As the sun starts to set on my 40's, I've finally started to see my true value in those things you mentioned. And when I look at women my own age, i have little to no desire for them. I bring more to the table than ever before in every single area(minus a few wrinkles), so my mindset has started to change. A 50yo woman has nothing to offer on par to what I offer SMV wise.
You come to realize more and more that women don’t bring much to the table. Men are expected to make something of themselves and create value. Women are given value starting at puberty. Women will rely on their beauty to get them by and that is typically used up by 50. Once that’s gone, what else is there to offer If you never had to create something?
Both of these are great posts.
In early life, women's looks are extremely valuable in the sexual marketplace. The appeal of youthfulness and possible fertility have more value than a man's looks have to a woman. While male looks are valuable, it's not the same as female looks.
With the passage of time, women's looks fade even with good lifestyle habits. By 45-50, that is typically used up. A 50 year old woman can still be attractive to a 50 year old man, but that tends to work out best when they have a long shared history together. If I were to think of a 50 year old woman paired with a 50 year old man, I could imagine a 50 year old man valuing her for the 25+ years they've spent together and the fact that they've likely raised 1-3 children together to 18+ years old at that point. I doubt a 50 year old man would feel the same way about even a good looking, childless 50 year old woman who he didn't spend the past 25+ years with.
A 40-50 year old woman who is single, childless, normal range BMI, and has a $125,000+ year salary from her bachelor's/advanced degree and 15-25 years of work experience isn't as valuable in the sexual marketplace. This woman is most valuable for her BMI and her childlessness would be slightly less baggage (she'd likely bring in past dating trauma). Her education and work accomplishments have little SMV value. While her BMI is valuable, her skin will have signs of aging even with good maintenance and she doesn't compete as well with younger women.
My current girlfriend is 20years younger and its been a breath of fresh air.
40-55 year old men typically find women 20 years younger than them to be a breath of fresh air compared to women near their own age.
At 41, I would much prefer to date a college senior or recent college grad (21-25 years old) as compared to a 37-41 year old woman. I would find a 21-25 year old to be a breath of fresh air at this point in my life.
