pyros
Master Don Juan
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So I have this good friend of mine who is 31. He started to study Telecomunications but after a few years he started to abandon his studies progressively, and started to work part time jobs like waiter, masseur...
The thing is that since his studies started to go bad he's become less and less active, and he's been loosing motivation to do anything that takes some effort/time to achieve. For example, he never wanted to get a driving license so he cannot drive. I recommended to him many many times that instead of working as a waiter etc, he should continue his degree but he never listened.
He went to study abroad for a year but he didn't pass any subject because he was partying too much, so it was a wasted year, and after he returned he became lazy as hell.
He used to be kind of fit cause he went to the gym, but he also quit this and now he's 10 kg fatter than four years ago. He used to do some kayaking but of course he quit this as well. Because he was ACTIVE and looked ok he also banged a couple of girls, but never got a gf.
Nowadays, he's 31, kind of chubby, balder, unemployed, uneducated, lives with his mother, doesn't have sex with any girl, and... doesn't want to DO ANYTHING ABOUT THIS.
I've tried many many times to reason with him, to give her options and ideas, but he finds everything either stupid, boring, or too difficult.
The only thing he does is being at home and going for a drink on the weekends. This has been going on for three or four years now. He has had a couple of part time jobs during this time which gave him enough money to 'survive', but he got these jobs because one of his friends was the boss, not because he actually looked for a job, no way, I think he's never really, actively, looked for a job.
Around one year ago I gave up on him cause he doesn't listen to me, his mother, or another good friend of his. He has a bad relationship with his mother since many years ago.
I dont know if I could help him in any way. He is totally PASSIVE. I think he has some mental issue/trauma.
The thing is after he came back from "studying" abroad he became lazy, passive and more stupid in my opinion because he doesn't listen to anyone that gives advise to him.
Up until he was 24/25 he was "normal".
Ideas? Thoughts?
The thing is that since his studies started to go bad he's become less and less active, and he's been loosing motivation to do anything that takes some effort/time to achieve. For example, he never wanted to get a driving license so he cannot drive. I recommended to him many many times that instead of working as a waiter etc, he should continue his degree but he never listened.
He went to study abroad for a year but he didn't pass any subject because he was partying too much, so it was a wasted year, and after he returned he became lazy as hell.
He used to be kind of fit cause he went to the gym, but he also quit this and now he's 10 kg fatter than four years ago. He used to do some kayaking but of course he quit this as well. Because he was ACTIVE and looked ok he also banged a couple of girls, but never got a gf.
Nowadays, he's 31, kind of chubby, balder, unemployed, uneducated, lives with his mother, doesn't have sex with any girl, and... doesn't want to DO ANYTHING ABOUT THIS.
I've tried many many times to reason with him, to give her options and ideas, but he finds everything either stupid, boring, or too difficult.
The only thing he does is being at home and going for a drink on the weekends. This has been going on for three or four years now. He has had a couple of part time jobs during this time which gave him enough money to 'survive', but he got these jobs because one of his friends was the boss, not because he actually looked for a job, no way, I think he's never really, actively, looked for a job.
Around one year ago I gave up on him cause he doesn't listen to me, his mother, or another good friend of his. He has a bad relationship with his mother since many years ago.
I dont know if I could help him in any way. He is totally PASSIVE. I think he has some mental issue/trauma.
The thing is after he came back from "studying" abroad he became lazy, passive and more stupid in my opinion because he doesn't listen to anyone that gives advise to him.
Up until he was 24/25 he was "normal".
Ideas? Thoughts?
I'm 19 years old and my 'best friend' is 18 and named jack