Hey DJs
I have been a long time reader and find this site so very useful. I love this site since I am still technically a total noob at this whole DJ thing. At least now I am able to approach girls without freaking out and all like I used to back in high school. However, I now require the help of the masters out there so here goes. (BTW, this is a fairly long post)
A bit of background:
I am a pretty short Asian (5' 6") but I don't let that affect me anymore:rockon:
I used to be like every AFC out there and never approach girls but now, I find that it is really easy. After all, what's the worst that can happen besides they just leave? People are generally nice enough. I never really experienced any LTRs since I was an AFC back in high school. Of course, that stop me from getting two semi-gfs. One didn't work out cause of the distance and our tennis schedules (I am an avid tennis player). The other was more of a....shall we say....whipped relationship. She was hot enough (8) but very high maintenance. Bossed me around and all but unlike what you all may think, she actually stuck with me loyally from junior year to graduation. I broke it up with her because we were going to different colleges. However, the relationship didn't escalate any further than kino (meaning i never kissed her or any girl...like I said, AFC).
Now in college, I'm a junior, 20 years old and on the tennis team and my school is famous for not having many girls...we are a very geeky school...Think MIT but of course I don't go there. All the girls are usually taken or not hot.
However, I met this one girl, a freshman who I find pretty attractive (7) in my Japanese intro class which meets four times a week. So I naturally approached her and we quickly clicked...in a friend-like sense....the one place I don't want to be. But that seems to be my problem. I can approach girls with the full intention of getting into relationships but I seem to always become friends with them.
The thing is, the first three weeks of class, I would tease her and flirt around with her while applying kino. But she sometimes responds and sometimes doesn't. I have already had a semi-lunch date with her where we talked for about an hour but the problem with it was that she kept answering her phone....claims it was her brother and then her cousin. I know she is pretty popular so I just played it off like I didn't really care either way.
I think that now I am going towards the LJBF zone since today as we walked back to our dorms after Japanese class, I tried to kino her but she pulled away/pushed my hand away. Also, I know that she often parties with the other freshmans since they do want to meet new people and all. Unfortunately, I am starting to struggle trying to get this girl and I can't really think of any ideas since things hardly ever goes as planned. I have asked her out once but she already made plans with her friends to go to the mall. I know that this past weekend, she went to a party and all and I teased her about getting wasted and sleeping around. She did admit that she was passed out on a guy's bed with another girl and one guy until the next day. They slept together as in sleep sleep, not sex.
I'm starting to think that maybe I should just be friends with her and look for others but I don't want to give up just yet. I am terrible at escalation. Like I want to try to initiate a more intimate kino but always fail to do so or they pull away.
Ha, after two years of college I still haven't gotten a girl...lots of friends and all, I am pretty popular and confident but never got a gf. I don't count high school. I rate myself as slightly above AFC...I can at least approach but cannot escalate... Your thoughts would be much appreciated.
I have been a long time reader and find this site so very useful. I love this site since I am still technically a total noob at this whole DJ thing. At least now I am able to approach girls without freaking out and all like I used to back in high school. However, I now require the help of the masters out there so here goes. (BTW, this is a fairly long post)
A bit of background:
I am a pretty short Asian (5' 6") but I don't let that affect me anymore:rockon:
I used to be like every AFC out there and never approach girls but now, I find that it is really easy. After all, what's the worst that can happen besides they just leave? People are generally nice enough. I never really experienced any LTRs since I was an AFC back in high school. Of course, that stop me from getting two semi-gfs. One didn't work out cause of the distance and our tennis schedules (I am an avid tennis player). The other was more of a....shall we say....whipped relationship. She was hot enough (8) but very high maintenance. Bossed me around and all but unlike what you all may think, she actually stuck with me loyally from junior year to graduation. I broke it up with her because we were going to different colleges. However, the relationship didn't escalate any further than kino (meaning i never kissed her or any girl...like I said, AFC).
Now in college, I'm a junior, 20 years old and on the tennis team and my school is famous for not having many girls...we are a very geeky school...Think MIT but of course I don't go there. All the girls are usually taken or not hot.
However, I met this one girl, a freshman who I find pretty attractive (7) in my Japanese intro class which meets four times a week. So I naturally approached her and we quickly clicked...in a friend-like sense....the one place I don't want to be. But that seems to be my problem. I can approach girls with the full intention of getting into relationships but I seem to always become friends with them.
The thing is, the first three weeks of class, I would tease her and flirt around with her while applying kino. But she sometimes responds and sometimes doesn't. I have already had a semi-lunch date with her where we talked for about an hour but the problem with it was that she kept answering her phone....claims it was her brother and then her cousin. I know she is pretty popular so I just played it off like I didn't really care either way.
I think that now I am going towards the LJBF zone since today as we walked back to our dorms after Japanese class, I tried to kino her but she pulled away/pushed my hand away. Also, I know that she often parties with the other freshmans since they do want to meet new people and all. Unfortunately, I am starting to struggle trying to get this girl and I can't really think of any ideas since things hardly ever goes as planned. I have asked her out once but she already made plans with her friends to go to the mall. I know that this past weekend, she went to a party and all and I teased her about getting wasted and sleeping around. She did admit that she was passed out on a guy's bed with another girl and one guy until the next day. They slept together as in sleep sleep, not sex.
I'm starting to think that maybe I should just be friends with her and look for others but I don't want to give up just yet. I am terrible at escalation. Like I want to try to initiate a more intimate kino but always fail to do so or they pull away.
Ha, after two years of college I still haven't gotten a girl...lots of friends and all, I am pretty popular and confident but never got a gf. I don't count high school. I rate myself as slightly above AFC...I can at least approach but cannot escalate... Your thoughts would be much appreciated.