Hard for me to understand someone saying they want to apply these in accordance to beliefs and faith if you are bending these in ways based on what you want to do. Why not just keep bending them then?
Same.
It is hard for me to understand why this is important, but this falls in line with looking for women the FIT your life. If your life is filled with religion... it doesn't matter what that is Christian, Jewish, Muslim, no religion, Wiccan... doesn't matter. If this is what you think is important than you have to screen out women that do not meet your criteria.
The problem with this is a woman will wear whatever hat you give her, if it means she gets what she wants... and if you have a woman that led a life of carrousel riding, and lots and lots of 'fun'... then she decides she needs an exit strategy since she's hit her late 30s... well... she'll TRY and be what you want but people do not change like that. People are who they are... and they do not REALLY change unless they go through a significant emotional event that changes their paradigm.
Now you might have a woman who is really ready to leave all that behind, and you can tell by her actions if she is.... usually in the form of old friends gone/new friends made.... and a total change in her life. It has to be HER idea to change otherwise she will only hold resentment for the man trying to make her something that she isn't. The best way to sniff this out is to date for at least a year and be alert to any red flags.... but usually it only takes about 3 months... people can hide who they really are for about 3 months before the truth comes out. The key to success is to NEVER lose emotional self-control. Do not emotionally commit to anyone before you KNOW FOR SURE she is the right person.
When women, who are dating men say "He is just not emotionally available." What they really mean is "I do not know how to control this man."
You have to take your time and get this right because if you are looking for a life partner then you have to be sure that your values are aligned, to do otherwise is just making a bad gamble. It is the single most important decision that any man can make, and your life could be ruined or significantly diminished if you end up with the wrong partner.
When you find yourself in love with a woman, but you dump her because she just isn't right for you THEN and only then will you know what I am talking about. Until you can do this you are an accident waiting to happen. Because, society does not have your back... and other men? Well, we don't have your back either... we are more than happy to swope in and grab your chick the minute you make a mistake... which makes it very hard for you to work things out with your wife or GF.
