I have it
I was HORRIBLE with girls in high school, and I was dubbed 'the creepy guy' in drama club because I'd chase girls (and obsess over it) incessantly. I'd stare a lot and touch far too much. Because of this I only attracted fat girls or depressed psychos...often a combination.
As you can probably gather, I figured out through painful trial and error I mostly found out what usually works and what usually doesn't socially. Only problem I'll never overcome? I've never been 100 percent comfortable in my own body, and I doubt I ever will. To counter this, I'm working out every day to make sure I at least have optimum comfort when I reach my goal physique.
Whenever I do stuff like date, I try to make it in a location where I'll be able to assume an extremely relaxed position like sitting in a very comfy chair or lying back (if I'm that comfy, I'll be much more likely to use neg-hits and joke around). I've found that if I'm in an extremely uncomfortable sitting position, it will distract me to the point where I can't concentrate on the conversation as much. For this reason, I try to do stuff like avoid coffeehouses with hard-backed chairs. Sounds weird, but the successful dates I've had were ALWAYS when I was completely physically comfortable.
I also recommend picking one of your zillions of passions and sticking with it. As an Aspie, I tend to be a nerd (almost no subject disinterests me) so I've stuck with music as my main passion. A lot of guys play guitar and whatnot just to get laid, so they look like douchebags when they can only play three chords and don't know any bands other than Nickelback Since I can become a nerd in every subject, I have the freedom to CHOOSE the one that'll get me laid. An advantage if ever there was one, no?
Oh yeah...I'm not sure if this is just me, but I have a near-insatiable libido. My near-photographic memory doesn't hurt when it comes to memorizing sex information, either.
Anyway, my closing statement is that if I could do it, then anyone can. This is managable...do NOT call it autism, because you're insulting autistics if you do that. Autism is a full-blown disorder that impairs you for life. This just makes it a lot harder to do well but it still CAN be done.