Backupagain
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To make a long story as short as possible my wife and I have been "separated" but living together since Jan.
She had an affair and we are basically all but done with each other. She has been sleeping on the other side of the house since Feb and we've had no physical ontact since then.
Last night I was to meet my ex at disneyland around 6pm. She already had been there for half the day with both kids so I simply had to show up with the double stroller for our kids.
As I got out of my car and unpacked ready to head into Disneyland I saw a beautiful woman who looked to be about the same age as me (i'm 33). She was also unloading her stuff out of her car to head into disneyland -- she even had a double stroller just like mine, so out of habit i glanced to see if she had a ring on, she did not!
As I closed up my car she closed hers up and we pushed our strollers next to each other to head into Disneyland. Being a social kinda guy, I mentioned to her how far we had parked compared to the elevators for the parking garage and she sympathized and said it was "ridiculous and about the furthest we could be from the elevators". I then asked if she came a lot and she said she did "About once a week" and she asked how often we came and I said about 1-2x a month. She then mentioned she had passes and they were expensive but worth it and I agreed.
After about 10 more minutes of small talk, (where she was from, she asked where I was from, she loved my hometown, etc -- we have a lot in common) she asked "where are your kids as I notice the stroller is empty!" and I told her I was meeting my ex and her parents for the trip. She exclaimed how great that was that I have that kind of relationship with her and that she doesn't have that with her ex. She also asked how often I had the kids to which I told her 50% and she said she has hers almost 100% to which I responded that was impressive how she handles that and her job.
She mentioned how I must be a good father, etc and I told her I tried my best
As we got down to the bottom floor she said how nice it was to meet me and that I should have a good day and I told her the same. As she walked away I put my old school skills to work and said "Actually, could I get your number?" She turned and laughed a bit and smiled and stopped. I told her given our circumstances this seemed like such a coincidence! She said "um, uh, ok!" I asked her if that was not ok or if she was "taken or not single" and she said "no, i just get "really gun-shy"".
Pretty awesome. She told me her number was a "bit strange" and gave it to me. It was a 408 area code to which i said "The bay -- very cool!" and she emphasized and seemed shocked that I knew that. Once I got her number she then asked me my name (before I could even ask hers) and I called her number and heard her phone ring so she has my number and I now have hers.
So now. for the questions. How should i handle this? When should i call her? I just got her number last night…
Thoughts? I know I probably shouldn't have given her the "out" when I asked for her number and if she was single, taken, etc, but she bypassed the easy out and said she was single which is an awesome sign. Right?
Additionally, she asked ME for MY name which i see as a big deal. If she was not going to answer my call or wasn't REALLY interested she wouldn't have asked MY name -- right? Thoughts?
What kind of date should I schedule? Should I offer dinner and/or bowling? Should I not mention if the kids should come and let her make that call about her kids? Thoughts? Help me out here guys! Anyone else with kids know how this is typically done?
What should the phone convo be about? How was disneyland? how late did you stay, etc? What is the deal with the 408 number? Then get straight to "I was thinking of bowling or dinner this week? maybe bowling AND dinner?" I know I have to keep it short and sweet. I'm assuming toting her today something small even is not recommended and a phone call tomorrow is best? I'm not sure as txting wasn't popular when I was last in the "game". Help!
This is my first PU for 9 years. Not bad for a first dip into the pool eh?
She had an affair and we are basically all but done with each other. She has been sleeping on the other side of the house since Feb and we've had no physical ontact since then.
Last night I was to meet my ex at disneyland around 6pm. She already had been there for half the day with both kids so I simply had to show up with the double stroller for our kids.
As I got out of my car and unpacked ready to head into Disneyland I saw a beautiful woman who looked to be about the same age as me (i'm 33). She was also unloading her stuff out of her car to head into disneyland -- she even had a double stroller just like mine, so out of habit i glanced to see if she had a ring on, she did not!
As I closed up my car she closed hers up and we pushed our strollers next to each other to head into Disneyland. Being a social kinda guy, I mentioned to her how far we had parked compared to the elevators for the parking garage and she sympathized and said it was "ridiculous and about the furthest we could be from the elevators". I then asked if she came a lot and she said she did "About once a week" and she asked how often we came and I said about 1-2x a month. She then mentioned she had passes and they were expensive but worth it and I agreed.
After about 10 more minutes of small talk, (where she was from, she asked where I was from, she loved my hometown, etc -- we have a lot in common) she asked "where are your kids as I notice the stroller is empty!" and I told her I was meeting my ex and her parents for the trip. She exclaimed how great that was that I have that kind of relationship with her and that she doesn't have that with her ex. She also asked how often I had the kids to which I told her 50% and she said she has hers almost 100% to which I responded that was impressive how she handles that and her job.
She mentioned how I must be a good father, etc and I told her I tried my best
As we got down to the bottom floor she said how nice it was to meet me and that I should have a good day and I told her the same. As she walked away I put my old school skills to work and said "Actually, could I get your number?" She turned and laughed a bit and smiled and stopped. I told her given our circumstances this seemed like such a coincidence! She said "um, uh, ok!" I asked her if that was not ok or if she was "taken or not single" and she said "no, i just get "really gun-shy"".
Pretty awesome. She told me her number was a "bit strange" and gave it to me. It was a 408 area code to which i said "The bay -- very cool!" and she emphasized and seemed shocked that I knew that. Once I got her number she then asked me my name (before I could even ask hers) and I called her number and heard her phone ring so she has my number and I now have hers.
So now. for the questions. How should i handle this? When should i call her? I just got her number last night…
Thoughts? I know I probably shouldn't have given her the "out" when I asked for her number and if she was single, taken, etc, but she bypassed the easy out and said she was single which is an awesome sign. Right?
Additionally, she asked ME for MY name which i see as a big deal. If she was not going to answer my call or wasn't REALLY interested she wouldn't have asked MY name -- right? Thoughts?
What kind of date should I schedule? Should I offer dinner and/or bowling? Should I not mention if the kids should come and let her make that call about her kids? Thoughts? Help me out here guys! Anyone else with kids know how this is typically done?
What should the phone convo be about? How was disneyland? how late did you stay, etc? What is the deal with the 408 number? Then get straight to "I was thinking of bowling or dinner this week? maybe bowling AND dinner?" I know I have to keep it short and sweet. I'm assuming toting her today something small even is not recommended and a phone call tomorrow is best? I'm not sure as txting wasn't popular when I was last in the "game". Help!
This is my first PU for 9 years. Not bad for a first dip into the pool eh?
