Biggest age difference you have attracted and bedded repeatedly?

Biggest age difference with a woman younger than you?

  • 1-3 years

    Votes: 3 4.5%
  • 4 years

    Votes: 4 6.1%
  • 5-9 years

    Votes: 14 21.2%
  • 10-14 years

    Votes: 27 40.9%
  • 15-19 years

    Votes: 8 12.1%
  • 20-24 years

    Votes: 5 7.6%
  • 25-29 years

    Votes: 2 3.0%
  • 30 years plus

    Votes: 3 4.5%

  • Total voters
    66

SW15

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The members participating in this thread have had some solid achievements.

When men date younger women (the most common age arrangement), the most common age difference range is 0-4 years. It doesn't matter how old the man is, this is what is likely to happen. This is why I have said many times on this forum that the typical 30s/40s man is a vagina beggar who ends up with some woman close to his own age. Small age gaps are very common for men 18-25. A young male who goes to college is likely to end up dating some girl on campus. There are plenty of 20 year old juniors dating 19 year old sophomores. Sometimes these relationships last many years and lead to a marriage, which may or may not end in divorce at some point. More of these relationships fail within 3-5 years of the man's graduation. Right now, the median man is 30 at his first marriage and the median woman is 28 at her first marriage. This is an indicator of small age gaps. This persists throughout life, but is more common in a man's 20s because men in their 20s don't really have the potential for big age.

Once a man turns 30, he has the option for some bigger age gaps, but the typical 30 something guy has a girlfriend/wife who is 0-4 years younger.

5-9 years becomes more impressive. A man is typically 30+ and successful when he's able to pull off this age gap, but there are 25-29 year old men who can get an age in this range. In order to get a girlfriend in a committed relationship 5-9 years older, a man needs some decent achievements in life. It's easier to get this age range from in-person approaching than on the swipe apps. Some women won't do their own swiping on men 5+ years older, but this is meaningless because you can appear in her swipe queue as a potential match. Female abundance is a real and challenging element on the apps. It's possible for a man to be 7 years older than a woman and have some impressive things going on, but he gets lost in the shuffle for any reason. Also, it might be possible that the woman has such abundance that she also has a man 3-4 years younger as an option that is quite similar in achievements than one 7 years older and she goes with that option. In general, I recommend men start all interactions in-person as compared to behind an electronic screen, but this becomes more important with 5+ year age gaps.

10+ gets more challenging than 5-9 years. While with 5-9 years, men and women can still be in somewhat similar life stages. At 10+ years, a man is at least half a generation older than a woman and they start to want different things. A 45 year old man dating a 30 year old woman can be a challenge in the longer term. A 30 year old woman will most likely want to start a family if she's childless at that point, whereas her 45 year old boyfriend is far less excited about adding new children. Money/status becomes a bigger part of the interaction in these 10+ year age gaps, though looks are still important.
 

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One of my lovers was 30 years younger than me when we met.
 

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I prefer the ratio - was once 39 with a 19 year old. And I knew a 54 year old with a 16 year old. :eek: :eek: :eek:
 

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I am 37 nearly 38 and I am pulling in the mid 20s and have gone as low as 19, but that was when I was 33.
Interested in hearing more about your look/style for this. My sister's friends are all 12 years younger than me and every time I hung out with them, all were giving me looks. From when they were 17, and I was 29, even up to now when they're 23 and I'm 35.

I've always been under the impression that for mid 30s to pull much younger you have to be basically at the apex.. which is what I'm shooting for.
 

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Current wife, was 24 and me 35 when we met

I shagged a 42 year old woman when I was 23.

im pretty sure one drug addled night when I was about 22 I banged an escort who was late 40s.

banged a ton of women in my late teens but all similar age.
 

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All my girlfriends after my late 20s have always been around 10 yrs younger than me.

Even in my early 20s I was mostly dealing with late teenage girls.

I'm not capable of being attracted from older women or even women my own age.

Right now in my late 30s I would rather bang an average 20yrs old girl than a hottie in her 30s.
 

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Last year I was 44 and was hooking up with a 21 year old regularly for a month. She was crazy in bed but also just plain crazy.

Boy did she not like being let down by a guy my age lol. And she was a solid 8.5
 

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I'm 47 years old.

My ex of 9 months was age 24

Kinda depends on how old you look.

I look around 35, so it's not impossible to get a 25 year old.

I banged an 18 year around 1 year ago lol
 

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I dated a 45 year old as a 22 year old, she gave me like 10k a month in "walk around money" consistently until I chose to leave after she cheated, did so to maintain respect and I retained her respect to this day, not that it matters since I'm not dating a woman in her late 50s
 

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Married up until I was nearly 50, so all the larger age gaps have been in the years since my divorce
Biggest age gap was an overnighter at my place with a woman of 29 when I was 54. (25yrs)
There were also a few ONS/Weekenders in their mid-late 30s around the same time period.
Biggest gap with a 'regular' was a 42yo when I was 56... lasted about 5/6 months.(14yrs gap)

I'm regularly told I look mid-40s though... so mid 30s to mid 40s isn't that difficult for me.

Voted 10-14 for the regular.
Im 28 and have stomach pangs when I think about my 30s. I feel like I already missed the ball. I know this delusion bc im attempting a perfect life. But tell me, being in ur 50s, is sex enjoyable and fun? Are u confident or do u still suffer from the same level of intensity when it comes to fear and insecurity? Also tell me my old friend, how is ur attitude in general in terms of optimism regarding the future? I already suffer from a cynicism that makes the future look bleak like staring at a rotten piece of cake with maggots with no other food in the fridge. When I was in my early 20s, god the excitement with which id get up in the morning, now all of that seems like a golden era already gone into the abyss of time...
 

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At 40 my main plate is 20
How did u pull it off? Are u well off? Sometimes i feel like having ur **** together in the west and having the car/clothes/crib combo is attractive in a fantasy type of way for women...
 

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@SpartanWarrior77

She works at a place I frequent.
She always greeted me kindly and enthusiastically.
I mind myself, doing what I’m there to do and leave.

It took months to have our first conversation because I’m not going out of my way to chase.

Our first conversation happened organically where she told me she hadn’t seen me in weeks and how funny how she was thinking of me and now I’m here

Got her phone number right then and there.
Set up a date and fast forward she is my plate.

This entire time she made an assessment of me.

This is what women do.
They listen to the words that come out of your mouth and they will observe your behavior.

Yes they will look at external factors like what resources you have but if you are not happy with yourself and the life you have built then why would they want to come join you
 

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@Macadellic yeah man, I like that. It sounds like the perfect seduction. Simple, smooth and slow. Is she just a plate or do u see more of a connection developing? Hows her maturity?
 
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