Backing down from a fight

[Crissco]

For the first time I ever I backed down from a fight and I cant get it out of my head. The kid was messed up on drugs and I slightly tired from being up and drinking all night. He also ended up getting my girl because she saw me back down. Im in a bit of a rut and not sure what to do here.

Crissco

 

[Duffdog]

Wait till he's not fvcked up on drugs and break his nose. Then tell him to keep the girl.

 

[Crissco]

Wait till he's not fvcked up on drugs and break his nose. Then tell him to keep the girl.

I was going to do that a couple of days ago, he was in the back seat of my truck. The only thing stopping me was the fact it was a cheap shot. Yes I know I should of took that shot.

 

[Crissco]

Pretty pathetic that the girl chose a guy cuz of a fight. I didn't know girls were so airheaded like that.

Shes got the right to, I ****ed up ill admit it. Its the same thing bro I wouldnt want my girlfriend backing down from a fight that needed to happen.

 

[Don Israel]

He might have gotten the girl, but who cares - she seems confused. Since when does backing out from a fight = your are less of a man? Although the disadvatage is that, to others, it appears as weakness.

I know well connected people (guess what i mean here lol) that backed out of a fight, yet, I know that they would've smashed their opponent's chest to the pavement, literally.

Don't let it get to your head, as long as you didn't back out like "no, please help me, don't hurt me", your cool man.

 

[Crissco]

He might have gotten the girl, but who cares - she seems confused. Since when does backing out from a fight = your are less of a man?

I know well connected people (guess what i mean here lol) that backed out of a fight, yet, I know that they would've smashed their opponent's chest to the pavement, literally.

Don't let it get to your head, as long as you didn't back out like "no, please help me, don't hurt me", your cool man.

I know exactly what you mean. I know a couple of those type of people my self. Oh believe me she is very confused, I cant say **** though, by posting this thread shows how much I am my self lol. I look at it this way though my confidence is down, and I feel like smashing someones head in, and when I do and when I win, my confidence will improve and I will use that new found confidence to my full advantage.

 

[NO_BODY]

I bet it's pretty much same as loosing, gonna eat you up down the road. Try to use this opportunity to join a learn a martial art. Also buy small and strong pepper spray to carry with you around. You can be the toughest guy around, who knows all the martial arts that there is, a pepper spray can still knock you down effectively, especially when used on a drunk.. Other than that try to find new friends and girls.

 

[Crissco]

I bet it's pretty much same as loosing, gonna eat you up down the road. Try to use this opportunity to join a learn a martial art. Also buy small and strong pepper spray to carry with you around. You can be the toughest guy around, who knows all the martial arts that there is, a pepper spray can still knock you down effectively, especially when used on a drunk.. Other than that try to find new friends and girls.

LOL Bro for one thank you for your insite, its apprecitated. Two, I aint no b1ch kidd. I just got caught up in the moment, plus the fact we where chillin my basement with cement and weights around us didnt help. Plus I used to box and I took marital arts. You only lost if you let your self lose.

 

[speakeasy]

There may be a lot of stuff to this story you are leaving out that led up to the girl leaving and maybe this fight was just the straw that broke the camel's back for her. It may seem stupid that she left over this, but remember, one of the most important things for a girl to feel around a guy is secure. Women feel naturally attracted to guys that can protect them. If she sees you are the kind of guy that will get your ass handed to you by other men, she will lose attraction to you. It's just that simple.

Just take this as a tough lesson and work on your confidence. Maybe take up some boxing or martial arts and weight lifting if being physically dominated by other men is a problem you need to handle.

 

[Crissco]

There may be a lot of stuff to this story you are leaving out that led up to the girl leaving and maybe this fight was just the straw that broke the camel's back for her. It may seem stupid that she left over this, but remember, one of the most important things for a girl to feel around a guy is secure. Women feel naturally attracted to guys that can protect them. If she sees you are the kind of guy that will get your ass handed to you by other men, she will lose attraction to you. It's just that simple.

Just take this as a tough lesson and work on your confidence. Maybe take up some boxing or martial arts and weight lifting if being physically dominated by other men is a problem you need to handle.

Exactly! She said it her self she feels safe around me. But what gets me is when I actaully bring my guard down around other guys and have convorsations she sees it as a sign of backing down..? In my opinion it shouldnt be that way.

 

[speakeasy]

Exactly! She said it her self she feels safe around me. But what gets me is when I actaully bring my guard down around other guys and have convorsations she sees it as a sign of backing down..? In my opinion it shouldnt be that way.

Thing is, nature doesn't care about our opinions. Women are programmed that way. It's in their genes to seek out dominant men to reproduce with. It's no different with apes or any other animals. Letting women know that you are easily dominated by other men is the kiss of death.

 

[Crissco]

Thing is, nature doesn't care about our opinions. Women are programmed that way. It's in their genes to seek out dominant men to reproduce with. It's no different with apes or any other animals. Letting women know that you are easily dominated by other men is the kiss of death.

Yea im aware of that. My only other prob is my family. Im 5'5, everyone else is above 6 foot. This is going to be one hell of a competition lol

 

[Crissco]

I also found out earlier today that the girl was BPD. Makes sense looking back. Its probally a good thing that this happened, I saw my self going down a bad road but I didnt want to run away.
I still cant help to think theres more I can do though, maybe its time to just cut my loss and look else where.

 

[Levex]

LOL Bro for one thank you for your insite, its apprecitated. Two, I aint no b1ch kidd. I just got caught up in the moment, plus the fact we where chillin my basement with cement and weights around us didnt help. Plus I used to box and I took marital arts. You only lost if you let your self lose.

Thats one thing that caught my attention. Its one thing to back down from a street fight,dont want to get arrested this and that, understandable. But if some douche is trying to start something with you in your own house, you need to make an example out of him.If he's such a d1ck, what the hell was he doing hanging out in your basement anyways? Maybe you need to pick better friends...

 

[NO_BODY]

You ARE what you say you not

LOL .... I aint no b1ch kidd. I just got caught up in the moment, plus the fact we where chillin my basement with cement and weights around us didnt help. Plus I used to box and I took marital arts. You only lost if you let your self lose.

When animals fight they try to intimidate each other first, usually intimidation works and prevents serious fights. For example a buffalo might bluff and scare the competitor and then get his girl without even fighting.

What happened was he intimidated you.. You got scared and start supplicating to him with reason.. He left with your girl and he fvcked her all night long. You lost a fight during that intimidation stage. He won, and he fvcked your girl, and established himself as an alpha of that group of friends.

The feeling of douchbagness that you have comes from the fact that you lost a fight and lost your girl to him. You can rationalize this whichever way you want to. You can say girl wasn't good enough. You can say weights were laying around. Whatever. You lost, and he fvcked your girl. As a matter of fact the sooner you understand this the better. If you don't get this now, six months, a year, even two years down the road this will bug you.

Memorize the feeling that you have now good, because it will come back over and over at you in the future.


You ARE what you say you not, or at least that's how you feel about yourself. You lost a fight and your girl got fvcked, and you telling me you're not a b1tch kid? That is that, and everything else you say is just your brain protecting you from the fact.


Cure is to man up. Yes, new better circle of friends and chicks. On going martial arts training. Just because you used to box means squat, you train for that one moment you have to use your training, which may only come once in a life time. Your training is crap because whatever training stuck with you must have been girl's Home and Gardening class, how to talk serve dinner and please.


There is this saying, it's pointless to throw punches after the fight is over. I'm just trying to help you out here, don't try to hit me. But yes, this is how people get damaged, never understand what happened, rationalize everything as something else, and live a life of lie all their lives, then being angry at other people for what happened to them.

 

[Crissco]

^ Your 100% right bro. I couldnt of said it better my self. The only thing getting to me is I dont want this to stick with me the rest of my life. Im a very confident person with a s*it load of intelligence, no way in hel* im letting myself go to waste over this sh*t.

 

[NO_BODY]

In the garden of Eden we didn't have these things, we just moved on. Then Satan gave us intellect, for better or worth, we now hold grudges. How do you move on from a girl? You get laid 10 times or so. Here you get to join a martial art class and hone your skills. Boxing is good for striking, but just one hit to the balls and it's useless, how many times you see boxers go into corner after the balls hit. Do a yellow page search for Sambo in your area.

 

[Evzone]

I also found out earlier today that the girl was BPD.

Ha oh man, RUN KID RUN!

 

[Crissco]

Ha oh man, RUN KID RUN!

Thats the thing bro, I dont run away from my problems. I walk away. Every woman wants to know there guys going to be there when they have children. Ive been told that a couple of times lol but in a way im partially bi-polar, so who am I to judge.

No-Body- for a nobody you give some pretty good advice. Whats with the name? Thats martial art style is sick looking by the way.

 

[taiyuu_otoko]

Everything that happens to you in life can be a learning opportunity. For next time. There are no failures unless you choose to label them as such.

What did you learn from this experience?

Maybe that this girl wasn't worth fighting for?
Maybe that you lack fighting skills, that you can always learn?
Maybe that it's a good idea not to tangle with somebody on drugs, and that you have good judgment?

Imagine this situation happening again, exactly the same way in six months. Then prepare yourself accordingly.(e.g. learn a fighting skill, carry mace, whatever)
Whether it happens again or not doesn't matter, but you'll be a much better person.

Only when you focus on failings from the past do you feel miserable and like a loser.

When you look at them as growth opportunities, and focus on improving and preparing your future self, you will gain a strength and self confidence that few men possess.