ANswer for "Are You mad text message"

[MightyMate]

I was suspossed to meet with a girl for first date. She likes me but she just broke with her bf and mainly she was a bit scared coz she said she thinks im a player. We arranged date in the same day that i called, over phone i felt shes gonna flake and she did. Exactly 1h before date she came with some stupid reason she has to stay home.

I wrote to her the usual 'change your plans im more fun', she did not reply.
So i also did not reply for next day at all and she texted me with "Are You mad? '. I did not reply, somehow i dont have any texts for this. What is the best message to make her arrange the date?

 

[taiyuu_otoko]

Not mad. Dissapointed. If you wanna find out what you missed out on, give me a shout.

Then leave it at that.

 

[Jitterbug]

"Give me a call and find out".

It's a lot easier to tell what a girl is up to if you can hear her talking.

 

[sodbuster]

I'm not mad,but I don't like people wasting my time. If you keep doing that, we won't date.

 

[DJDamage]

I did not reply, somehow i dont have any texts for this.

Never respond to a chick on text messages especially on serious manner such as this.

If you or her can't talk about this on the phone, you shouldn't be dating each other.

 

[MikeEdward1973]

I'd forget her. I never give someone a 2nd chance if they cancel like that.

 

[bigjohnson]

"I'm over it now, thanks."

 

[Aenigma]

Looks like she is playing games to me. If the excuse isn't a good one, just move on.

A girl that's into you won't play games like this due to fear of losing you. I refer you to anti-dump's machine; find a girl thats into you.

 

[Chrispy]

I've been there. She'll end up flaking on you and stringing you along as long as possible. In the end though you're better off working on someone else. Who needs head games anyway?

 

[Aenigma]

I've been there. She'll end up flaking on you and stringing you along as long as possible. In the end though you're better off working on someone else. Who needs head games anyway?

Exactly.

Law 34- Be royal in your own fashion: Act like a king to be treated like one.
Law 36- Disdain the things you cannot have: Ignoring them is the best revenge.

Why are you begging for her attention? She should be begging for YOUR attention and trying to fit in YOUR schedule. YOU'RE THE PRIZE TO BE WON.

If she dosen't see you for how wonderful you are*- then move on to someone who does.

*If you're not wonderful take time to work on yourself and make yourself into the prize.

 

[Mr. Me]

What is the best message to make her arrange the date?

Think about this logically: if everything up to now didn't get her to show up for a date, how will saying one more thing be so powerful, so amazing, as to get her to keep a date?

and she texted me with "Are You mad?'

Question: Why would someone flake on a date, then not reply to your next two messages, but then, when you stopped messaging her, she replies back to find out why you stopped?

Answer: Because she wants the ego stroking your attention was giving her. "oh this guy, he's ALWAYS texting me and asking me out!" she giggles to her girlfriends.

 

[jophil28]

I'd forget her. I never give someone a 2nd chance if they cancel like that.

That is the way to go.

However if you REALLY need to reply, try this " I have high standards, you do not meet them ."

Smackdown !

 

[STR8UP]

There's a 95% chance that you will never see this woman naked. So you can take one of several courses of action depending upon certain factors-

1) Try to turn it around on her. Text back "It's your lucky day. I just got a promotion. Lets grab a drink Tuesday night to celebrate". If she agrees, you tell her to call you Tuesday afternoon to confirm, because your new job has you working longer hours. Ball is in your court. Keep the frame and continue to make HER work for it. Drop her ass like a hot potato the next time she flakes or disses you.

2) Forget about her. No calls, no texts, no nothing.

3) Try to make a point by calling her out or getting the last word. Makes you look and feel weak and accomplishes nothing, IMO, but some folks feel the need to slam the door.

By the limited info provided, I would probably go with #2.

 

[guru1000]

Low IL, Next!

Women with high IL do not flake.

 

[squirrels]

Think of it this way...you're an employer who has advertised a very lucrative job. You have several applicants. An hour before the interview, one of the applicants calls you and gives a stupid reason why she can't make it to the interview. You tell her you understand and thanks for the heads-up.

The next day she calls you and asks if you are "mad". What do you say?

Bear in mind that she:

-Gave a stupid reason for cancelling the interview
-Did it with only an hour's notice, effectively wasting your time since it's probably too late to reschedule
-Didn't show ANY extended interest in the position...didn't ask for a reschedule, nothing

"No, I'm not mad" or no reply works just as well. But waste no more time with her.

She has shown that she's either 1) not interested in the wonderful experience you could give her or 2) an utter idiot. You'll never know which and you shouldn't care, because there are 10 more applicants lined up behind her who are WAITING for their shot.

She may give you the, "do you still want to meet?", to which you can reply, "No thanks."

 

[Zonder]

There is absolutely no need to burn your bridges with a girl you have some interest in. Canceling a date like that is inexcusable. However, you should give her a chance to make it up to you.

Make her take you out next time and pay for everything. If she refuses she probably had no interest in you to begin with. If she's interested this will get her even more interested.

This will also let he know you don't treat this type of flakiness lightly and she will have to work to make up for her behavior. That in itself will set up a good frame if you deal with this girl in the future. This is true whether she accepts or refuses.

 

[betterthandead]

did you mistake this forum for the high school forum.

 

[alphamailman]

say "texting is for b!tches"

 

[AIRWARRIOR71]

There is absolutely no need to burn your bridges with a girl you have some interest in. Canceling a date like that is inexcusable. However, you should give her a chance to make it up to you.

Zonder, I understand the concept you are thinking of, but this chick has low IL, especially since she won't even call him about it...why put the energy into her when ten other chicks who might have a higher IL are potentially available if you focus on others and not on this chick? If she is worth it, she will make it known by calling him and/or texting him to death since the silence is driving her nuts and she just "HAS TO HAVE HIM". THEN is when it would be worth the time...MAYBE. No perfect answer. Flaking is flaking is flaking...keep that in mind!

One last thing...she isn't the prize...he is! Let her come to him or let her go.

 

[Señor Fingers]

She is testing you, reply with a simple:

"No"

Then you go silent again and let HER come crawling back with a phone call (fukk this text bs) - remember, she has to show some real incentive or its Nextville.