It's not the breaking of the V-card that is the make-or-break - it's that being able to get women at that age is a correlatative attribute with being able to get women after that, and so obviously, being an incel-tier man in later life correlates with having been incel-tier in the teenage years (I'm counting undergrad college as "teen" here). The orphaning is due to the incel's poor genetics, which obvious Raphael here in the movie is wonderful example of.
Now that said, an orphaned man can ascend in later life by either becoming extraordinarily wealthy or talented in one of the arts, but this way is rare (I shall presume that anyone that is athletically gifted enough to succeed there is already Chad-tier); however, it is attainable for a regular schlub by simply going full Beta and getting with a single mommy
, or by simply aging into older women by dating women his own age and letting time denude (pun intended) such women's pickiness.