just so I can clear the air here, and you can see exactly where I am coming from, because I'm not trying to flame anyone, even if it came off as that, I am trying to prevent some of you young guys from going though some of the stuff I went tho ugh.. because the **** hurt and I would wish that **** upon no one... so I'm going to tell a story, a true story about me, becuase I have to go here in about an ho ur and I won't be back the rest of the day (i have 2 dates
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When I was 17.. about 6 years ago almost, I met this girl.. well I didn't MET her, I already knew her for the most part, but we weren't friends.
I was dating her Best Friend, and one day she asked could her friend tag along, and when I got in the car, I was like "damn, this is the finest girl I have ever seen".. she was so damn fine that I didn't even like my Gf at the time, and she was pretty cute.
So over the next month, maybe 2, she started calling me and paging me (remember, this was 6 years ago, cell phones were almost nonexistant, at least down here, for teenagers) looking for her friend, my GF at the time.. then she would just call to talk to me.
We became pretty cool, and as hot as I thought she was, I wasn't shallow enough to just drop my GF, who did nothing wrong and basically worshiped me, for this girl, I didn't even know her like that.
So one day, it happens.. we brake up (she started liking someone else, I didnt' necessary stop her from leaving.. I had bigger fish to fry if you catch my drift), I think that was a Thursday...
I worked with my GF or now Ex GF at the time, so I found it odd, or strange when her friend, the hot girl, asked me did I want to go "kick it" with her after I got off work.. I told her hey, my car was at home, which was right down the street but nevertheless, it was an inconvenience, and she said, don't worry, she would pick me up from work.
So she picks me up, to the astoshment of her Best Friend.
Even at this time, even though I wouldn't have mind ****ing the **** out of her, I never thought anything of it, at least yet, because I just broke up with her Best Friend 2 days earlier. However, she kept dropping hints that she was pretty damn interested, and we even kissed before we left each other.
Let me move forward, becuase I need to start getting dressed. Basically, I blew it, I became the biggest AFC on the face of the earth when I realized I actually had a chance.
That's what made it sooo damn hard for me to get rid of this girl, even though she LJBF'ed me, there was always some type of physical attraction on both ends.
What REALLLLLY made it hard for me to leave her alone was this.. this is what she would do.
I would say, and mean it.. "look babe, you know I wouldn't mind dating you, or at least getting to know you on that level enough to consider it, but if you don't like me or don't want to give it a shot, you are a cool cat, I don't mind hanging out with you still, i just need to know either way so I can move on"... I had to tell her that at least.. 5 times over the last 3-5 years.
and she would say of cousre, she wanted to be friends.. and granted she had a BF for 3 of thoose years.
But she would do this.. she would start increasing her calls... she would always stop by my house when she was in my neighborhood and we would watch TV or go grab a bite to eat or something, but everyonce in a while, she would be "around the corner" every damn day, and always seemed to have all this damn free time to spend with me, even with the BF.
She would start calling me at 1, 2 in the morning, asking me **** like what type of sexual positions i like and ****... Start making induendos about what I dan and can't do (one day I told her i had "company" when she called, and she told me " you can't have female company if it's not me")...
So I mean.... I've been around the block a few times, so I would make a move, one way or another.. and a few times she was even receptive of the move.. one time we french kissed in her car for a good 15 mintues.. when she still had a BF
One night she spent then ight at my house and we slept in the same bed, kissing the entire night.. and I told her right then, the only reason I'm not having sex or trying to is because you have a BF, and I won't be the reason you break up with him.
So after all of this.. it's like clockwork.. she comes back and "doesn't know where I get the idea that she likes me from" and "doesn't see me like that" and "always thinks of me as a friend"
And Like I would tell her.. Babe, i was cool with being friends, I really was.. hell by the time she contacted me again I was on in the dating world, I had other women to talk to, and when I would call her, it seriously would be as a 100% friend.. I mean, of course, she was still smokin hot, I didnt' call her with the intentions of ****ing her, that's how i know it can be done.. because I seriusly didn't ever call her with the intentions of ****ing her... she would bring it up, in one way or another,and I would make a move, she would make a move, I would make antoher one and she would put the breaks on.
It got to the extreme about last October.. we actually had cut though the bull**** and were semi/dating/****ing on a constant basis. She even asked me did I want to be in a serious relationship with her (she had long gone broken up with her Bf).. then one day, she does it again.
Mind you, she pracitally threw herself at me when we started getting back together (made a post about it a while ago)
So I said **** it, this girl isnt' worth it.
yes, about 80% of the time, if not more, we were very good friends and if it were up to me, in all honestly, I was gaming enough women that I not only didn' tneed her, I had matured enough to know that as hot as she was, she wasn't one for a LTR, at least at this point in her life, for me.. but she was a damn good lay though
My Ex, who used to live with me would come home sometimes and my friend and I would be sitting down watching TV and my ex wouldn't think anything of it.. i mean, she didn't like her, but at the same time she knew that there was nothing there.. she even told me "it's not you I'm worried about, it's that sneaky ***** that I don't like"
This isn't the only problem with female friends..
The problem is, is that as friendly as you are, even if it's your own intentions to be friends, which is the case sometimes, LIKE I SAID, IF THE POINT OF SEX HASN'T BEEN ADDRESSED, THERE WILL ALWAYS BE SEXUAL TENSION.
In other words, at some point of every male female friendship, the realtionship will turn into what it's supposed to be.. a male/female relatioship.. one person will at one point always develop some type of feelings for the other, because that's what males/females are wired to do