AlphaAchiever
Don Juan
Hi, this is my first post here, I love this forum as well as Heartiste and Rational Male, it has helped me a lot during the last 18 months. By the way, Im 39 and she is 29.
Ok, here is my story. I met this chick from Match, a solid HB9, top 3 girl I have ever dated. We had a great first date, I took her to this local bar where we went for drinks.
My frame is ****y & funny and we are having a good time, she is giving me strong indicators of interest, she is laughing, relaxed and she looks at me nonstop during the whole night.
I´m gradually escalating kinowise, I touch her sholders, arms, stomack, legs, hands as we are sitting next to each other on bar stools. Two hours passed, and I wanna take this one to the next level (kiss her to begin with). So, I tell her that we will leave the bar (its raining outside, and she says that she will get a cab. I´m fine with that, my next move is to isolate her outside under the umbrella and give her a kiss, thats what I do, she resists first, then I just smile at her, then we walk a couple of feet, and then I go in for the kiss again, and now she accepts it, then I say, you know we can go to my place for drinks (I live nearby). She nicely declines my offer but tells me that I could ride along in the cab (good indicator of interest) and I agree, hey, its raining like crazy. So we get in the cab and continue making out and then she drops me off at my place and we say goodbye.
This was on a thursday, and I decided to not contact her until sunday to set up date number 2. I text her on sunday and ask her if she had done any trampolining during the weekend (we talked about that on date 1). She answered no, and she thanked me for date 1. We also played the game “Angry Game” during our first date, which I won 4 times in a row, (you stare at each other and as soon as you start laughing, you loose. So, I asked her if she wanted revenge in the angry game and she agreed.
So, we set up this date 2 on thursday (picknick by the sea, in the evening). I bring wine and she bring some tuna sallad. We meet up and ride together on my bike, I wanted her to hold on to me while riding the bike, just to get some kino going from the start.
Anyways, we arrive on this great spot, the sun is shining and everything is fine. We start eating and drinking and as soon as we are done eating I touch her hand a little and we are just having a good time chatting about her upcoming party and what her friends are like. Then I go for the kiss and she reciprocate. Then I lay on top of her, and we continue kissing and I do push pull all the time. I also kid around that we should go skinna dipping, and she plays along, yeah maybe later.
Well, the sun sets and its about time to leave, I suggest that we head over to my place for some drinks and she says she will think about it during the bike ride home. Ok, now we are on our way back and we are riding on a gravelled road and then all of a sudden i get this fix idea that I should skid with the bike while she is on the back (yeah its totally crazy, but I´m a little drunk and this is what I do) and of course we fall, she is having a dress and wearing a designer jacket. Anyways, our speed is not high, maybe 10 mph but we fall and hurt ourselves, she get scratchmarks on her hand and her right knee and start bleeding and then she says that her jacket cost 2000 dollars and we have a look at it, but thankfully, its not ruined. She also says that it is really bad for a girl to get scars on her legs and I can of course understand that. Im just, wtf did just happen here? I really screwed up. She is really upset, not crying, but shocked and she asked why I did this and I just said, I dont know.
Well, she wanna go home as soon as possible and I agree, thats a good idea. I suggest that we head home to my place first since its on the way and I would give her bandaid, but she decline. We continue our bike ride and I stop frequently to check up on her and hold her. She get a little less upset and finally on the bridge, we look at the view (its a nice sunset) and we kiss a little bit, I just felt I had to reconnect some how. Then when we are almost at my place, I ask her again if she would like to come up to my place to get a bandaid and smoke a peace pipe (symbolically) by having a glass of wine. She agrees to this and we head to my place and we fix her wound. Then we have a glass of wine and then we start making out, but after 10 minutes, she says that she would like to go home. I agree, and ask her if she wants to walk (its about 15 minutes) and she says she would like that, I ask her if I could follow her to her door and she agrees. So, we walk over to her apartment, and I hold her hand and we are having a good conversation. We switch position while walking and she grabs my other hand. Then we reach her apartment and we kiss again and I ask her if she would like to hang out on sunday (now is thursday) and she says that I could call her on sunday because she is meeting a friend in the afternoon but that we maybe could meet during the evening.
Even though I managed to handle the aftermath quite decent I knew that this could mean trouble, I knew she would talk to her friends and they would most likely side with her and think that I am a real idiot. Ok, so the next morning I sent her a text and ask her how she is doing and tell her that I hope she will have a great day. She does not respond to my text and I decide to lay low until sunday.
So, yesterday (sunday), I give her a call and she doesnt answer, I wait 2,5 hrs and then text her I am really sorry for what happened and that I would like to make it up to her by cooking her dinner. She respond in 50 minutes and says thank you for my text, but adds that she felt really bad after the date and that we might be too differrent and she said it was nice getting to know me and ends with, “have a great autumn”
I havent responded to this (now 18 hrs), I´m just thinking going no contact, but since i didnt get to fvck her, if feels really ****ty, and besides, she seems to be a cool girl with potential. Anyways, Sosuave fighters, is there anything I can do to salvage this, I would really appreciate your thoughts on this. And also, how could I have handled this differently?
Ok, here is my story. I met this chick from Match, a solid HB9, top 3 girl I have ever dated. We had a great first date, I took her to this local bar where we went for drinks.
My frame is ****y & funny and we are having a good time, she is giving me strong indicators of interest, she is laughing, relaxed and she looks at me nonstop during the whole night.
I´m gradually escalating kinowise, I touch her sholders, arms, stomack, legs, hands as we are sitting next to each other on bar stools. Two hours passed, and I wanna take this one to the next level (kiss her to begin with). So, I tell her that we will leave the bar (its raining outside, and she says that she will get a cab. I´m fine with that, my next move is to isolate her outside under the umbrella and give her a kiss, thats what I do, she resists first, then I just smile at her, then we walk a couple of feet, and then I go in for the kiss again, and now she accepts it, then I say, you know we can go to my place for drinks (I live nearby). She nicely declines my offer but tells me that I could ride along in the cab (good indicator of interest) and I agree, hey, its raining like crazy. So we get in the cab and continue making out and then she drops me off at my place and we say goodbye.
This was on a thursday, and I decided to not contact her until sunday to set up date number 2. I text her on sunday and ask her if she had done any trampolining during the weekend (we talked about that on date 1). She answered no, and she thanked me for date 1. We also played the game “Angry Game” during our first date, which I won 4 times in a row, (you stare at each other and as soon as you start laughing, you loose. So, I asked her if she wanted revenge in the angry game and she agreed.
So, we set up this date 2 on thursday (picknick by the sea, in the evening). I bring wine and she bring some tuna sallad. We meet up and ride together on my bike, I wanted her to hold on to me while riding the bike, just to get some kino going from the start.
Anyways, we arrive on this great spot, the sun is shining and everything is fine. We start eating and drinking and as soon as we are done eating I touch her hand a little and we are just having a good time chatting about her upcoming party and what her friends are like. Then I go for the kiss and she reciprocate. Then I lay on top of her, and we continue kissing and I do push pull all the time. I also kid around that we should go skinna dipping, and she plays along, yeah maybe later.
Well, the sun sets and its about time to leave, I suggest that we head over to my place for some drinks and she says she will think about it during the bike ride home. Ok, now we are on our way back and we are riding on a gravelled road and then all of a sudden i get this fix idea that I should skid with the bike while she is on the back (yeah its totally crazy, but I´m a little drunk and this is what I do) and of course we fall, she is having a dress and wearing a designer jacket. Anyways, our speed is not high, maybe 10 mph but we fall and hurt ourselves, she get scratchmarks on her hand and her right knee and start bleeding and then she says that her jacket cost 2000 dollars and we have a look at it, but thankfully, its not ruined. She also says that it is really bad for a girl to get scars on her legs and I can of course understand that. Im just, wtf did just happen here? I really screwed up. She is really upset, not crying, but shocked and she asked why I did this and I just said, I dont know.
Well, she wanna go home as soon as possible and I agree, thats a good idea. I suggest that we head home to my place first since its on the way and I would give her bandaid, but she decline. We continue our bike ride and I stop frequently to check up on her and hold her. She get a little less upset and finally on the bridge, we look at the view (its a nice sunset) and we kiss a little bit, I just felt I had to reconnect some how. Then when we are almost at my place, I ask her again if she would like to come up to my place to get a bandaid and smoke a peace pipe (symbolically) by having a glass of wine. She agrees to this and we head to my place and we fix her wound. Then we have a glass of wine and then we start making out, but after 10 minutes, she says that she would like to go home. I agree, and ask her if she wants to walk (its about 15 minutes) and she says she would like that, I ask her if I could follow her to her door and she agrees. So, we walk over to her apartment, and I hold her hand and we are having a good conversation. We switch position while walking and she grabs my other hand. Then we reach her apartment and we kiss again and I ask her if she would like to hang out on sunday (now is thursday) and she says that I could call her on sunday because she is meeting a friend in the afternoon but that we maybe could meet during the evening.
Even though I managed to handle the aftermath quite decent I knew that this could mean trouble, I knew she would talk to her friends and they would most likely side with her and think that I am a real idiot. Ok, so the next morning I sent her a text and ask her how she is doing and tell her that I hope she will have a great day. She does not respond to my text and I decide to lay low until sunday.
So, yesterday (sunday), I give her a call and she doesnt answer, I wait 2,5 hrs and then text her I am really sorry for what happened and that I would like to make it up to her by cooking her dinner. She respond in 50 minutes and says thank you for my text, but adds that she felt really bad after the date and that we might be too differrent and she said it was nice getting to know me and ends with, “have a great autumn”
I havent responded to this (now 18 hrs), I´m just thinking going no contact, but since i didnt get to fvck her, if feels really ****ty, and besides, she seems to be a cool girl with potential. Anyways, Sosuave fighters, is there anything I can do to salvage this, I would really appreciate your thoughts on this. And also, how could I have handled this differently?
