Being a Man

[Analytic]

I think what Guru is meant to say that we all know the answers to our problems but yet we seek alternative ways to solve our problems rather then just grab our balls and face our fear. If you've been here long enough you don't need anymore tips from this site. Just go out there and learn from your mistake.

It doesn't mean all the advice on this site other then "just be a man" is useless though. People don't know how to be a man, that's why they are here.

 

[bigjohnson]

I dunno what he said - there's just way too much bold in that last bunch to bother with.

 

[bigjohnson]

I realize it's gonna be tough for a guy who can't grasp proper use of capitalization to understand. I don't hate you, after all you are with the other half of the population on the low side of that Gaussian curve.

 

[John-467]

guru......define this: WHAT IS A MAN?

From Pook to Oprah....from Dr. Phil to Larry King....everybody seems to have many DEFINITIONS of what a MAN is.

A WOMAN seems simple....it's a thing with breasts and a vagina.

A MAN must be something OTHER than just a regular male with a penis.

How can you say that a woman left a guy because he wasn't MAN enough? What is a man? Most times a woman will leave a guy for someone with no job, no goals, in and out of jail....THAT guy is a MAN?

If that's what a MAN is I'd rather trade my balls in and be something else.

When are YOU guru and a lot of the other guys on this forum going to come to the realization that women in America....AREN'T ATTRACTED TO MEN. They are attracted to POWER.

No....not POWERFUL MEN....but rather MEN they can manipulate. You think it's the other way around huh?

1.) Women dress sexy to SEDUCE YOU. You NEVER seduce women....women SEDUCE YOU! She uses it to get you in....and then uses "love" as the BOND to MANIUPULATE.

A MAN can't be manipulated. A woman CAN'T SEDUCE A MAN. A MAN DEMANDS A WOMAN TO HUMBLE HERSELF....most women in America WILL NOT TOLERATE THIS.

Wake up.

 

[Interceptor]

http://www.askmen.com/money/mafioso_60/98_mafia.html

http://www.askmen.com/dating/curtsmith_150/184_dating_advice.html

 

[guru1000]

http://www.askmen.com/money/mafioso_60/98_mafia.html

http://www.askmen.com/dating/curtsmith_150/184_dating_advice.html

Seems like Mr. Mafioso and myself are in agreement of what a man is.

 

[Interceptor]

You see how deep down how much we have in common?

And why it's important, at least here in the MM section, we try to be diplomatic and really listen to other's opinions, and respect their right to express it, and believe it..even if it's different than our own.


The more I participate here in the MM section, the more I realize how much of a brotherhood we really have in here.

Hey, read this, you Brotherhood of the Dog:


http://www.dogbrothers.com/

 

[betterthandead]

this is absurd.

no way in hell you are a successful MAN and posting this drivel. this is the kind of stuff you'd expect out of some 18 year old kid in the locker room before half time to try and pump the team up.

Usually guys who tell other guys what defines a real man typically has zero idea on what a masculine man should be. An associate of mines thinks me listening to 80s music is "girly" when he spends his time watching Professional Wrestling and Dressing in a fashion that makes him look like "Thug Rapstar"...F*cking Tool.

 

[-HPNOTIQ-]

I respect guru's ideas as well as joekrr's and anyone else's beliefs that are different than mine. We once needed to be told that the earth was round before someone had the B*LLS to face their fears of being outcasted and actually explored our so called 'flat earth'.

Personally, I see it more and more as I age. With age comes a certain comfort level. People do not want to change things that have worked for them. Nobody wants to change tried and true methods. So what eventually happens? We get complacent. We get lazy. We like our current success so much, that we forget there are more degrees of success out there. And sometimes, we ultimately get scared and fear these new things. Why? Because (and I admit this to whoever is reading this) we hate to admit that we have not actually acheived our full potential.

As we age, I can see how we can get comfortable in our tiny "SAFE" world. Our world is filled with warm and fuzzy feeling. It is free from the jagged edges of change, failure, planning, trying, and rejection. I understand what guru is saying because it does ring true. Sometimes we are scared to go back to school to finish that degree, ask for that raise, find a better partner, find a better job because we are flat out scared of change. We are scared of the result. We are scared of the rejection. We don't like the challenge something new brings because whether or not the change can help us, we are too busy being scared and psyching ourselves out of it. Whether it be the decision to ask that beautiful blonde that works at the coffee shop out for a drink, or the decision to ask the boss for a raise -- as we age, we get comfortable.

For some guys, that is fine. Some guys like the everyday, mundane routine that has been working for himself for years.

But I can agree to guru to a degree. I'd like some change in my life too. And the comfort of my current life has, admittingly, made my life stagnent the past few months.

Thank you for this post. I don't see it as pointless drivel, maybe its a swift kick in the n*ts some guys that aren't too proud to admit may need it.

 

[guru1000]

Double

 

[guru1000]

Interceptor, I agree with you. I am aggressive in my demeanor. But that is what truly makes me. I have 0% doubt in my convictions and I never question my actions. Sometimes I may be wrong but when I move , I do so with true conviction. When I am wrong, I fail and learn the right way next time around.

I respect everyone's input and listen with an open ear. That goes without saying. I dont impose my thinking on others and respect those who respect me.

Some may say "O this post is so BARBARIC". What I say is you missed the point.

The point behind this post was to FIGHT YOUR INNER DEMONS. To minimize fear and move foward aggressively with your dreams. Many of us are here in this forum because we are missing something of SIGNIFICANCE in our lives. The chains that hold us back from action are our own deliberating limiting fears and beliefs. MEN are too proud to admit they have fear but we all do. Why is it we are motivated by the guy who defies all odds? It sends the message "Look what he overcame. He didn't let negative circumstances cripple him. He FOUGHT AND WON!"

WHAT IS A MAN? A Soldier of Life. A Fighter of Circumstance. A Liberator of Fear.

Why am i so aggresive? It breeds ACTION.

Personally I take a liking to a MAN who succeeds in life. He shows strength and character. But I find it ADMIRABLE for him to succeed despite extremely crippling circumstances.

So we are in a DJ forum. Most of us had a moment where we questioned ourselves due to a woman. This was the LIGHT! "Great minds believe everything happens for a reason"- Hill.

Go after your dreams! Fear only Inaction. Be the MAN who inspires you. Thrive on action, not results (Thrill of the hunt, not the kill).

So what is a MAN?

ACTION.

 

[Mr.Positive]

So what is a MAN?

ACTION.

I didn't read all of your posts on what is a man, especially the bold ones. To rephrase Rollo...Why do my eyes hurt? From trying to read Guru's all bold posts.

I do think you hit on something here though. Think for a moment, when our grandfathers were storming the beachs of Normandy, do you think they even thought for second that they were not men?

Not a f*cking chance.

We live in times where we think too much, and accomplish too little. We worry about clothes, stupid pickup lines to generate attraction, and sitting around questioning ourselves by asking "what makes a man?"

Basically what I'm saying is the more you sit around thinking about how to become a man, the less of a man you actually are.

If you think of it this way, you are a man by default, what you can do is become a better man by setting goals for yourself and achieving them.

The question, if you want to sit around and ponder it, should really be "what makes you, individually, a better man?"

It's not a competition with others, you should be competing with yourself.

 

[Mr.Positive]

A WOMAN seems simple....it's a thing with breasts and a vagina.

A MAN must be something OTHER than just a regular male with a penis.

It's posts like this that irritate me, and I think, send the wrong message.

I ask, why is it that women get to be women by default (perfect from the beginning of creation..the prize), yet we are not men unless we prove that we are men? We have to evolve into men, because at our very nature, as God (if you believe) defined us from the beginning, we are not men from the start??

Honestly, I don't feel like I have to prove I'm a man to anyone. I used to think that, but I realized it was feminist programming that made me think that way.

We're men...accept it. Even Guru..well maybe not Guru (Just kidding), but we're all men. Point is...there are good men, bad men, men that have not realized their full potential, whatever. But we're men. We should accept that, and focus on becoming the man that we want to be.

Focus on being the BEST man that we can each, as individuals, become.

 

[Mr.Positive]

Ok men, let's try a little self help exercise here.

Stop for a minute and think about the hottest woman you can image, your parents, your brothers/sisters, and what the h3ll, all of society...standing in front of you screaming at you.

They are screaming..."you are not a man unless you do this, you are not a man unless you wear this, you must be act like this.."

What? What do you hear? Yes, all different opinions of what you should do to become a man.

But I'm confused now you ask? what makes a man? I get soo many different responses..I just don't know what to do!

Do this...scream back. I am a man!! I am a man!!! I am a man damnit!!

Say this 1000 times if you have to. What happens? Wait..what am I feeling right now...oh that is the feeling of relief.

Relief by accepting the fact the you are a man. Wow..what a great feeling! Now what should I do? Now that I realize that I am a man, I'm free, but I'm still a little confused, what should I do?

The answer. What do you want to do? What would make you better in general? Do you need to exercise? There's a gym right around the corner, check it out!

Hey that mountain I see in the distance every morning while driving to work, I really want to climb that mountain. Hey, I need to learn how to mountain climb, I'm going to get started.

Ok...enough rant right now..