Best Cities For Single Men

[jglide123]

I live in Winston-Salem, NC, and dating sucks here! Every women seems to be either married, or wants to be married soon. It's a conservative town with barely a night life to speak of, and it's very cliquey. People only associate with those they know from high school, college, work, etc....A single man's nightmare!

Which leads me to ask: what cities do you guys recommend single guys visit/move to? A place where there are statistically more single women than men, for example.

 

[nismo-4]

It's no different than Atlanta. Atlanta has a nightlife, but most women there will tell you they're taken unless they saw you get out of a Mercedes. The older women here are the worst.

I've also been to Huntersville, Statesville, Gastonia, and Cramerton, NC. All quite cliquey.

The only problem with trying to find out the best cities for single men is that so many read posts and articles like this, and they all flock there.

IMO, there's more men than women in the world.

 

[youngmack]

Nyc

 

[jglide123]

It's no different than Atlanta. Atlanta has a nightlife, but most women there will tell you they're taken unless they saw you get out of a Mercedes. The older women here are the worst.

I've also been to Huntersville, Statesville, Gastonia, and Cramerton, NC. All quite cliquey.

The only problem with trying to find out the best cities for single men is that so many read posts and articles like this, and they all flock there.

IMO, there's more men than women in the world.

Man, that's surprising to hear, as people in the South always rave about Atlanta. I always secretly doubted those stories people told me about how ATL is a single man's paradise. It all seemed too good to be true. Perhaps what I experience in NC is a microcosm of how it is everywhere, in general.

 

[bigneil]

Good cities for dating that I've lived:

Dallas TX.
Boston, MA.
Portsmouth, NH.
Tampa Bay, FL.
Spokane, WA.

 

[st_99]

not to get off topic but you could take an afc and put him in a city with 90% single women and he wouldn't get laid, put a DJ in the worst city for dating and he'd still find a way to get laid.

 

[jglide123]

not to get off topic but you could take an afc and put him in a city with 90% single women and he wouldn't get laid, put a DJ in the worst city for dating and he'd still find a way to get laid.

That's like saying that you can put Lebron James on a crappy NBA team, and because he's a fantastic player, he would take that team to the playoffs for a championship run. If that was the case, wouldn't he still be in Cleveland? No matter how good you are, you need to be in an environment conducive to success. Even the greats need help.

Also, this isn't solely about getting laid. It's about being in an environment conducive to the lifestyle that you want....

 

[st_99]

That's like saying that you can put Lebron James on a crappy NBA team, and because he's a fantastic player, he would take that team to the playoffs for a championship run. If that was the case, wouldn't he still be in Cleveland? No matter how good you are, you need to be in an environment conducive to success. Even the greats need help.

Also, this isn't solely about getting laid. It's about being in an environment conducive to the lifestyle that you want....

well, dating is a one on one thing, basketball is a team sport. My point basically is even the most lame cities in america are still 50% women. Maybe not in alaska

 

[jglide123]

well, dating is a one on one thing, basketball is a team sport. My point basically is even the most lame cities in america are still 50% women. Maybe not in alaska

Lol. I get your point.

My point is that while that is true, if you live in an area where a large number of that 50% of are either married, engaged, unattractive, or just un-dateable in some other way, you begin to look for greener pastures at some point....

Also, I think the basketball analogy is quite apt. While dating is one-on-one, men often meet women when they're around their friends. And if there's one thing that I've learned about dating, it's that knowing people, the right people, is a crucial part of the game in many cases. It's not necessary, but it makes things much easier. It really pays to be a part of the right team...

 

[floydb25]

**** yeah, man! It's like that down here, too, and I love it. Love the south. I'm in NC, too, and love how it is. You're probably better off going to the north. It's wild and crazy. They're more assertive, promiscuous, independent, etc. Hate it. Had to get away. I'm just glad its like this all over down here. From what I've experienced - the north is where you go to be single; the south is if you want to settle down. Sure, people get married up north, but its still like being single and dating. No one cares about values and ****.

But, if you're a good looking guy, you have an advantage no matter where you go. Looks matter everywhere. You don't have to be part of a group - women approach you regardless. But, its better down here, because they're already nice, so they become SUPER nice if they like you. It's southern hospitality x 20. People up north are rude and snobby. If they like you, they only pretend to be nice until the infatuation wears off. But its good if you're into the single, party, status lifestyle. I prefer boring and nice. Mmmm... Peace. Realness.

I HATED women before I came down here. But they're so unbelievably nice, friendly, welcoming, generous, etc. Even the way they flirt is nice, but they do not approach like they do up north. They're far more conservative, shy, and reserved, like you say. They're passive aggressive. It's weird and different, but I love it. All the girls are REALLY nice to me. They dont try to belittle or neg you, and destroy your self-esteem. They're happy and kind. They compliment you and do nice things if they like you. What a thought! I'm changing my views since coming down here. Just wish I was born here. Definitely fit in much better. You would probably be better off in the north. Some people do like it, and by what you say, it sounds up your alley.

The only thing is, I don't really fit in down here. I'm so used to the careless, selfish, independent, "I'm better than you", rude behaviors from the north. I fit in with all the *******s. But down here, everyone is nice except for me. Lohol. Got some retraining to do.

Northern *****es ---- :nono:

 

[Trump]

No matter how good you are, you need to be in an environment conducive to success. Even the greats need help.

Also, this isn't solely about getting laid. It's about being in an environment conducive to the lifestyle that you want....

Does this mean you have to keep moving and changing cities until women respond to you accordingly?

 

[Buddha_Mind]

Seattle, WA -- So many hot young eco-babes!!!! Oh man I'm going there to visit in a month, I may never come back!

 

[Solomon]

That's like saying that you can put Lebron James on a crappy NBA team, and because he's a fantastic player, he would take that team to the playoffs for a championship run. If that was the case, wouldn't he still be in Cleveland? No matter how good you are, you need to be in an environment conducive to success. Even the greats need help.

Also, this isn't solely about getting laid. It's about being in an environment conducive to the lifestyle that you want....

Actually when Lebron was playing for cleveland they made it too the finals, and had the best record in the NBA two years in a row, and he was MVP one of those years

Just saying

p.s co-sign st99, one of my buddies lived in south dakota, and he got laid like a boss

 

[PlayerUntilDeath]

It depends on the lifestyle you want to live at this time. For many years I lived in a small population town (thus everyone who was mostly older folks would talk about the personal lives of other people in town or church or the weather), it was a boring (the gas station would be the most happening night spot) conservative town with the focus on schools (where most of the non-farm jobs were), marriage (something I'm not going to do because it is not part of my core value of freedom and it's not my desired lifestyle), and families, and there was probably more cows than younger women and many of the women looked like cows.

Then, when I went to a medium population city (around 200,000), there was more places to go to meet women, more women dressed sexier that turn me on that I actually desire to approach and invite to meet (at places this area has) more so than the women who looked/dressed like cows.

Personally, I don't want to live in a huge city (for more than visiting or temporary employment). Also, I can't stand tiny towns where there is nothing to do for younger people and where there is tons of gossip and less privacy and where it's all about church/schools/marriage/family/and cows. Therefore, I like medium population cities where in about 20 minutes or less I can drive to places where there is more younger/attractive women to "Game (Approach, Talk to, Invite to meet again, Meet somewhere, and then Escalate physically to give her an opportunity to do more together)."

I have been to North Carolina before (I checked out RTP and it was too much of a boring suburb for me). If you were going to continue to live in NC for now then I probably would go to Charlotte (although I've heard it is also very conservative with much religion/churches and for a metro a slower pace, but that could be a start plus there's an airport to travel more). If someone looks in the "northern half of the U.S." then go in the winter when it's freezing cold and there is lots of snow (I'm used to it and am fine with it and like living where there's snow) because many people complain about it so it's something to consider.

Visit a bunch of different cities to see if you would like living there for a while (even after you move there you can always move again somewhere else) and to see if there is "work" there, and if you find "employment" there doing something you like doing, then go there and meet girls and have fun.

 

[bigneil]

not to get off topic but you could take an afc and put him in a city with 90% single women and he wouldn't get laid, put a DJ in the worst city for dating and he'd still find a way to get laid.

How many cities have you lived in? People want to imagine they could take their show on the road, but most people could never survive without 7 college buddies to hang out with in their home town. Try moving 3000 miles by yourself and see how long it takes to actually have a girlfriend (not a date).

I've lived in about 15 cities, visiting about 50, and it's like night and day.

In Boston it took 3 months to find a girlfriend.
In Spokane it took 1 month to find a girlfriend.
In Orlando it took me nearly 2 years to find a girlfriend.
In Tampa it took 2 hours to find a date (vacationing).
In Dallas it took 2 hours to find a girlfriend.
In Cleveland it took 2 hours to find a girlfriend.
In West Palm Beach (area) it took 7 months to find a girfriend.
In San Antonio it took 6 days to find a girlfriend.

If one area is 60% men and another area is 40% men, that's 50% more women in the one city versus the other. Plus there are different age demographics. If your'e 35 in a college town you won't be as happy as you would be at 25.

 

[Buddha_Mind]

It depends on the lifestyle you want to live at this time. For many years I lived in a small population town (thus everyone who was mostly older folks would talk about the personal lives of other people in town or church or the weather), it was a boring (the gas station would be the most happening night spot) conservative town with the focus on schools (where most of the non-farm jobs were), marriage (something I'm not going to do because it is not part of my core value of freedom and it's not my desired lifestyle), and families, and there was probably more cows than younger women and many of the women looked like cows.

Dude, lol this sounds exactly like where I'm at ! Too small! Your last line in this paragraph gave me some good laughs!

 

[Gray The Prince]

How many cities have you lived in? People want to imagine they could take their show on the road, but most people could never survive without 7 college buddies to hang out with in their home town. Try moving 3000 miles by yourself and see how long it takes to actually have a girlfriend (not a date).

I've lived in about 15 cities, visiting about 50, and it's like night and day.

In Boston it took 3 months to find a girlfriend.
In Spokane it took 1 month to find a girlfriend.
In Orlando it took me nearly 2 years to find a girlfriend.
In Tampa it took 2 hours to find a date (vacationing).
In Dallas it took 2 hours to find a girlfriend.
In Cleveland it took 2 hours to find a girlfriend.
In West Palm Beach (area) it took 7 months to find a girfriend.
In San Antonio it took 6 days to find a girlfriend.

If one area is 60% men and another area is 40% men, that's 50% more women in the one city versus the other. Plus there are different age demographics. If your'e 35 in a college town you won't be as happy as you would be at 25.

Translation: I had to find the best strip club in town.

 

[J Roc]

It's no different than Atlanta. Atlanta has a nightlife, but most women there will tell you they're taken unless they saw you get out of a Mercedes. The older women here are the worst.

I've also been to Huntersville, Statesville, Gastonia, and Cramerton, NC. All quite cliquey.

The only problem with trying to find out the best cities for single men is that so many read posts and articles like this, and they all flock there.

IMO, there's more men than women in the world.

Thats not true. I'm bagging new chicks on the regular here in Atlanta without driving a nice car or living in a fly condo. On a regular week I can go to Compound or Reign and come up on 10+ phone numbers and have dates lines up for the next 3 weeks. Its very easy to come up on women in Atlanta.


PrettyBoyAJ and I hit up a bunch of clubs and we had no problem hooking up with chicks.

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showpost.php?p=1922493&postcount=37

 

[SSAD.MORGAN]

Minneapolis, MN. Girls are super approachable and down to bang

 

[Robert28]

Good cities for dating that I've lived:

Dallas TX.
Boston, MA.
Portsmouth, NH.
Tampa Bay, FL.
Spokane, WA.

hell yes to Boston! I went on a trip there for about a week and let me tell you, I couldn't NOT attract 9's and 10's in that city! I was eating breakfast in this diner one morning, waitress heard my southern accent and next thing I knew I was SURROUNDED by all of her BEAUTIFUL friends making small talk to me and asking me questions about the south and stuff. I went to several bars and I think the women could smell I was a southerner because I had girls come up to ME and start talking. it was as if I was a 10 in Boston. I had girls on the bus strike up convo's, girl offer to split a cab with me, girls come stand by me on the subway and start talking. it was a fvcking shame I had to go back home to the south, the land of the most stuckup uppity women in the world.