iamnobody said:
Thomson, so let me elaborate: the attributes on the left come from confidence, those on the right stem from insecurities. The difference is good inner game vs. poor inner game.
Confidence comes from insecurity. Those who have never known insecurity will never know confidence. It is like telling the blind that what they see is darkness. But they cannot see it. There is no way they can know what darkness is. They have never seen light. If I ask you whetever you know what insecurity is, you will know the answer because you have gone through it. Otherwise you wouldn't be able to tell what confidence is.
Confidence comes from insecurity. The same way aggressive comes from passive. And aggressive plus passive equals to assertive. If you have never know what being passive feels like, you will never know aggressiveness.
And then you divert uncaring and passive. That is wrong; it should be uncaring and caring, aggressive and passive. But if you mean caring by passive, then it is not insecurity. Neither is uncaring insecurity. You can only divide one thing and that's confidence and insecurity.
If the person is confident, no matter what he does comes from confident. Whetever he is aggressive, passive, assertive does not matter. What matter is whetever he knows or does not know. And it does not matter whetever an insecure one is caring or uncaring. Whatever he does, it comes from his insecurity.
You cannot divide a Don Juan. He is all. He is caring, yet uncaring. He is aggressive yet passive. He is dominat yet when the times comes he is submissive. He knows when it is better to act submissive. He is not against being submissive. When the right time is there he knows that he has to do this in order to be dominant later.
If you can divide a Don Juan, then he is not Don Juan at all. He is everything. You cannot say that he is this and he is no that. Then he will be simply in the same level as the divided one, the insecure one. If you give him half of the world, then the other half belongs to the other. They will be at the same equal level. No you cannot divide a Don Juan.
The beta is insecure but he is on the turmoil of blowing up. He is like a volcano mountain ready to blow up any time. Give him a little push, encourage and he will be far more aggressive than you ever was. Have you seen how the newbies here turn into complete jerks from being nice? From being so nice, so insecure, he turned into complete jerk that has overconfident in himself he starts to hate everyone.
So only if you are insecure can you divide the 'alpha' and the 'beta'. A real Don Juan will never divide anything. He is confidence. And whatever he does comes from from confidence. He can be playful, giving, warm but it does not make him insecure. In fact he can be all of the right side of the list and he won't be insecure.
Sometimes he hates women. What is wrong with that? Sometimes he does not feel like spending time with any women. And sometimes he does not know when to quit. If he enjoys something so much he will not see the need to quit. Sometimes he is undecided and bored. If he decides to live a flowing life he will not be able to decide anything. Flowing means whatever happens, happens, one accepts it. And sometimes he is bored. Tell me one person who is never bored.
Life is all. There will be moments when you cannot be in control and there are moments when you can. One can only accept this fact. If you look closely you can see that neither a beta nor a alpha accepts this. Only a Don Juan does. Beta means that he is always losing, it seems like he does not even want to win; his goal is losing. And alpha means that he is always winning; it seems that he never accepts losing. And both will fail with frustration. Life is both: winning and losing. You get this and in that very moment you have already lost something.
When you come to me, I will take all your lives of struggle away. There has been enough struggle going on in your life. And enough is enough. I will be giving a deep insight into accepting life so that you won't need to ever be in a conflict again. And this is not jus for you; it is for everyone who reads this. When one arrives at nirvana or what they call the middle path, one simply drops out of the unconscious fight between opposites. The fight between good and bad will be dropped. When one arrives at enlightenment, whatever he does is good.
And when one has achieved this stage, he will be forever in bliss, in happiness because there will no more be anxiety, misery, fight and conflict in the innersoul.
Enough for now.
