Simply get on with life & upgrade everything. Living well is the best revenge, although I’ve done a few less than ideal things myself from time to time.
Funniest thing was a recent control freak ex who was running my character down starting rumors that I had slept with various men who were friends or acquaintances that I was never involved with. So one night I left with a friend of his that I had always (for years) thought was vey sexy. Saw him several times & it was quite illicit, and quite sexy. It got back to my ex very quickly and suddenly the rumor became that I was a tiger in bed. All press is good press right? The rumors my ex had started all fell off, and my status as intriguing went way up. The ex STILL stalks me. People stare. It’s hilarious because I know people report sighting me and my associates to him...Whatever you do & whoever you are...you have to own it. To unabashedly own who you are has immense power.
Oh and I subsequently upgraded to a better man in every way and better life & etc. I explained to him that I am a bit of a pariah for the short term. He said “How fun. I’ll start rumors that we are in love & moving in together soon. It will be hysterical...”. In fact my guy is flying in tonight & Im headed to dinner with an amazing group of friends. Life is good.
Live well and make no apologies. No fvcks given.
Cheers Gents