brief background: been dating this girl for like a month. She says she really likes me, she says she misses me, she says she is excited to see me, etc etc. But not all just words, she acts like she likes me a lot as well. tells me this stuff to my face. I like her too, but want to take things slow, slowish anyway, not snail's pace.
Also, I could most probably be in a relationship with her now, she has hinted at it, even asked me to ask her when she was a bit drunk. and even when sober said she would think it was nice. So pretty sure if I wanted to jump right in I could. I refused though, I want to make sure. Someone on here told me I wasn't a challenge after I got with my ex after 1 month, and I've taken that on board.
Anywayyyy....I'm not sure whether I trust her. She has said that I can and should trust her, and that she wants to prove to me that I can. We're at the stage where we have both said that we wouldn't want to get with other people, and she has said that she likes me a lot and wouldn't want to ruin that.
However, facebook ruining everything again, I notice that a guy who blatantly likes her (she has admitted before that she knows he likes her as well) has said that to her on her wall that he hasn't been inboxed today, and then later I see that he said he's used to her inboxing her. She just said that we'll more than likely catch up soon to him. What am I supposed to think?! I want to trust this girl. But I want to know whether I am just over-reacting or not?! After all, she isn't in a relationship with me. And after all, it could just be nothing.
I mean, I know she isn't meeting up with him or anything like, and at the end of the day, she's coming home and sleeping with me. And I'd tell you if I had a gut feeling she was doing this with others. I mean I can't be 100% she isn't I suppose, but you can't be 100% about anything! I'm just like 99% sure she isn't.
BUT, it does bother me that she would be inboxing guys that she knows like her. Am I being jealous? I think she is a girl who just likes the male attention, maybe a bit of a flirt. This isn't a post about her sleeping with other guys or anything. But I'm not sure I'm comfortable with her even inboxing other guys. But I'm not sure whether I'm just being overly jealous?
Like I said, she's the one going out with me, wanting a relationship with me, sleeping with me, sending me cute messages, etc. And I could be in a relationship with her. Its just hard because I want to trust her for me to consider a relationship with her, but at the same time, she can do what she wants because I'm not in a relationship with her when I probably could be....it's a really difficult situation...It's like I want exclusivity with her, but I'm not willing to commit to her yet...wtf!
I've read posts on here before saying not to show jealousy because its a turn off, which is true. And I haven't shown it...although if I'm feeling it there is obviously a chance that it will shine through at some point...
EDIT: I've just realised, my last post on here was 'how not to get attached and bed a girl' or something like that. Look at me now! fail
help! haha
Also, I could most probably be in a relationship with her now, she has hinted at it, even asked me to ask her when she was a bit drunk. and even when sober said she would think it was nice. So pretty sure if I wanted to jump right in I could. I refused though, I want to make sure. Someone on here told me I wasn't a challenge after I got with my ex after 1 month, and I've taken that on board.
Anywayyyy....I'm not sure whether I trust her. She has said that I can and should trust her, and that she wants to prove to me that I can. We're at the stage where we have both said that we wouldn't want to get with other people, and she has said that she likes me a lot and wouldn't want to ruin that.
However, facebook ruining everything again, I notice that a guy who blatantly likes her (she has admitted before that she knows he likes her as well) has said that to her on her wall that he hasn't been inboxed today, and then later I see that he said he's used to her inboxing her. She just said that we'll more than likely catch up soon to him. What am I supposed to think?! I want to trust this girl. But I want to know whether I am just over-reacting or not?! After all, she isn't in a relationship with me. And after all, it could just be nothing.
I mean, I know she isn't meeting up with him or anything like, and at the end of the day, she's coming home and sleeping with me. And I'd tell you if I had a gut feeling she was doing this with others. I mean I can't be 100% she isn't I suppose, but you can't be 100% about anything! I'm just like 99% sure she isn't.
BUT, it does bother me that she would be inboxing guys that she knows like her. Am I being jealous? I think she is a girl who just likes the male attention, maybe a bit of a flirt. This isn't a post about her sleeping with other guys or anything. But I'm not sure I'm comfortable with her even inboxing other guys. But I'm not sure whether I'm just being overly jealous?
Like I said, she's the one going out with me, wanting a relationship with me, sleeping with me, sending me cute messages, etc. And I could be in a relationship with her. Its just hard because I want to trust her for me to consider a relationship with her, but at the same time, she can do what she wants because I'm not in a relationship with her when I probably could be....it's a really difficult situation...It's like I want exclusivity with her, but I'm not willing to commit to her yet...wtf!
I've read posts on here before saying not to show jealousy because its a turn off, which is true. And I haven't shown it...although if I'm feeling it there is obviously a chance that it will shine through at some point...
EDIT: I've just realised, my last post on here was 'how not to get attached and bed a girl' or something like that. Look at me now! fail
help! haha
