All it takes is One Slip

[GoodMan32]

If it's happening in the known universe, it's natural. Maybe it's not "sustainable" for men who can't handle being nexted. You're saying you want an arbitrator to force someone to go back to a moment when she liked you better. OK. There are countries you can emigrate to that are more favorable to this scenario, fyi.

I know I replied to you this morning. But I just thought of a perfect analogy.

For anyone on this forum, I guarantee all of our dads did something that rubbed our moms the wrong way in the first few months of dating.

Imagine if broads back then "nexted" a man as easily as broads in 2024 "next" a man. None of our parents ever would have blossomed into long-term couples.

Which is a classic illustration of something @SW15 has pointed out before: A lot of Gen X and Boomer men would be incels (or borderline incels) had they been born as Millennials or Gen Z.

 

[Vanderdonck]

Pedophilia happens, yet that doesn't make it natural.

As for getting nexted, the problem isn't an individual man being unable to "handle" getting nexted. The problem is the fact broads have gotten way too out-of-control with nexting; it impacts way too many men.

Nexting a looksmatch (or in many cases, a better-looking man) over a trivial reason is stupid.

I'm not necessarily saying I want to force her to go back to a moment when she liked me better; I'm saying I want her to get a grip on reality (And let trivial transgressions slide...or at the very least, give him a chance after his trivial transgression, rather than immediately nexting him)

As an analogy, I had a job interview once where I made a comment the interviewer took the wrong way. The interviewer then spent the rest of the interview putting words in my mouth (and basically telling me what a bad candidate I was). It became clear that I lost any chance at getting the job after that comment the interviewer took the wrong way. A job I was overqualified for. That pisses me off too. Same concept as a mediocre broad nexting a man over the slightest reason.

As another analogy, imagine if a company fired any employee the first time they did even the slightest thing wrong. Think of what an unsustainable business model that would be.

Nexting a man because he did a slight thing that rubbed her the wrong way has a negative impact on the broad too, as it could lead to her nexting her soulmate ("nexting" a never-ending supply of men also hurts her ability to pair bond)

Most importantly, with how easily a broad will next a man in 2024, there's a valid question of: Why should men even bother with pursuing broads if she's just going to next us the first time we slip up?

Which countries are more favorable to what I'm looking for by the way?

Well I can't really throw stones when it comes to nexting. It's a matter of abundance. I'm far less likely to put up with annoyances because I know I can move on to the next woman. So if early on she fails one of my tests, she's out. I think these things happen as they should. For example I was seeing a girl, went to her place, and saw her apartment was way too messy. Nexted her after that. Sounds harsh perhaps but it's one of my standards. And I'm making long term judgments based on a piece of information - it's part of our evolutionary hard wiring. I've also made the mistake of NOT nexting when I should have and wound up in toxicity, so I trust my instincts.

So if a girl does it to me, I don't sweat it. Game recognizes game.

As for nexting your soul mate, I don't believe in that concept but even if it were true, then they weren't meant to be, obviously.

 

[Vanderdonck]

Which countries are more favorable to what I'm looking for by the way?

Any muslim-majority country, especially theocracies. Some east Asian countries. The Balkans but they are going to change rapidly soon. The hard core patriarchies.

I see some red pillers constantly wishing for the good old days (which never existed) but they never pack up and leave.

 

[SW15]

For anyone on this forum, I guarantee all of our dads did something that rubbed our moms the wrong way in the first few months of dating.

Imagine if broads back then "nexted" a man as easily as broads in 2024 "next" a man. None of our parents ever would have blossomed into long-term couples.

Which is a classic illustration of something @SW15 has pointed out before: A lot of Gen X and Boomer men would be incels (or borderline incels) had they been born as Millennials or Gen Z.

Millennial women have been known to next men very quickly, especially when they meet men from real life stranger approaches or tech-based methods. Millennial women might tolerate more slip ups if they meet a man from a social circle introduction or if he's a total Chad.

Baby Boomer women didn't behave like this in their youthful years of the late 1960s - early 1980s.

 

[GoodMan32]

Well I can't really throw stones when it comes to nexting. It's a matter of abundance. I'm far less likely to put up with annoyances because I know I can move on to the next woman. So if early on she fails one of my tests, she's out. I think these things happen as they should. For example I was seeing a girl, went to her place, and saw her apartment was way too messy. Nexted her after that. Sounds harsh perhaps but it's one of my standards. And I'm making long term judgments based on a piece of information - it's part of our evolutionary hard wiring. I've also made the mistake of NOT nexting when I should have and wound up in toxicity, so I trust my instincts.

So if a girl does it to me, I don't sweat it. Game recognizes game.

As for nexting your soul mate, I don't believe in that concept but even if it were true, then they weren't meant to be, obviously.

As surprising as this might sound, I'm prone to nexting a broad too.

The difference between me nexting a broad vs a broad nexting me, on the other hand: There's a high chance I won't find a replacement for her (whereas the broad, simply by having a juicebox between her legs, could easily find a replacement for me)

As for the soulmate thing, I'm not necessarily saying the woman I had my last date with was my soulmate. But with how high her interest level was (sky high), chances are the b1tch would have turned out happy if she hadn't sorta nexted me a mere 4 days after our first date.

 

[GoodMan32]

Any muslim-majority country, especially theocracies. Some east Asian countries. The Balkans but they are going to change rapidly soon. The hard core patriarchies.

I see some red pillers constantly wishing for the good old days (which never existed) but they never pack up and leave.

Good to know.

As for why we don't pack up and leave, it's been pointed out on this forum before that immigrating to another country is a major challenge (it's not as simple as moving another state)

Best case scenario in most cases, American men might be able to get a short term (at most, 6 months) tourist visa.

Additionally, while Middle Eastern countries tend to be massive partiarchies, a westerner trying to get with the local broads isn't going to end well (try that in Saudi Arabia, you'll get stoned)

In my case at least, I suppose it's true to say the good old days I yearn for never fully existed (My version of the good old days were the days when a broad was way less likely to next you...and on top of that, I like older. In the days when broads were way less likely to next you, the cougar thing was basically nonexistent)

 

[GoodMan32]

Millennial women have been known to next men very quickly, especially when they meet men from real life stranger approaches or tech-based methods. Millennial women might tolerate more slip ups if they meet a man from a social circle introduction or if he's a total Chad.

Baby Boomer women didn't behave like this in their youthful years of the late 1960s - early 1980s.

Thanks for making my case.

 

[Vanderdonck]

Good to know.

As for why we don't pack up and leave, it's been pointed out on this forum before that immigrating to another country is a major challenge (it's not as simple as moving another state)

Best case scenario in most cases, American men might be able to get a short term (at most, 6 months) tourist visa.

Additionally, while Middle Eastern countries tend to be massive partiarchies, a westerner trying to get with the local broads isn't going to end well (try that in Saudi Arabia, you'll get stoned)

In my case at least, I suppose it's true to say the good old days I yearn for never fully existed (My version of the good old days were the days when a broad was way less likely to next you...and on top of that, I like older. In the days when broads were way less likely to next you, the cougar thing was basically nonexistent)

Massive patriarchy is what a lot of guys here long for, but they don't want the tradeoff which is as you've described. Can't have it all, fellas. If you want a wife who obeys by law you won't be able to go out and do pickup. (Hookers yes.)

However it is not hard to get a visa or emigrate, many of these countries will be happy to take an American. Some in EE (muslim-majority) will give a yearlong visa no questions asked. Just show up. Most men would rather complain though.

 

[itouchyou]

Without reading the OP's post, I agree with the thread title, it doesn't take much for me to lose interest in a woman.

 

[GoodMan32]

Without reading the OP's post, I agree with the thread title, it doesn't take much for me to lose interest in a woman.

There's a big difference between a man nexting a woman vs a woman nexting a man.

 

[Vanderdonck]

There's a big difference between a man nexting a woman vs a woman nexting a man.

How do you mean?

 

[GoodMan32]

How do you mean?

If a man nexts a woman, he could be in for a long drought.

If a woman nexts a man, she could be riding another guy's bamboo within 24 hours.

 

[GoodMan32]

You're way too jealous of other guy's bamboo to be understand that a man should next all women who are not at his level. Only a dog sniffs every lamppost. Showing discernment in mating partners shows high self-esteem. Men with high self-esteem rarely have 'long droughts'. That level of maturity is attractive to most women, who do not like guys who will put their trouser snakes in every opening hole.

The fact I've turned down first date sex (despite the fact I was naked in bed with a broad) on multiple occasions proves I don't seek to stick my snake in every available hole.

As for nexting, I totally encourage men to next a broad if he feels the need. Why? Because when a man nexts a broad, it's typically for a much better reason than some of the reasons broads use to next a man.

I myself have certain reasons I'd next a broad.

 

[GoodMan32]

I say you're too jealous, because:

you seem to care too much about your 'competition' putting their penis in her. You even specify the possible timeframe.

Why would you care if a woman you 'next' rides a million of penises? You passed her over. You don't want to have sex with her. Let her have sex with other people, why would you be concerned about her sexual activities?

I'm fine with a woman I nexted riding a million other sausages. As you said, I passed her over.

What I hate is the thought of a woman who nexted me riding another sausage. Then again, I don't even want her to ride my sausage. I want her to bend over for me (my favorite position is doggy)

 

[Vanderdonck]

If a man nexts a woman, he could be in for a long drought.

If a woman nexts a man, she could be riding another guy's bamboo within 24 hours.

I suppose that is true, but one really has nothing to do with the other. As a man I can't be worried about what other women are going to do with their lives, it's just not relevant to me.

Furthermore staying with a chick out of fear of a long drought is way worse than nexting out of confidence. Women pick up on subcomms, but more importantly so does one's own brain.

A man with high enough standards to next and the right mindset is not likely to experience a drought, and if he does, so what.

 

[GoodMan32]

I suppose that is true, but one really has nothing to do with the other. As a man I can't be worried about what other women are going to do with their lives, it's just not relevant to me.

Furthermore staying with a chick out of fear of a long drought is way worse than nexting out of confidence. Women pick up on subcomms, but more importantly so does one's own brain.

A man with high enough standards to next and the right mindset is not likely to experience a drought, and if he does, so what.

When "what a woman does with her life" is to next you, it is relevant to you.

You're right when you say staying with a woman simply because you're afraid you'll have a drought if you next her is a bad idea. Incidentally, the fact we could end up with a long drought if we next her is why we typically have a damn good reason to next her. It takes a lot for a man to risk putting himself in a position where he could end up with a long drought.

On the other hand, it's been pointed out on this forum that a woman will next a man over something as trivial as not liking the way we look in one picture (even if the broad likes every other picture she's seen of us)

Since I'm on a 3 and a half year dry spell, perhaps I'm extra jaded. For me, long dry spells are a fact of life.

 

[Vanderdonck]

When "what a woman does with her life" is to next you, it is relevant to you.

You're right when you say staying with a woman simply because you're afraid you'll have a drought if you next her is a bad idea. Incidentally, the fact we could end up with a long drought if we next her is why we typically have a damn good reason to next her. It takes a lot for a man to risk putting himself in a position where he could end up with a long drought.

On the other hand, it's been pointed out on this forum that a woman will next a man over something as trivial as not liking the way we look in one picture (even if the broad likes every other picture she's seen of us)

Since I'm on a 3 and a half year dry spell, perhaps I'm extra jaded. For me, long dry spells are a fact of life.

I was referring to a woman fukking other guys - it isn't relevant.

If she nexts me, that affects me minimally. So what? I haven't lost anything. The only real reason is she isn't attracted sufficiently. What guys talk about on this forum is often just hen pecking.

Sorry to hear about your dry spell though.

 

[GoodMan32]

I was referring to a woman fukking other guys - it isn't relevant.

If she nexts me, that affects me minimally. So what? I haven't lost anything. The only real reason is she isn't attracted sufficiently. What guys talk about on this forum is often just hen pecking.

Sorry to hear about your dry spell though.

When your opportunities with the ladies are as few and far between as mine, getting nexted is a major loss.

 

[SW15]

When your opportunities with the ladies are as few and far between as mine, getting nexted is a major loss.

The way to increase opportunities is to improve SMV. You need to improve SMV.

Both initial attraction and retention (which you just made a thread about) are issues of looks, money, status, and personality.

I've been a big believer in looks and money being most important.

The personality side of the equation is probably going to be the biggest issue for you, though there are issues in the other 3 areas. Women will generally not be experiencing "all the feelz" with you, especially the younger Millennial women who would be most open to someone your age on paper. Millennial women have been known to be more about 'vibes' and 'feels' than others. Meanwhile, most 45+ women aren't going to be open to you and are likely thinking you're weird.

my struggles with the ladies go way beyond mere social awkwardness

I was having a DM discussion with another member where I mentioned how my struggles with the ladies go beyond mere social awkwardness/ASD. Come to think of it, I suppose the topic warrants its own thread. In addition to my ASD/social awkwardness, there are many other factors working against me...

www.sosuave.net

 

[RangerMIke]

If all it takes is one slip, then you had a woman that really wasn't that into you. It is also true that women are spoiled for choice. Which believe it or not is driving them just as nuts as it is for men.

You can't control women... all you can do is respond to what they do. If a woman cuts you lose after one 'slip' just let her go and stop thinking about her. Let her go find a man that will twist himself into knots trying to keep her happy... someone she will lose respect for then continue to torture the poor b@sterd until he finds his balls and gives up, or she starts fvcking another dude she is attracted too, while he sits in the corner crying.