Anyone else get their balls busted because they don't follow the norm?

[RedPill]

Now this isn't to say I don't have a social life, I do. But I have more priorities to worry about. Say a meeting with the customer the next morning at 10am for a possible job vs. going out getting smashed talking to some ditzy college girl. To me there is a time for fun and a time for business. I'm looking at a business with potential to break 6 figures if I push myself agressively. They're still working retail.

What I'm getting at is why can't my friends see this? I'm always getting my balls busted on why I'm not out 8 nights a week with them getting drinks. They say I'll never meet girls, like that's supposed to encourage me. These guys are so AFC, and they don't even know it. I always get "why don't you drink?", "why don't you come out?" For instance it could be a monday night at 11pm. I get a call "Yo what are you doing? Come out with us tonight"... "I can't I have to work tomorrow"... "Aye you're a ***** we'll talk to you later."

Mr. Market will weed your "friends" out. They will have their asses handed to them by reality within a decade, trust me on this. One of the harder things to do in our youth is avoiding the party mentality of the herd in favor of laying the foundation for a great life. You're absolutely on the money when you say there's a time for fun and a time for business. Most people don't understand that.

 

[So Many Ways]

You sound kind of elitist. I think that's why your friends give you crap. They go out and drink, and that's their fun hobby. No one hobby is better than another. There's no way to prove activity A is more cool/alhpa/awesome than activity B. Each to their own.

Either way, you need to find some new friends. I have a lot of friends who are studying to be engineers, doctors, lawyers, (insert high-profile profession here), and they still have time to go party. I go out and party a lot myself, but then I wake my ass up in the morning and do what I have to. It's called being responsible. Conversely, if I feel like staying in on a Saturday, I will politely decline my friends' invitations and they're cool with it.

I'm not trying to put you down, but maybe you shouldn't write off others who do certain things you deem juvenile. Or just get new friends who are more in tune with you. I'm glad you have a life plan, and I hope it works out for you. The way I'm going myself I hope to be making a quarter million a year by the time I'm 23 and setting myself up for early retirement.

There you go

 

[white_hype]

Sad to see old sosuave hasn't changed a bit

Here's what I think:

Do whatever it is that makes YOU happy. Take care of yourself first... you are in a pivotal point of life where the decisions you make now can greatly effect your future.

I rarely drink now (I used to binge drink from 18-20... A LOT... had tons of great times).. I still love drinking; however, I have too many things going on that require myself not to drink.

If you don't like drinking, don't ****ing drink.

When I stopped drinking some of my friends got on me a little bit but not too much (I have a lot of really cool friends) and they completely shut up once they saw me talking to the hottest girls in the club/bar/party, getting their number, and ****ing them.

Go **** some hot girls sober at one of these places and I guarantee you they will STFU about it.

How do you act when your drunk? Are you a kill joy? DO you become really introverted/shy?


Also- don't do what a ton of other losers do... compare themselves to those that surround them. WRONG. What if you did this thinking those people were semi successful and never truly branching out to see that people routinely surpass these kinds of people VERY easily. I am only 21 and I have all you passed GREATLY and that is b/c I continually push myself to be the best. I am always ****ing working. I am going to get a job thats 80 hrs and make 80k when I graduate college and in 5 yrs I will be making 300k +. This is not b/c I am lucky or anything, it is b/c I work smart and push myself all the time.

If you are unhappy with your friends do this:

1- re evaluate the situation, see if you can change your view
2-tell them (lightly)
3- get new friends

When I stopped drinking so much I saw I didn't really like hanging out with a certain group of friends... they are all great guys but they just get drunk, try to talk to girls very poorly (b/c they are wasted), then sleep in... WEAK

I have made A TON of new friends who share my new found interests and life has never been sweeter. It only gets better man! YOU ARE DOING FINE! PM me if you want some more help

 

[Oxide]

guess I missed the partying phase of my life

You are so very wrong. Party phase of your life can go from 17-40, even more in some cases.

21-25 is THE prime time to go out and party.

I am not going to jump on the issue of your friends, but people love going out, drinking, socializing, and having sex with women they meet.

I don't see why you can't run a business and go out once a week...

 

[Eccentric]

Great post A-Unit. I enjoy the occasional drink, but I'm responsible enough to call it quits after a few beers. I realize that I drove here, and I have to make it back home. Not that I'd be drunk, but the laws are getting so strict. Why risk a fine and a dent on my driving record just because I ordered beer instead of Sprite? These guys will pound shots all night and drive home totally **** faced.

I dont have a problem with them drinking. Like I said, it's the repeated crap I get because I'm not with them going shot for shot. My whole life changed after I got out of high school. It's like I took the red pill. Everything changed. Style of clothes, music, took an ineterest in politics, I started to read books, learned money management and invested, approach women , huge interest in sports went up. Most of my parents friends are amazed at how intune I am with the real world. I'm not trying to sell my self here, but rather give you an idea of my background. I do have another group of friends who I've known since elementary school. But we havent seen each other much. Mostly because they went straight to work out of HS. I guess I should try to see them more than the others.

But back to the Matrix analogy. It's like the red pill vs blue. Its been taken already, I've past the point of no return so to say. Will my life be boring? Hell no, I've just moved on.

Anyways its nice to see that I'm not the only one on here thats gone through this.

 

[Nocturnal]

Who cares what norm(s) you do or do not follow? It's irrelevant. What matters is that you set your own standards.

By the way, it sounds like you should seriously evaluate why you are friends with your "friends," and what you're getting out of it that is a good enough reason for you to sanction their negative comments.

 

[A-Unit]

Re:

What I find totally humorous about the "party" phase is how kids, teens, and the early 20's figure that's ALL you'll ever do.

Honestly people, do you know guys/girls over 30, 40, or 50 who are successful and have get-togethers, parties, wine tastings, bonefires, etc??

YES!! In fact, my reality says they only GET BETTER. As you age, sure you're not likely to go to a party where you're single and there's tons of HOT bytches, unless you're 40 attending a sorority party (which might be gross unless you're down south). But the guys/girls I know, own homes, vacation spots, have raging 30, 40, and 50 year bashes. They have superbowl, red sox, christmas, and even 4th of july parties.

The parties of our youth take place at bars, clubs, and raves. The parties of your "more mature" years take place ANYWHERE, and maybe in another country if you're smart.

But those people who HOARD their partying years like NUTS to a SQUIRREL, are the ones who burn out, get fat, get bored, maybe have kids, contract diseases, get in fights, or worse, die. They go full boar, and never die out. Fine. Do it however you want, but my world says it NEVER ends, it only gets better.



A-Unit

 

[Eccentric]

I don't see why you can't run a business and go out once a week...

I never said I don't go out. But when I go out, I get **** on because I'm not a heavy drinker. I prefer a beer or 2 during a backyard BBQ, or a game. Ocassionaly at the bar. But why should I put up with **** because I dont have 7 empty beer bottles infront of me? Thats what Im saying. They invite me out, they know I'm not big into drinking. Yet every time I gotta hear some wiseass remark about it.