5+ years older, but this is meaningless because you can appear in her swipe queue as a potential match. Female abundance is a real and challenging element on the apps. It's possible for a man to be 7 years older than a woman and have some impressive things going on, but he gets lost in the shuffle for any reason. Also, it might be possible that the woman has such abundance that she also has a man 3-4 years younger as an option that is quite similar in achievements than one 7 years older and she goes with that option. In general, I recommend men start all interactions in-person as compared to behind an electronic screen, but this becomes more important with 5+ year age gaps.
10+ gets more challenging than 5-9 years. While with 5-9 years, men and women can still be in somewhat similar life stages. At 10+ years, a man is at least half a generation older than a woman and they start to want different things. A 45 year old man dating a 30 year old woman can be a challenge in the longer term. A 30 year old woman will most likely want to start a family if she's childless at that point, whereas her 45 year old boyfriend is far less excited about adding new children. Money/status becomes a bigger part of the interaction in these 10+ year age gaps, though looks are still important.
