thevilittletroll
Senior Don Juan
I’ve read a lot of posts on this site regarding Direct Approach and I feel that I need to let you guys know about a few things before go with this type of game.
Let me say that first of all approaching direct does have its advantages, but it also has some disadvantages too. The first advantage by approaching direct is you are not wasting anytime. The girl has to make an instant yes-no judgment about you on whether or not she’s interested. So in a sense you’re not wasting any time figuring it out on your own. The other advantage is that if she is into you, the phone #’s and dates you get should become more solid with less girls flaking on you. When you are on your dates with these girls it does have a more “it’s on” feeling, closing should become pretty easy.
For the disadvantages one of the biggest is that you really turn it into a true numbers game. It may take you 50-100 approaches before you start getting solid results. Your % of success is going to be very low at first. Some girls are going to be really creeped out with you, and you will get a lot of rejection. And if you are just starting out, that can really hurt you confidence levels. Direct approach is also going to be based more about your looks and not your actual game. And looks can be overcome if you do have good game, so why shoot yourself in the foot if you’re not the best looking guy. She rejected you before she had a chance to see your personality. The number 1 biggest disadvantage is that if your confidence, body language, and your post approach game are not congruent, approaching direct will fail almost 90% of the time. So work on getting those 3 things of you game fixed before you even attempt at approaching direct.
Approaching direct also has it time and place. Bars and clubs are not really the best place to cold approach using direct game. Most women’s defenses are already very high in these environments. Unless you have those 3 things I mention earlier, confidence, body language, and post approach game, you success rate will be very low. Day game and on the street is better suited for this type of approach. Most women do not expect to be hit on in public, and it is very flattering to them, but be warned, some women will be completely creeped out by this.
I recommend for anybody who’s starting out in this game to start with a more indirect approach, then state your intentions and be direct after talking for a few minutes. Once you get you game together, your confidence, and your body language, being direct will be a lot more successful for you. At the end of the day being direct up front is like throwing a bunch of s.hit up on a wall and picking out what sticks. In my opinion that’s not really good game. Having good game is about being able to approach who you are attracted to, picking out what type of game to use, and executing it to ultimately get the girl. Direct approach game is much better suited for more experienced DJ’s who know how to close. Don’t just walk up to a hot girl and tell her how beautiful she is and that you had to meet her, she’s already heard that 100 times before. It’s what you say after that will get her attracted to you.
Let me say that first of all approaching direct does have its advantages, but it also has some disadvantages too. The first advantage by approaching direct is you are not wasting anytime. The girl has to make an instant yes-no judgment about you on whether or not she’s interested. So in a sense you’re not wasting any time figuring it out on your own. The other advantage is that if she is into you, the phone #’s and dates you get should become more solid with less girls flaking on you. When you are on your dates with these girls it does have a more “it’s on” feeling, closing should become pretty easy.
For the disadvantages one of the biggest is that you really turn it into a true numbers game. It may take you 50-100 approaches before you start getting solid results. Your % of success is going to be very low at first. Some girls are going to be really creeped out with you, and you will get a lot of rejection. And if you are just starting out, that can really hurt you confidence levels. Direct approach is also going to be based more about your looks and not your actual game. And looks can be overcome if you do have good game, so why shoot yourself in the foot if you’re not the best looking guy. She rejected you before she had a chance to see your personality. The number 1 biggest disadvantage is that if your confidence, body language, and your post approach game are not congruent, approaching direct will fail almost 90% of the time. So work on getting those 3 things of you game fixed before you even attempt at approaching direct.
Approaching direct also has it time and place. Bars and clubs are not really the best place to cold approach using direct game. Most women’s defenses are already very high in these environments. Unless you have those 3 things I mention earlier, confidence, body language, and post approach game, you success rate will be very low. Day game and on the street is better suited for this type of approach. Most women do not expect to be hit on in public, and it is very flattering to them, but be warned, some women will be completely creeped out by this.
I recommend for anybody who’s starting out in this game to start with a more indirect approach, then state your intentions and be direct after talking for a few minutes. Once you get you game together, your confidence, and your body language, being direct will be a lot more successful for you. At the end of the day being direct up front is like throwing a bunch of s.hit up on a wall and picking out what sticks. In my opinion that’s not really good game. Having good game is about being able to approach who you are attracted to, picking out what type of game to use, and executing it to ultimately get the girl. Direct approach game is much better suited for more experienced DJ’s who know how to close. Don’t just walk up to a hot girl and tell her how beautiful she is and that you had to meet her, she’s already heard that 100 times before. It’s what you say after that will get her attracted to you.
