so i havent had a steady thing with a girl since high school and pretty much all the experiences ive had with girls since then has been negative in one way or another. sophomore in college, 20 in a month, i dont want time to pass me by. its easy to get trapped in your head for a while. there are a few girls i talk to at school, community college doesnt help, but im kind of worried id be a disapointment to a girl a hook up with, and thats a problem. i dont have much if any confidence in sex and that area, im not even sure id be able to kiss a girl right. anyone been in the same sort of situation?
been a long time since i had a girl
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You worry too much.
We all go through that my friend.
Before I ever kissed a girl I agonised over not knowing how to do it.
I lay awake at night stressing that I didn't know if I could give girls orgasms.
There was no way in the world I could imagine myself approaching a woman.
The fact is most guys NEVER learn
You are here. You are asking. You actually care.
This puts you in the top 5% or so of all men.
I've been watching my best mates 1 year old learning to walk in recent times. He's never done it before. At first he fell over everytime he tried. But he'd get back up time and time again. Sometimes he would hurt himself and cry. But he'd still get up and try. One day he took a few steps and we all cheered. He laughed happily and didn't cry when he fell. The next time he took more steps. The next time I visited he was walking. Now he runs.
You know you went through that too.
Girls are no different from learning to walk.
Sure its scary. Sure you fail. Sure you get hurt. But with somethings there is no other choice but to try and if you fail to get back up and try again.
JJ
Before I ever kissed a girl I agonised over not knowing how to do it.
I lay awake at night stressing that I didn't know if I could give girls orgasms.
There was no way in the world I could imagine myself approaching a woman.
The fact is most guys NEVER learn
You are here. You are asking. You actually care.
This puts you in the top 5% or so of all men.
I've been watching my best mates 1 year old learning to walk in recent times. He's never done it before. At first he fell over everytime he tried. But he'd get back up time and time again. Sometimes he would hurt himself and cry. But he'd still get up and try. One day he took a few steps and we all cheered. He laughed happily and didn't cry when he fell. The next time he took more steps. The next time I visited he was walking. Now he runs.
You know you went through that too.
Girls are no different from learning to walk.
Sure its scary. Sure you fail. Sure you get hurt. But with somethings there is no other choice but to try and if you fail to get back up and try again.
JJ
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Luke Skywalker said:
i concur. i am convinced that males are mostly idiots. honestly. don't you boys realize that girls are the ones who worry about this stuff. unless you are dealing with a tramp, it will be the girl who is going to be uptight about being with you. she will be so into not screwing things up that she will hardly notice what you are doing.
write this down....it isn't the kiss that matters. it is the time and place when/where the kiss goes down that counts. it isn't whether you slip her an overabundance of spit (which you surely will) that matters. damn, she can have your spit rolling down her chin. it doesn't matter. if you get the time and place right you are golden.
you can't f*** up romance by being a clutz. at least not in a girl's eyes.
It doesn't matter how good-looking you are, how romantic you are, how funny you are... or anything else. If she doesn't have something INVESTED in you and the relationship, preferably quite a LOT invested, she'll dump you, without even the slightest hesitation, as soon as someone a little more "interesting" comes along.
Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.
fertileTurtle
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Don't try to pick up women, just try to talk to them any way you can.
Don't be an aszhole, don't be a wimp. Smile and enjoy.
Don't be an aszhole, don't be a wimp. Smile and enjoy.
Abbott
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I'm older than you, but I've never had a relationship. It doesn't worry me, so why should it worry you?
Sometimes I have wondered about my situation; I'd be lying if I said otherwise. However, I'm not worried about the effect it'd have on my first relationship, when it happens.
Sometimes I have wondered about my situation; I'd be lying if I said otherwise. However, I'm not worried about the effect it'd have on my first relationship, when it happens.
dtrg said:
Try this. After a maybe 4 month "relationship," (the chick cheats on you after the first month), you go 7 years without a date. Add to that the ONLY chick who has been interested in that 7 years after is SO not good for you, or you for her.dtrg said:
Plenty of people who have it worse. Plenty of people who have it worse than I do. I do what I can not to worry. I work like crazy for my career, and I have a pretty decent social life. I have great friends.
As for kissing a girl, Don't let it out that you're inexperienced. That was a mistake I made. Of course, I think I was a fairly quick study
. Just don't grab her and ram your tongue down her throat the first time. Other than that, no worries. Now I'm a traditional guy. But if you feel like you absolutely HAVE to have sex before marriage, just realize that the first time for either one of you is ALWAYS going to be akward. But look at the potential for either one. And the fun you'll have practicing.