I’m not ignoring comorbidity. Depression and substance misuse tends to be present in many cases.
I do think there is a higher prevalance of self centreness among millennials female AND male because of social media and other self absorbed activities that are encouraged and supported in today’s society. I can see that having an effect on pair bonding, yeah, but that’s not indicative of a personality disorder. That’s just the times of self worship.
I think, and I can only go by my experiences with people with BPD and I’m sure you can relate even more, is that they change the atmosphere in a room. It’s like you know something is off, they change the air. It’s very different from dealing with a person who is just self centred or immature. How they will say something and look at you in a way that people without BPD don’t. They are looking for buttons to push. It’s almost creepy. They know how to read people and they know how to feed the male ego in a way that is almost sociopathic.
Again, im not trying to downplay someone’s experience with someone who actually has BPD and I can see how that experience would leave a lasting mark.
I’m just weary of all negative attributes being attributed to a personality disorder.
I think it's erroneous to impose the real world statistics to the statistics on this site. PUA is basically just teaching otherwise codependent men to adopt more overtly narcissistic traits. If you think about it PUA also teaches push/pull, being "unpredictable" - interested one minute, indifferent the next, spinning plates to hedge our bets emotionally, etc etc. So when these men go out there and practice this stuff they start attracting the crazies. It's even worse when they actually get good at it. The better you get at PUA stuff, the crazier the ***** you tend to attract.
But deep in their core they're still that codependent looking for true love so when the whole thing blows up in their faces they do a Google search and this site shows up. This alone would skew the percentages way above that of the real world statistics.
BPD is a standard survival strategy on steroids. I’m not seeing anything that they do to any cuck, as being different than any other cuck.
The susceptibility to being cucked to a woman with a strategy on steroids rests in the man and not the woman. Reports say more and more are becoming BPD.
No. We are just more able to see one due to our ability to communicate across the world. I believe that it is an unrestrained social immunity that allows women adopt a survival strategy that is particularly damamging to feminized men.
Did the women get stronger or did the men actually get weaker?
Something that I learned here on SS. You can adopt the mindset and skills to bed 200 women and still be hopelessly feminized. A cuck in camouflage just right for the pickings.
Of all the things I’ve read that a BPD does...well all women could confess to doing them at least once. If they had the capacity to feel remorse towards a cuck. Which they don’t. So there’s no confession coming.
Name even one of those things that a woman won’t do to bring about her survival. The purpose of learning is to confront. Not run away. Men don’t run away. They confront the things in their life and handle them.
Here’s my point. These women were not born with super powers or able to leap tall buildings in a single bound. They know how to get from a cuck what they need to survive.
It’s not dangerous women you need to concentrate on but feminized men who have no defense because they don’t know they are little girls on the inside.
I half agree with this. A friend had a falling out with a girl in our social circle and told me that she was a psychopath yada yada. I told him just let it go and work on himself and stuff. This same girl then invited me over for dinner one day and having experience with bpd chicks before and keeping in mind the friend's report on her being a psycho I went anyway just to see what's up. I didn't **** her on the first date although she definitely wanted some ****.
****ed her on the second date and on the third told her that I'm not available for a committed relationship right there in bed before ****ing her for the third time. The same exact girl, who for my friend was a psycho ***** but for me was standard operating procedure to get a plate. So there's that.
But the part I don't disagree with is that BPD chicks do the double bind, which normal chicks don't do. They set things up so you can never win.
Normal chicks might use bad behavior to test you, but normal chicks are actually afraid of being abandoned by a high SMV man, and will fall in line. Problems start when the man loses frame and they lose respect for the man.
With borderline chicks it's different. They
crave abandonment. So they set things up so that they feel that from you. Then when they do they don't like you anymore and paint you black. Then after a while the feeling subsides and you're painted white again and rinse and repeat.
The more potent the abandonment they can feel from you, the more likely they are to come back and hoover. Abandonment is their drug, not love. I think you can even hone it down to a formula:
Abandonment potency = (Extreme of idealisation - extreme of devaluation) / time spent together
That's the reason why they are so attached to their abusive npd boyfriends. NPDs also idealise and devalue, and the more severe the condition, the shorter the cycles.
Normal women do not do this, and to assume that they do betrays a grave misunderstanding of the condition. In any case I've managed to keep my ex bpd away because I don't offer any abandonment potency anymore. She knows she cannot affect me using neither praise nor insult, so she's off idealizing some poor 50 year old blokes who'll get the devaluation soon enough. Poor chap is tagging her on posts in social media he's probably thinking he hit the jackpot since bpds are usually quite hot.
