Now, addressing the issue of women with bf's.... fuc-k'em. A bf is just that, a boy "friend". He doesn't own her or anything. If that girl is trying to get in your pants or falling in love with you, go ahead and go for it. I have never had a gf "stolen" from me, but I can guarantee if I did, I would know she wasn't the right girl for me anyway. Girls jump from man to man, so just accept that, and live with it.
You are starting to sound just like me.... I never did see the big deal about a girl with a BF... He isn't married to her (and even then I personally wouldn't give a damn, but you get the point)... Boyfriend is a term made popular by TV that most AFC's have been brainwashed to believe is what you are supposed to do.
If a guy can take my GF from me, more power to him.
You are not passionate about anything. Girls absolutely love passionate guys. If you are not passionate about something, then you will become boring. Boring is never a good thing.
That is true, but I doubt that's the reason why he is getting NO girls... A girl you meet at say... the Club, isn't going to look over at you and say "damn, that guy right there is very passionate about X!"
however, if you meet her, and she gives you a low interest, that usually is the reason... Then again the girl that bought me to this site, was with a guy for 3 years that was a bumb in every sense of the word, and only passion was doing coke.
The thing about being passionate is it keeps you occupided... I like women.. I like women alot, but there are certain things I am more passionate about, so if I have no women in my life at a certain time, I"m not going to go crazy like there is this huge missing void in my life.
Because it's just as important to have balance is it is to have passion... All the passion in the world will do you no good, if you don't give a girl ANY attention... a major problem I had when I was running my company... I had little/no balance in my life.
Most people are bored out of their minds, and few have truly interesting lives. This doesn't mean partying, clubbing, "hanging out" with friends, bar-hopping, or any of that typical shi-t.... I am talking about REAL hobbies, careers, interests, and ambitions
You speak the truth. As much as I love my two best friends, and any other person I know, I don't see how they do it. One of my two best friends is the only one I could see myself being.. he is extremely passionate about music and is doing something about it. He reminds me of me execpt probably a little less dedicated to what he does.
That's one thing I noticed about "hot women"... NOt that they are dumb, or are stuck up or anything like that, because most people are by default somewhat good people that wants to be treated with respect, but that they have no... depth to them... they are uninteresting besides them being "hot".
This one girl I am seeing, can't go a 30 mintue conversation without mentioning a guy hitting on her, not becasue she is trying to get to me, but simply because she knows nothing else to talk about, which is sad in it's own way.
I know girls who mope durning the week, living for Thursday, Friday and Saturday nights... You live your life for maybe 6-10 hours a week? There are 168 hours in a week, that's a pretty bad tradeoff.
I remember the first time I hung out with my younger cousin, who is 20... All he and his friends do, is get together and talk about girls... NOt go SEE girls... not go out and MEET girls... but talk ABOUT them... That was odd and new to me, because I'm not used to that... My friends and I don't talk.. we do. When we are together, we are watching sports, playing pool, playing video games and girls pop up, we don't have to talk about them... It's like they were having this big ass piss test... My younger cousin would talk about all these girls that like him, and make no mistake, he isn't bad looking at all, I have no problem taking him with me wherever I go, but only to be at home alone every night of the week.
That's the tradeoff most people make... Preception vs. Reality.
As far as women being approached... Every woman gets approached.. if she is above average looking.. Probaby 1-2 times a day..
Now, she might not get approached by guys she deems "right", but she gets approached, make no m istake about that.
But what does that mean? So what if she gets appraoched or not? What does her getting approached have to do with me liking her or not?
In the GRAND scheme of things, you have to keep it simple...
1) You take what you want.. Not what you can get. Not what you can settle for, not what you can live with... What you WANT
2) LIfe isn't about women, and one, regardless of who you are, should have a passion for life, because first and foremost, life isn't guaranteed and shouldn't be taken for granted.
It's very very sad and true, but most people are dumb.. not stupid, but dumb.
Most guys live a self fufilling dream. They work a regular 9-5. Don't work out, don't read, don't learn, don't have any hobbies... They watch MTV and BET and any other TV show that tells them how "special" a certian select few are and how they will suck the rest of their lives. They watch TV shows that worship women and then they go out to clubs and bars hoping to hook up with women, and it never happens if it does, the guy has drastcially changed his standards in the prusuit of sex.
Repeat each week.
That's a very, very sad life to live.
If you aren't changed by life, you are not living life. It's that simple.
If you don't want to get up and making the most out of your life, you don't deserve to have hot women licking your balls. If you don't workout and are out of shape and have no ambition, you are generally going to attract women who dont' workout, are out of shape, and have no ambition, and be lucky to have her.
I for one, don't need women as a motivating factor... while we are putting our cards on the table, there are two things that motivate me in life... One is the fear of being broke. I am no where near being broke, but I like money. I will chase money before women 7 days a week. Hell if push came to shove, you can buy a woman.
The second is setting a good example... and that is probably the most important thing... Me being African American... there aren't too many positive examples of people who take what they want... in a legal and positive way and aren't afraid of hard work, and have their prorities in order. Also, it's nice to see someone accel in something other than Rap or sports from time to time. That honestly means a lot to me, because that's something I didnt have growing up... I want my 2 little brothers and little sister to look up and be proud that I am their older brother. They don't have to look any father then their own family tree to see someone who is successful.
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