Baldness and Rejection

[NeedToImprove]

ok maybe i've met two ugly shallow fatties that dont like bald men in general, or just me in particular, or maybe that was just an excuse to reject me because they didnt think of something else atm, maybe i'm in bad luck i dunno. one thing i know is i do field work instead of being at home whining and complaining. but even then that just doesnt work. as about working out i work out, as for the stick out ears, i ve been through a surgery past month that solved the problem but not 100 % and i will need to do a second surgery.

what i conclude from this is that when a girl finds you unattractive and decides that based on our looks there's no confidence that will help us. she made her decision and there's no turning back. so i think its 75 % looks and 25 % confidence, the later being an extra in addtion to good looks.

And with ugly fat girls being more and more shallow and demanding, its more and more harder to an average man like me to hook up with one (hot or average).

 

[NeedToImprove]

btw another quick question isnt growing a goatee or beard when shaving head perceived as an insecurity, a way to compensate for the lack of hair?

 

[The Inside Man]

Shave it and get buff, lots of girls like that look.

 

[NeedToImprove]

when you say shaving it off you mean a buzz cut lenght 1 or 2 or shaving it off totally? im thinking of shaving it off totally (0 lenght or gilette), i just didnt have the guts to do it but eventually i will. maybe i will get some artificial tanning sessions after doing it to see if it looks cooler.

 

[The Inside Man]

I think either looks cool. I shave my head to a buzz sometimes, no guard sometimes, and once in a while with a razor. I think it's a good clean cut look whether a buzz or shaved all the way. One of the hottest girls I hooked up with, a british girl on the beach, was when I had a probably a "1". So some girls are definitely attracted to it.
I think being in shape is more important with a shaved head because it draws attention to your facial features.
Sometimes I would get the inner dialogue of, I wonder if girls are still as attracted to me. Some of them aren't, some of them don't like that look. But some definitely do and it's becoming a more culturally accepted look, like not everyone is going to think you're a neo nazi.

 

[mustfirstregister]

I think Mystery is bald and he gets lots of P.

 

[jophil28]

lemme know when you have more then one line of advice to get a guy from not being able to approach women to figuring out if he should make a girls eggs scrambled or sunny side up in the morning when he wakes up next to her. until then stop posting in this thread please

P.S. wow i cannot believe you posted that trash and really thought no one would call you out on that.

Boomerick's advice is drawn from his own experience .
IF he speaks, it is good oil.

He posted that piece from Diesel to get the OP's attention. It was meant to slap hard.

The essence of all good advice on this site is based on the belief that we men must reclaim our lost (or surrendered ) masculinity . How? By firstly recognizing what we have tossed away in order to dilute our masculinity and then taking it back , one action at a time.

A young man who is "not good with women" is that way because he is simply detached from his core of masculinity. He has become, perhaps unintentionally, what others have expected him to be, and is bewildered and frustrated to ultimately discover that what he believed was important is in fact self-defeating.

When I was a kid I remember a movie called "The King and I" ..It starred a very bald guy called Yul Brynner.
Go rent a copy and watch that guy demonstrate how Bald=Masculine.

 

[Serg897]

Im bald at 23, shaved last year because I didn't feel like living with my insecurities anymore - and its worked out great for me. It has NOT noticeably impacted my ability to attract women.

I would recommend you just grab your balls and take the plunge. See how you like it. You can always grow it back.

 

[zekko]

When I was a kid I remember a movie called "The King and I" ..It starred a very bald guy called Yul Brynner.

The King and I? Showing your age there a little, Jophil? I doubt most people on this forum have any idea who Yul Brynner is. Good movie though.

Seriously, women used to frigging LOVE Yul Brynner, and he was bald as a cue ball. Sort of the way women love Vin Diesel now.

 

[Mr.H]

I've been balding since my late 20's and I shave it daily. I've had a few people tell me that I look thugish, but for the most part people say I suit it.

 

[ken chang]

Got to hand it to Jason Statham. He makes balding look cool. Maybe the secret's there somewhere. Maybe balding men like us should act a little more like Jason Statham.

 

[Real Talk]

Dudes with shaved heads is a very confident look imo, no homo haha

Told myself I would do the same when i start to thin out.

 

[Kailex]

So if i get invited out to a club.. vip with some guys and like 10 girls and i show up looking like a waiter with black slacks on and a white tshirt buttoned up to my neck, because in my eyes its me dressing "nice" while everyone else looks like they are in a music video/out of a GQ magazine.. and it leads to chicks never giving me the time of day.. thats my insecurity issues? lol..

Wait, did I misread the OP? Is that what he posted about?
Oh right, not the same scenario, not the same case. Stop going off on tangents that AREN'T the case. It's not the same deal. He's blaming his insecurities on something pertaining to his body, as he's done many times before. That's no way similar to CLOTHING and STYLE.

Stop comparing apples to oranges.

And I must say, for someone who spends half his posts criticizing the SS community, you sure do seem to stick around. You are going off on Boomerick saying that he is using one-liners, when you do the same half the time.

And since the305 is so quick to say that we use a blanket, let me just recap the issues NeedToImprove has pointed out in the past:

- Will I not get women because I wear braces?
- Are my stick-out ears hurting my game?
- Is my balding a turn-off for women?


Three separate issues.
Three issues dealing with physical "problems" that the OP has with himself.
It's the SAME person. How is this NOT an issue with a personal insecurity?

You can tell the guy to dress sharp and to look GQ, but how is that going to help him when he's worrying about his ears and his hair? For all you know, he could be a REALLY good dressed already and have a GREAT sense of style, but you're telling him that he needs to look like everyone else at the club that's dressing great?

That's far from addressing the issue, that's just trying to use a band-aid to cover a shotgun blast at point blank range.

And as to the OP:

btw another quick question isnt growing a goatee or beard when shaving head perceived as an insecurity, a way to compensate for the lack of hair?

Huh?

I shaved my head for 15 years and had a goatee/beard for just about the same amount of time. It had NOTHING to do with insecurity and everything with wanting a LOOK.

I don't get where you are getting these "perceptions" from.

There are plenty of bald people that have goatees and just as many without them. Some look good with them, some don't.

Your insecurity begins with YOU.
You are projecting it to your OUTER self from your INNER self. Like I stated before, you've already projected your inner insecurities to your outer self.

 

[Galactus]

I'm bald with a goatee. I look that way because I think it looks cool, and so do women. But I have heard that some people think mustaches and beards, whether you're bald or have a full head of hair, is a sign of insecurity. It's ridiculous.

I've noticed recently that people not only project their insecurities from their inner selves to their outer selves, but they project them onto other people. If there's an insecurity they have, they will assume you have it too.

Need To Improve, you need to start understanding that you are who you are. I'm not saying don't try to improve, but don't let physical appearances have any effect on your self-image. Your self-image comes from upbringing and experience, not what you see in the mirror.

Who knows why you feel the way you do about yourself? I don't have a clue, but I know you need to start focusing on what's good, and what life is providing for you. Life is way too short, man. Way, way, way too short to spend it not liking yourself. That's what's killing your game, not to mention all the other opportunities out there.

People can sense your insecurities. They're not thinking "Wow, this guy's insecure" (unless it's REALLY obvious), but they will feel uneasy around you, or sorry for you, or just flat-out not like you. Then you will get these negative reactions, and think it's because you're bald or whatever, which will just make you more insecure. And so on.

You need to put a stop to it. Try for a few days just acting like none of this stuff bothers you. Show confidence, even if it's fake. I'm not talking about "fake it till you make it" here. I'm just saying fake it, and watch for positive stuff. Change your focus and look only at the good. I don't know what effect a few days will have, but if you start looking for the good, and keep doing it, you will eventually see it. You need to make big changes, and it will be slow, so don't go giving up after a few days.

If you focus on the positive, you will see there is a lot of positives that you missed. You will want to continue being positive. You will naturally become that way eventually. Which leads to confidence, success, and of course, The Great Punani.

 

[NeedToImprove]

ok i' m putting up some images of me so you guys can gimme some tips of what type of beard and hair cut i should use (shave with razor or buzzcut guard 0 or 1)

As you can see i have a thin face, i think kinda oval shaped or angular i dont really know what type of face it is lol, just guessing, with a receding chin (i have a problem with my lower jaws being shorter than the upper ones so my teeth come forward and i have some problems closing my mouth fully,its called retrognathism class II) but i'm using braces now and probably a jaw surgery in the future that hopefully will make me look much better and that's why the lack of a smile which hurts my game a lot. Oh wait where the *uck is my jaw? And what about that ****ed up nose ? Should i stop here or continue?



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In that last one (pic with 2 years) i had stick out ears a la Lukas Haas as you can confirm, but had a ear surgery last July and everything is ok now. Some retouch needed in one of the ears but compared to what i looked like its an excellent work. I had a guard 2 in that pic i think, but i have lost a lot even more hair so i think a guard 1 would be ok yes (im using 3 on top and 2 on the sides (suggestion of my barber)? I think a tan would help as well.

To those djs that say these problems don't matter and its all in your head, i wish they were only in my head. they contributed to criticism by other people, men and women alike and yes in a way they led me to a low self esteem low confidence state.Work with what you have? Haven't i been doing that?

 

[NeedToImprove]

i wonder where the confidence apologists are right now maybe thinking what bull**** should i wrote to cheer this guy up:

"yeah bro you look like ****in shrek but take it like a man dude, some have it some dont, it's all in the genes. JUST WORK WITH WHAT YOU HAVE, CONFIDENCE, that's what those shallow **tches want "

something along these lines maybe?

I used to have confidence, but as I aged, I've noticed how everyone would shoot me down for being proud. I tried climbing the social ladder, socializing, etc. It all failed, it failed miserably. Only if you knew how two faced everyone was to me. I lost all my social skills, now I can't even talk to someone correctly for christ sake.

I used to be a delusional bastard all my life, I thought people liked me but I was nothing more than a lapdog who was used for entertainment. I used to be confident, but it's hard, when people just tear you apart.

I just have to thank nature, oh and my parents too for blessing me with agonizing genetics

cya

 

[hb]

Dude ****kkk that shave that **** off and grow a 5oclock shadow & rock it with a bigggg dckk I'm 23 & almost done for & I've been losing it since I was a teen, adapt it to your style & make sure u dress impeccably & most important attitude!! Ppl ask me y I'm bald everyday

 

[NeedToImprove]

i heard the five o'clock shadow is sexy but i dont think it works great on all the guys. my skin is pale white iand my beard is not that thick and dark (light brown almost red beard), don't know if a stubble woukd work.

 

[hb]

Dude go tanning & work with what u got & definitely hit up the gym

 

[blackwolf]

i'm bald.. well not completely.. yet. i have the jason statham style hair.

http://www.judiciaryreport.com/images/jason-statham-6-10-08.jpg

not much at the front but i have more than him atm cause im only 26. i can say right now when i started shaving i had more success with women than before when i had hair combed back like the mafia but with obvious thinning hair at the front. a lot of women love bald men ... don't fret!