Be the man in the Arena

[BackInTheGame78]

Be the man in the arena, both with women and in life. More men would do well to print this out and put it in a place where they could read it every day until it sinks in.

"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs, who comes short again and again, because there is no effort without error and shortcoming; but who does actually strive to do the deeds; who knows great enthusiasms, the great devotions; who spends himself in a worthy cause; who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who neither know victory nor defeat."

 

[BaronOfHair]

And if your surname is Crowe, that time in the areana will win you an Oscar, whereupon you'll witness your cultural relevance steadily decline down to 0 over the next decade

 

[jhonny9546]

Be the man in the arena, both with women and in life. More men would do well to print this out and put it in a place where they could read it every day until it sinks in.

"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs, who comes short again and again, because there is no effort without error and shortcoming; but who does actually strive to do the deeds; who knows great enthusiasms, the great devotions; who spends himself in a worthy cause; who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who neither know victory nor defeat."

This is really well written.
What do you think of this perspective when applied to the beta provider man in a long-term marriage?
He is indeed the man in the arena, but what is missing?

 

[Gamisch]

This is really well written.
What do you think of this perspective when applied to the beta provider man in a long-term marriage?
He is indeed the man in the arena, but what is missing?

He is the man of the hour but only in his own mind, while in reality he gets emasculated on a daily basis.

He can tell his colleagues and friends about his " wife" , but when he comes home he gets nothing but disdainful behavior from both his wife and his kids.

Especially if we're talking long term. LMS doesn't even matter anymore, as we see with even HVM who are good-looking and famous, day after day.