Quick Question.
I never really had a problem leading certain ppl. Sometimes it comes natural but other times you have to fight to get it. I've made a plan for the month of May and that was to become a Better leader. I sit at this lunch table with some real good friends. But the thing is I have a feeling that they don't think that I'm not a leader. It's like they don't respect me, they do it's just they don't see me as a leader. Like if I say something they might listen or just completely ignore it. If they do listen they might disagree with me for no reason. But if my brother says the exact same thing they might agree or just try to debate it out. But when I said it it's but RKC09 IS WRONG! I've been trying so hard to be the life of the party, to be the center of attention to be the leader. But its hard work.
Today, I was talking and I said "Man, thats a big dude. He should play football". Now I was just speaking my mind. Then one of the dudes at my table say (the joker, you'll know him soon enough) "Man just because he's big doesn't mean he should play football" Then I said that he might be a good blocker. Then another one of my friends said "that doesn't mean that he'll be a good blocker" Basically as you can see, there putting words in my month. I told them that I didn't say he HAS TO play I'm just saying THAT HE SHOULD play. I didn't say he IS a good blocker I said he MIGHT be a good blocker. Look at the words in bold and you'll see my point. It's like my opinions is wrong to them(not the table, just them).
Then from time to time they'll ignore my for no reason! Like today I said something to the table. They completely ignored me. Then my brother was the only one who listened. He started laughing. He said the exact same thing and they all laugh.......
. This doesn't happen all the time but it's still werid. Then if I'll be saying something that one guy (joker) would cut me off. And if I try to talk over him the table will tell me to be quiet down......... Idk, it just seems werid to me. It's not like they don't like me cause other times they actually listen but it's just seems like whatever I have to say isn't important to them. Like only 65% of the time they listen. I'M IMPORTANT AND THEY CAN'T SEE IT! Is there any advice I can use. Can you guys just give me some advice on how to be a LEADER at my lunch table.
BONUS QUESTION
(You don't have to answer this next question if you don't want to)
Then there's this guy who jokes on alot of ppl.......but about 50% of his jokes are funny. PPL make fun of him because his fat, ugly, and his jokes are lame!!!! I believe he has low self-esteem. But he always tell stupid jokes. He seriously thinks that he's funny. He's one of those type of ppl who has no confidence so he jokes on other ppl because other ppl jokes on him because he's fat, ugly, etc. and he feels that if he puts someone down then he'll feel better about himself.
He's funny sometimes and he's cool about 60% of the time but he truely is annoying.....he sits at my table. And he always brings up stuff from middle school about me. (I was always joke on at middle school) He always talks about this stuff that happen 100 years ago and I think that effects my image. I tried joking back but EVERY SINGLE JOKE IN HISTORY HAS ALREADY BEEN SAID ABOUT HIM. He actually gets joked on ALOT more than me. He's actually the only person who tries to joke on me. I want to bust him out. Basically I want to wait until he jokes on me again and then call him out on his low self-confidence. Something like "why are you so insecure?" But I want to do it in style. But if that won't work then is there anyway I can put this guy in his place 4 good?
I never really had a problem leading certain ppl. Sometimes it comes natural but other times you have to fight to get it. I've made a plan for the month of May and that was to become a Better leader. I sit at this lunch table with some real good friends. But the thing is I have a feeling that they don't think that I'm not a leader. It's like they don't respect me, they do it's just they don't see me as a leader. Like if I say something they might listen or just completely ignore it. If they do listen they might disagree with me for no reason. But if my brother says the exact same thing they might agree or just try to debate it out. But when I said it it's but RKC09 IS WRONG! I've been trying so hard to be the life of the party, to be the center of attention to be the leader. But its hard work.
Today, I was talking and I said "Man, thats a big dude. He should play football". Now I was just speaking my mind. Then one of the dudes at my table say (the joker, you'll know him soon enough) "Man just because he's big doesn't mean he should play football" Then I said that he might be a good blocker. Then another one of my friends said "that doesn't mean that he'll be a good blocker" Basically as you can see, there putting words in my month. I told them that I didn't say he HAS TO play I'm just saying THAT HE SHOULD play. I didn't say he IS a good blocker I said he MIGHT be a good blocker. Look at the words in bold and you'll see my point. It's like my opinions is wrong to them(not the table, just them).
Then from time to time they'll ignore my for no reason! Like today I said something to the table. They completely ignored me. Then my brother was the only one who listened. He started laughing. He said the exact same thing and they all laugh.......
. This doesn't happen all the time but it's still werid. Then if I'll be saying something that one guy (joker) would cut me off. And if I try to talk over him the table will tell me to be quiet down......... Idk, it just seems werid to me. It's not like they don't like me cause other times they actually listen but it's just seems like whatever I have to say isn't important to them. Like only 65% of the time they listen. I'M IMPORTANT AND THEY CAN'T SEE IT! Is there any advice I can use. Can you guys just give me some advice on how to be a LEADER at my lunch table.BONUS QUESTION
(You don't have to answer this next question if you don't want to)
Then there's this guy who jokes on alot of ppl.......but about 50% of his jokes are funny. PPL make fun of him because his fat, ugly, and his jokes are lame!!!! I believe he has low self-esteem. But he always tell stupid jokes. He seriously thinks that he's funny. He's one of those type of ppl who has no confidence so he jokes on other ppl because other ppl jokes on him because he's fat, ugly, etc. and he feels that if he puts someone down then he'll feel better about himself.
He's funny sometimes and he's cool about 60% of the time but he truely is annoying.....he sits at my table. And he always brings up stuff from middle school about me. (I was always joke on at middle school) He always talks about this stuff that happen 100 years ago and I think that effects my image. I tried joking back but EVERY SINGLE JOKE IN HISTORY HAS ALREADY BEEN SAID ABOUT HIM. He actually gets joked on ALOT more than me. He's actually the only person who tries to joke on me. I want to bust him out. Basically I want to wait until he jokes on me again and then call him out on his low self-confidence. Something like "why are you so insecure?" But I want to do it in style. But if that won't work then is there anyway I can put this guy in his place 4 good?