Hey man, this is Steve.
This approach of asking if they have a BF is so ineffective.
If its the way you do things, then yes...it would be ineffective for you...but for Agent Zero...he's getting to the point. Will he face more rejection based off it, yea...but so what? He's finding out what he wants to...he most likely just wants a girlfriend...so i see nothing wrong with what he's doing...as long as it makes him happy.
First of all, chicks definition of BF is different to yours (they often class "friends", AFCs etc as a BF in response even if they don't have a real one). Second, they will often LIE saying they do when they don't. The reasons are numerous:
http://www.fastseduction.com/asf-faq.shtml#q031
DO you honestly think he hasn't heard of this a million times already?
Their face lit up, big deal. What do you expect them to do, spit on you?
Sorry but your a KJ, plain and simple. Girls don't even have to light up...they can easily just look and act disinterested. It happens, but no...they were flattered and possibly had interest, just that they didn't want to risk anything with a possible relationship they had. Did u think that some of these girls actually were in serious relationships and didn't want to risk losing something they thought was fine?
They must think you're so "sweet" asking such a junior high question.
What a coincidence....it seems like ur comments are junior highish themselves O
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It subcommunicates a lack of knowledge of the game on so many levels (e.g. that chicks are always looking for the Bigger Better Deal, that chicks will swing from BF to BF like monkeys swing from branches
Sorry but i fail to see what knowledge u have. Ur too close minded. Chicks might always be looking for the bigger deal but it doesn't exactly mean they'll immediately jump fish. Most women don't want to risk losing something they already have....if they're happy that is. Its not that often what u describe happens. Sure, it does happen but not THAT often.
- they don't let go of the last one until they have grasp of the next, that chicks will sleep with another guy even if they have a BF, that you're not confident that you're the best thing for her and could attract her away from any supposed BF). Sweet doesn't get you laid or build attraction.
I still fail to see how they would consider him just, "Sweet"? He went up to them directly...wanted to find out if they were available. I would say they would consider him more confident going about it that way. Its rare for a guy to be direct. I would say those lighted up responses are a good thing. What he did build attraction right there. Plain and Simple.
You just approached another chick and got nowhere with her.
You are too result oriented. Who cares if he got nowhere with Girl A, he'll get somewhere with girl B. Rejection was a good thing in this case. He found out what he was looking for and now he can move to find the next girl of whom has the potential to be his girl.
Now work on approaching a chick and getting somewhere with her, it's a lot more fun.
He's 100 steps ahead of you already. U got some catching up to do ;-)
Like I said before, you are approaching and that's good - but improve your technique and you can increase your success rate.
This statement i agree with. But he's already improving his technique.
I have only approached white girls so far. I like white girls, but I also like a lot of Asian girls and I have seen some hot black girls too that I wanted to approach. I never thought I'd be afraid to approach them, but I have to admit I have been. I guess I'm thinking they are going to wonder why is this white guy talking to me? This all goes back to me worrying too much what others think of me.
I think its just the reputation some black women have for being either rude or stuck up(I'm black so i kinda have heard it over and over). But in reality, i think most of the black women u'll find will still show interest...as they want a guy who's still confident and honest, even if he's a difference. But yea, i def can relate...asian girls intimidated me due to the fact how some had either mad looking faces or looks incredibly stuck up...which is of course false as its in our heads.
2. I still haven't approached with people around. I sorta did this in Approach #3, but I'm obviously still scared to approach unless there is nobody within hearing distance. The best remedy for this might be to just approach a two-set directly. For some reason I am more afraid of what some snooping bystander might think rather than the girl I approach or even her girl friends she is with.
Trust me, that person won't really care. Even if they did, so what? Do you have to associate with that person? Nope. Do you have to acknowledge that person? Nope. So definitely do not care what that person thinks. Believe it or not, that person might think of u as being brave/confident for having the self assurance to do something like that. I can tell u man, people might look but thats it. Don't let that stop you.
3. Confidence is getting better. After the last approach, I feel like I am comfortable with opening and I'll be able to carry on a conversation fairly well and I think I'm a good conversationalist once I get going so I'm anxious to find some more single girls out there.
Becoming more self assured, def support u in ur journey! Actually, i think the key is to let the opportunities come to you, to where u can act on it ;-). You know, u RANDOMLY see a beautiful girl out of the blue without expecting it...thats the true test. But yes, def great ur anxious about it. For now, hey...give it a shot...be gungho about finding these women! :-D! I believe in you man!
