Hmm... i had a similar thread about this
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=48354
Im a very unique black male if i say so myself... basically the reason for this is because when i was growing up, i hung around with the wrong crowd. All black friends in my neighborhood and we got into nothing but trouble with the police and everything, all i had back then were black friends.
As i grew older the type of trouble we got into became more serious and i decided to find other interests or hobbies and began to branch off and find other friends. I began hanging with some white friends from my basketball team and got into other things such as playing computer games and being on the internet all the time. From that point on i no longer hung with my black friends all the time, instead most of my time spent was with my other friends. I mean i still was cool with them whenever id see them, and i still am, but i just dont hang with them anymore. I go to an all white school.
I love rap, i dress in jersey's and hats (like most black guys), im able to get along with other black people and hang with them just fine, but most people can tell i am slightly different by how i talk. At my college its mostly white so im mostly hanging around white people, but i never think about race when im with them. Only time i wonder about it is when im in a slump with the ladies, i start to look at different possible reasons. As far as not acting black... i guess i can understand where you're coming from. Even though i love rap, i also listen to rock... i like alot of computer games and do things that other "brothas" wouldnt do... but then on the other hand i fit in perfectly fine with them.
At my school i had a group of black guys i was pretty cool with that i went clubbing with and this was all black... so im able to basically mesh with both groups. it's all about just being confident with who you are. The type of person i am, i dont even think about that, i just am confident and have fun with whoever im with. I think a possible reason you may not feel like u relate to other black guys is u feel intimidated by them, after a few years of hanging out with my white friends, i began to have a different view of black guys that i didnt know and didnt feel a connection right away. But since my room mate was black i got to know him and realized that as soon as u get to know them, they're just like any other friend you'll have. A prime example of this is my older friends from when i was younger, when i see them nowadays i get along with them like brothers cuz they're some of my best friends... and they've been locked up, drug dealing, robbing cars, been shot, etc etc... the type of black guys that if i didnt know id try to avoid. But since i know them so well i just view them as cool peoples that i have fun with.
In general what im saying is that ive been on both sides of the spectrum. Having all black friends that i guess fit the stereotypes, and also having all white friends. I still to this day hang out with both types of people. I have yet to find another black guy that can relate to white people the way i do... talk rock, go to white frat parties and have fun, but who can also hang out with all black people and go clubbing.... and being theirself the entire time. I relate to both races with different interests. I relate to black guys with stuff like basketball, rap, clothes, video games.. etc.. but i can also relate to white guys with rock, internet games, poker, computers, or wutever. Nowadays though most of the new friends I make are white since those are the majority of the people im around. I understand where you're coming from man... all i have to say is that you shouldnt worry about it.. you hang with people u share similar interests with or similarities in general.