Lostsoul,
Let me tell you a little story about a "friend" of mine. Over a year ago, I was going through a transition in my life. At the time, there was a co-worker of mine who got real close with me. We were friends at the time. She helped me through a lot, and there was no real attraction... because we were co-workers and because she wasn't at that point and I wasn't at that point.
As months went on, I finally was able to move onto a better job and she stayed working at the same place. We were such good friends, that after I left, we kept contact and kept hanging out and going out as we usually did all the time.
Eventually, we started spending so much time together that the interaction and the dynamic change. We realized we were really compatible and could actually see us dating each other at some point. Once that happened, it switched. I was congruent the whole time though. Never once before that point had I seen her as anything more than just a friend. I wasn't measuring "dates" or gauging "kissing interactions". I just saw her as a friend and nothing more. She heard of all the times I went out and there were women and we'd talk about it. She knew I was socially active and it wasn't a problem for her. I always knew she was cute, I just never thought of her in that way until the last few months. Maybe she saw me the same way. Maybe she didn't. Who knows? Who cares?
It's been months and she couldn't possibly see herself going out with anyone else. But did we force the issue or was I sitting there trying to kiss her since Day 1 and saying to myself that I was playing the long game? Absolutely not. That's not my type of interaction.
You are doing completely the opposite. You are purposely trying to get her to be your long-term girlfriend by going the friend route. You can sit here and deny it til you are blue in the face, but you know it's exactly what you are doing... hence the thread and hence the last post. You are TRYING to make it work via the friend route. I almost guarantee you'd have better luck doing that with a 27 year old than with a 37 year old.
i said hope you feel better and let me know when you are free and she said thanks and will do.
Don't be surprised when she doesn't get back to or if she does... she'll probably do so because she is bored and has no other options.
You need to stop pedestalizing this woman. A 28 seeking a 37 year old... the interaction isn't... friends first. I could pretty much guarantee she's disappointed herself in how this is all playing out. She doesn't even get to brag about you with her 40 year old harpy friends... that's a shame.