Different strokes, then. From what I've seen and experienced, the opposite is true. Pretty boys have it made. You dont even have to try. Girls come right up to you, and its not long before they start flirting, touching, talking about sex, etc. If its from a distance, they'll just scream and howl at you. They're always trying to do favors for you, wanting to see you, being excited and nervous around you, etc.
I know for a fact that it was the "pretty" that did it, because when they werent calling me hot or sexy - it was always pretty. Quite a few even used the term pretty boy.
Nothing changed when I moved down south, either. The girls are simply more reserved, respectful of boundaries, and less aggressive sexually, but all the signs are still there: staring, face-glowing smiles when you enter their vicinity, super aware of everything thats going around you, always trying to talk to you, being extra courteous towards you, always remembering who you are and what you said, doing favors... Since they're already courteous, kind, welcoming, and generous down here... It's like super hospitality. Mostly they just stare... And stare... And stare. But the overall treatment has not changed - they are simply less aggressive, physical, sexually open, and space-invading than they are up north. The girls up north simply dont give a ****, and will do or say anything that comes to mind - respect or class be damned.
Up north... For the most part, all you have to say is "hi", and they'll be more than willing to come into your space. Get to talking a little bit, and they'll start touching you. Then comes the flirting and sex talk. All you are doing is... NOTHING. They're all googly eye'd, super excited, acting like little girls, and you're just being friendly. For the most part, they'll approach you, initiate everything, want to get to know you, start dishing flirtacious compliments, bring up the topic of sex and all the things they want to do with you. All within a matter of minutes. Some even talk about marriage and babies, and never leave you alone. They are the ones trying to escalate with YOU with every run-in.
Others clam up, never look at you, get super shy and nervous, act figgity, and even look like they hate your guts.
I used to have terribly low self-esteem, didnt know **** about male-female dynamics, or the signs, and thought no one liked me. Even pushed away a ton of girls due to extreme insecurity. So, I asked a few girls I just met at the time why certain girls would look the other way, or at the ground, and never talk to me. Since the girls acting like this were generally attractive, I figured it was because I was ugly. But the girls I asked to this to actually said, "You're intimidating... Pretty boy." Thats probably when it finally hit.
But girls were all over that ****. It took no effort at all. The treatment, options, attention, admiration, etc was the same of a pretty girl. It actually helps to realize why hoes act as they do. That **** makes you very conceited, arrogant, and somewhat narcissistic - just by being in the zone. Having zero self-esteem, **** for confidence, boatloads of insecurities, shyness, etc probably helped to curb that some.
I knew 2 other pretty boys from way back who had tons of new women all the time. *****es were ****ing everywhere. I was never that good - due to a plethora of inner issues - but the possibilities, once I got there (without even knowing it), were definitely there. You can go anywhere, and almost guaranteed to have women around you. It takes zero effort. I was the only non-white pretty boy up there, but it made zero difference. All the girls cared, or talked about, or approached, was whomever was "hot".
What's interesting is, down here, people tend to stick to themselves, and dont get acquainted with strangers easily. Its very casual at best. People just mind their own business, and do what they have to do. Guys still dont give a ****, but *****es are always trying to talk and get personal, wanting you to stick around and getting to know you, all happy and in the zone... While still not having to do ****. I usually just say "hey", and they're all "blah blah blah blah". See them again, and they continue on from before. Trying to get into your space a little more each time. Its different, but still the same. Rather than force themselves in - they try to lure themselves in. Sneaky *****es.
There's a whole variety of people from all races down here, but the interest does not change from one to the next. I used online dating for a while, and got messages / interests from blacks, whites, hispanics. On Matchmaker, or whatever, I received over 250 messages without a profile. When I lived up north, it was ALL white people in that area. The guys were racist as ****, and bullied me constantly, but the women - white, young, good-looking women - did not care. They had their pick, and there were a lot of "hot" white guys up there. That didnt change anything.
The topic of race NEVER came up. It was very fluid. Not, "hey sexy brown guy" - just "hey sexy". Any rejections POST-acceptance (I was never really rejected) were a result of severe character flaws and insecurities - which they pointed out gracefully. I was never not their type, they never said they only dated white guys, no racial inneundos, nothing. It never entered into the equation, and was never the reason. All they cared about was "hot".
They were always up for sex, as well - even post-rejection. Most of them straight up wanted an FB or FWB situation from the get-go.
In all my time, I dated 1 brown girl and no blacks. The rest were all white. And these were hot / gorgeous girls, whom, after the first few encounters (or minutes) were all about the sex. No hesitation; no rejection. Of course, I ****ed it all up by being an inexperienced, insecure, oblivious dumbass who was living in fairytale romanceville, but there was never a lack of interest on their part. They also ALWAYS came up to me first.
God, I was such a ****ing idiot back then.
With all that out of the way, of course you dont have to be pretty to be attractive or successful. But most girls I knew considered pretty boys to be gorgeous. And thats all they cared about. And the options, attention, etc you receive as a result is unbelievable.
