Hey, I'm just gonna tell yall a bit about whats been happening to me in my current LTR. If ya can offer advice, it would be appricated. But, theres a lesson to belearned form this too, so I hope it helps you.
I really don't know how to handle my current situation. My girlfriend and I have been going out for five months now. The first three months were fine. Me and her were at college, we were both happy, we both got some at a regular basis. Life was good.
Then summer started, and in the beginning month or so, things were fine. We saw eachother pretty much once a week and talked on the phone almost every day. But, as of recently (past month or so) We've started drifting apart.
Things went downhill fairly quickly for us. From the time we had our first real fight (4 weeks ago) Weve seen eachother more and we talk more: but at the same time, she says shes confused about what she feels, that she doesnt know if we're going to last once school starts up (We both have mad busy schedules), we haven't done anything sexual beyond making out with both of us copping feels, and to top it all off she no longer says "I Love You" anymore (Which in return, I cut down on saying it)
I have my own theorys on why we've grown apart. Maybe its because we had a really physical relationship in college, and now we're not used to not being able to be together physically. Perhaps its the fact that we both lead very different lives from eachother at home that communication broke down. or perhaps its even the fact that we both had our first and only fight and neither of us are sure how to deal with it.
But regardless of the reasons I gave, they all, in a way, lead back to one thing we lost. Common Ground.
At home, i dont think that either of us really has a common or familar ground to talk about stuff or do stuff. I mean this in the physical place idea and in the metaphorical sense of a place where we both intellectually connect. And thats my advice to you all...If you have that common ground, no matter what it may be based on, dont lose it...it accounts to alot more than one may think.
I sincerely hope that once school starts up again, things will get better. I hope they will. But, I need help dealing with things now. I just need to think of a way to....i dunno, find time to be more intimate with her, maybe see her more, or just advice on how to handle myself and this situation in general.
Thanks yall
I really don't know how to handle my current situation. My girlfriend and I have been going out for five months now. The first three months were fine. Me and her were at college, we were both happy, we both got some at a regular basis. Life was good.
Then summer started, and in the beginning month or so, things were fine. We saw eachother pretty much once a week and talked on the phone almost every day. But, as of recently (past month or so) We've started drifting apart.
Things went downhill fairly quickly for us. From the time we had our first real fight (4 weeks ago) Weve seen eachother more and we talk more: but at the same time, she says shes confused about what she feels, that she doesnt know if we're going to last once school starts up (We both have mad busy schedules), we haven't done anything sexual beyond making out with both of us copping feels, and to top it all off she no longer says "I Love You" anymore (Which in return, I cut down on saying it)
I have my own theorys on why we've grown apart. Maybe its because we had a really physical relationship in college, and now we're not used to not being able to be together physically. Perhaps its the fact that we both lead very different lives from eachother at home that communication broke down. or perhaps its even the fact that we both had our first and only fight and neither of us are sure how to deal with it.
But regardless of the reasons I gave, they all, in a way, lead back to one thing we lost. Common Ground.
At home, i dont think that either of us really has a common or familar ground to talk about stuff or do stuff. I mean this in the physical place idea and in the metaphorical sense of a place where we both intellectually connect. And thats my advice to you all...If you have that common ground, no matter what it may be based on, dont lose it...it accounts to alot more than one may think.
I sincerely hope that once school starts up again, things will get better. I hope they will. But, I need help dealing with things now. I just need to think of a way to....i dunno, find time to be more intimate with her, maybe see her more, or just advice on how to handle myself and this situation in general.
Thanks yall
