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Excellent post, disciple...but...
Could you format a little, say with bold, or italics? The impact WOULD BE HUGE, and I could actually read it, and highlight important points that you want to get across. Just a little bit of 'marketing' advice that enables the reader some relaxation on the items, as well as reinforces important concepts or words. Other than that, spot on.
In regards to confidence...it's only a word. To each person here, we have different ideas of confidence. Some might envision a politician, some a rapper, some might even envision an athlete, so to say "confidence" as some posters put it, is ambiguous.
There's 'steps' or 'thoughts' that open the mind up to confidence. One of them is by author Steve Scott. He presents the topic that all of the worlds richest and most elite players, realized they only possess a few key talents and sought out the rest of the 'team' necessary to complement their strengths.
What's this mean in the real world? That your ability to succeed hinges on your ability to work with people. Confidence in this instance would arise from the knowledge that you know yourself and can admit where you're shortcomings are. In life you need only organize the right players.
*The guys who devised Google, did so by hiring someone with business startup-experience. They designed Google as a search engine/program, but recruited the gentleman who would eventually help them build the company.
*Henry Ford had no knowledge of cars until he was offered the opportunity to work with a corporation. His talents were under utilized and he left to organize Ford Motor Corp. It wasn't his abilty to build a car, because he physically different, but to organize the whole of people that would encompass the company and his grand vision.
In life, the people with the most special knowledge are often the most protected and have the least ability to grow rapidly. Their entrenchment in one field means they lack cross-industry skills and are at the mercy of the economy. Consider a pilot, hence the union. Consider a teacher, hence the union. Wherever you see great protection, realize over-specialization has detracted from their marketability.
Confidence is derived by opening your mind to the concepts, players (as in major historical ones), and philosophies of the successful mentors before you, and using their past patterns. Our brains are merely a melding of programs downloaded through our 5 senses. Whatever our base beliefs are, governs the "frame" we wrap around things. Those who are supremely successful, in life, with women, and so forth, do so because they "see things right."
Confidence is NOT arrogance. Arrogance gets people killed. Confidence can save people, and make lives. Confidence is belief, and belief is derived from self affirmation (being your own best friend --the world beats us up enough, why do it for them?) and from experience. No amount of great success with women can change your thinking until you mentally "accept" yourself, and reaffirm your ability.
Until you're positive talking and positive programming yourself, no amount of motivation will thrust you off the couch of life and into the "big game." Many people we "perceive" to be confident have based such things on that which can be taken away:
*Money
*Cars
*Connections
*Looks
*Clothes
*Drugs
*Weapons
*Black-mail
*Favors
*Sex
Anything that can be acquired, can also be taken away.
This is why people waffle through life with a roll-coaster-type confidence level. It's ok to feel "up" or "down" but realize that ISN'T confidence, that's MOOD, and it's often based on WHAT YOU'RE THINKING ABOUT. Think about this...
When you're heading out at night with friends to club you've had no success meeting women at, are you honestly excited to go?
NO!
You're mental frames, which provide the emotional state you're in at that moment are based on bad experiences. However, if you bought a new outfit, and ran into a timely sum of money, you're a bit-uplifted. And when you get there, maybe a few more "receptive" women are there noticing your new attire and mojo, and BAM!
This has happened to me alot, and it's why people say "when you least expect it."
Read what disciple has said.
Use the metaphor he has supplised to empower you.
Many people get to 25, 30, and 35 and are upset that up to 50% of their lives are gone and don't know what it's not as they wanted it to be. Well, is it possible they never cared enough for their own "kingdom" to make it into what they want?
You're here for no one other than yourself. You're only mission in life is to design it as you want. If a woman doesn't buy into the "kingdom" you're building to rule over, she has blatantly stated she's not a worthy queen. As much as women are heralded as having an "ability" to see the "bigger picture, in my experience, that's pure BS. If that was true, then why, women being such emotional creatures, would they resort to outbursts over such trifling things, or even dump a guy who's going place in life for one that isn't?
They don't have that foresight, or there'd be more women in business, and more women aware of the potential power testosterone affords us men. That's more for another topic.
Thanks disciple for a great post. It went into my personal archive. Hopefully mine insert was a dovetail on to your's.
A-Unit
