Met this girl at a bookstore where I frequent. I actually did the cold approach by asking her opinion on something I just read. After a few minutes of small talk and introduction, I told her how I appreciate her opinion and left.
After a couple of weeks, I was at the same bookstore sitting in one of the leather chairs and was into a book. I did not notice her until she came up to me said HI and sat next to me. We talked about anything, laughed at anything, and basically had a great time. We practically had to be escorted out of the place coz it was closing. I asked her for her number and she gave it to me and told her I will call her to set up a date. She said that it was cool. Waited a couple days before calling her. Then when I called her it was brief and to the point. We agreed to meet up at the bookstore where we met that following Friday. She called me Thursday to cancel coz she had to work late but she will take a rain check. Told her it was ok. Did not call her for a week and when I did I told her how disappointed I was for her canceling. She said that she was free for dinner next Friday. So we went out to dinner, had a great time, and we had to be escorted out of the place coz we were the last ones left. It seemed like time just become nonexistent when we get together.
Well, that same night, I went to a club with my buddies and I ran into her. She was there with her friends, too. Small talk. She gave me a drink. I did not offer her one. Then I went on scouting the club for some hones. I already know some there and she saw me talking to a lot of them with lots of hugging and touching. She came to me and said that "Boy, you are popular." I told her "No, I am just a friendly guy." After that I did my own thing making sure to avoid bumping into her.
A week passed and she called me if I want to meet her at the same club with her friends. I said ok. So I met her friends, mostly guys and a few girls. After the introduction I went walking around the club to check out the scenery and did that for about an hour. My cell beeped for incoming text. She text me asking where I was but I did not reply. I went to the bar and she found me there. She dragged me into the dance floor and we danced. She was seductively dancing but I was only reciprocating just a little bit. She said she felt hot so we left the dance floor to get some water at the bar. We talked then she said she will see her friends coz it is time to go. I said cool and went home.
A couple of days passed and I called her to set up a date that Friday. All was set and I took her to my favorite Japanese restaurant that serves real authentic Japanese dishes. None of these westernized ones. Had a good time and we decided to shoot some pool. The girl was good but I was better. I gave her no slack and she said she appreciated that she won one game out of 5 without me purposely losing to her. She also said it is different playing with someone who can play and do not give away games for her to please her. Ended the date with a good hug and she said she wanted to see me again next time coz it has nothing but fun.
I did not call her at all that weekend but Tuesday I did to set up a date. She said cool. About an hour before we meet, she called me saying one of her friends want to go to that Japanese restaurant and wanting to know if it was ok. I said no big deal. This friend turned out to be a guy, a childhood friend. But the restaurant was closed and the guy friend was late. She calls him and he recommended another place. So we went there and he did not show up for another 15 minutes. All this time we were talking and I was maintaining eye contact but she keeps dropping her eyes. The guy shows up, looked like he just woke up and smells of cigarette smoke. The food sucked. I did not even finish what I ordered. After the meal, our plan was to go to the movies. I was hoping the guy friend would just leave coz I planned to put some real moves that night. Unfortunately, he tagged along and all three of us went and that blew my plans to pieces. After the movie we said our goodbyes and she said she will see me again next time. I knew she can tell I was not really happy how the date went coz when she motioned for a hug I just stood still looking at her. She walked over and hugged me and I hugged her. She turned and gave the guy a hug who was puffing up a chimney. (By the way cycling is my sport and hate smokes). We all went to our cars. I tried to call her when I got home but she did not pick up.
The next day, I know she was at work so I text her. No response. I went to work that night and called her and left a voice mail to call me back. She called me after a couple of hours and we were trying to figure out when we can meet again.
I think this is where I made a mistake but I am not sure. I told her that I see her in a very special way and want our relationship to go to the next level. She came back with “I just want you to be my friend. I know guys hate those words but I am not ready to commit to a relationship. It is your call. I really like hanging out with you and want to continue but if you don’t want I understand.” I was stunned and confused. I said “I am not looking for a just friend relationship with you. But if that is what you want, we have to wait and see how things work out.” She said she had to go and will call back when she finishes what she had to do. She did not call but text me after 2.5 hours. Her text said, “I just got home from meeting with my co-workers, sorry. If it is cool, I will call you tomorrow.” I responded, “As cool as the other side of the pillow.” She replied, “Ha ha. Sounds good, have a good night.” Of course she did not call and I did not either not even text.
I thought I did everything right with a few mistakes but nothing (I think) that warrants the kiss of death.
Opinions?
She is 26 and I am 32.
After a couple of weeks, I was at the same bookstore sitting in one of the leather chairs and was into a book. I did not notice her until she came up to me said HI and sat next to me. We talked about anything, laughed at anything, and basically had a great time. We practically had to be escorted out of the place coz it was closing. I asked her for her number and she gave it to me and told her I will call her to set up a date. She said that it was cool. Waited a couple days before calling her. Then when I called her it was brief and to the point. We agreed to meet up at the bookstore where we met that following Friday. She called me Thursday to cancel coz she had to work late but she will take a rain check. Told her it was ok. Did not call her for a week and when I did I told her how disappointed I was for her canceling. She said that she was free for dinner next Friday. So we went out to dinner, had a great time, and we had to be escorted out of the place coz we were the last ones left. It seemed like time just become nonexistent when we get together.
Well, that same night, I went to a club with my buddies and I ran into her. She was there with her friends, too. Small talk. She gave me a drink. I did not offer her one. Then I went on scouting the club for some hones. I already know some there and she saw me talking to a lot of them with lots of hugging and touching. She came to me and said that "Boy, you are popular." I told her "No, I am just a friendly guy." After that I did my own thing making sure to avoid bumping into her.
A week passed and she called me if I want to meet her at the same club with her friends. I said ok. So I met her friends, mostly guys and a few girls. After the introduction I went walking around the club to check out the scenery and did that for about an hour. My cell beeped for incoming text. She text me asking where I was but I did not reply. I went to the bar and she found me there. She dragged me into the dance floor and we danced. She was seductively dancing but I was only reciprocating just a little bit. She said she felt hot so we left the dance floor to get some water at the bar. We talked then she said she will see her friends coz it is time to go. I said cool and went home.
A couple of days passed and I called her to set up a date that Friday. All was set and I took her to my favorite Japanese restaurant that serves real authentic Japanese dishes. None of these westernized ones. Had a good time and we decided to shoot some pool. The girl was good but I was better. I gave her no slack and she said she appreciated that she won one game out of 5 without me purposely losing to her. She also said it is different playing with someone who can play and do not give away games for her to please her. Ended the date with a good hug and she said she wanted to see me again next time coz it has nothing but fun.
I did not call her at all that weekend but Tuesday I did to set up a date. She said cool. About an hour before we meet, she called me saying one of her friends want to go to that Japanese restaurant and wanting to know if it was ok. I said no big deal. This friend turned out to be a guy, a childhood friend. But the restaurant was closed and the guy friend was late. She calls him and he recommended another place. So we went there and he did not show up for another 15 minutes. All this time we were talking and I was maintaining eye contact but she keeps dropping her eyes. The guy shows up, looked like he just woke up and smells of cigarette smoke. The food sucked. I did not even finish what I ordered. After the meal, our plan was to go to the movies. I was hoping the guy friend would just leave coz I planned to put some real moves that night. Unfortunately, he tagged along and all three of us went and that blew my plans to pieces. After the movie we said our goodbyes and she said she will see me again next time. I knew she can tell I was not really happy how the date went coz when she motioned for a hug I just stood still looking at her. She walked over and hugged me and I hugged her. She turned and gave the guy a hug who was puffing up a chimney. (By the way cycling is my sport and hate smokes). We all went to our cars. I tried to call her when I got home but she did not pick up.
The next day, I know she was at work so I text her. No response. I went to work that night and called her and left a voice mail to call me back. She called me after a couple of hours and we were trying to figure out when we can meet again.
I think this is where I made a mistake but I am not sure. I told her that I see her in a very special way and want our relationship to go to the next level. She came back with “I just want you to be my friend. I know guys hate those words but I am not ready to commit to a relationship. It is your call. I really like hanging out with you and want to continue but if you don’t want I understand.” I was stunned and confused. I said “I am not looking for a just friend relationship with you. But if that is what you want, we have to wait and see how things work out.” She said she had to go and will call back when she finishes what she had to do. She did not call but text me after 2.5 hours. Her text said, “I just got home from meeting with my co-workers, sorry. If it is cool, I will call you tomorrow.” I responded, “As cool as the other side of the pillow.” She replied, “Ha ha. Sounds good, have a good night.” Of course she did not call and I did not either not even text.
I thought I did everything right with a few mistakes but nothing (I think) that warrants the kiss of death.
Opinions?
She is 26 and I am 32.
Maybe a sign that she is missing me.
