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Nn877

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Fellow DJs I need some advice....

Long story short, LTR ended of 2 years, after we moved in together.

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---started talking/hooking up which lead to more dates and beginning to be main plate.
We started to get close and then she had to move back home.

---long distance for a year almost, we saw each other once a month, sometimes more. Talked about moving in together.

--we find a place, I move pretty much away from friends and family to live with her.
Things are great until 2 months in...

Breakup---she hits me with I don't want to live together anymore, but still wants to date, I said fvck that, due to the planning and talking for months about living together for her to just change her mind? I end it.

She goes to visit her friends over the weekend, and says her girl friend got kicked out and needs to move in. So here I was not only living with my ex, but now also with her friend. It was horrible. She acted like it wasn't even a big deal. She started to act really cold towards me and even said very hurtful things in arguments.




So she fronted the deposit and first month rent when we moved in which I didn't ask her to do, and I was suppose to pay her back when I can but I wasn't making that much money at the time. Few months since then.

Anyways, I moved out and got my own spot and money is very tight, she wants me to pay her the first month rent share asap ....and I'm considering not paying her back. Thoughts? She didn't act civil whatsoever during the break up and the friend moving in was the kicker for me. Maybe I don't want another justification of why she broke up me, for her arsenal, now I don't repay debts too. But after the pain she caused me I'm not sure if I care.
 

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It really depends on what you want out of this whole thing. If she's annoying the fvck out of you and you just want her to leave you alone, give her the money. If you're fine with her being pissed off at you and bugging you for the money, then don't pay it back.

She's the one living there, she's the one with her name on the place (if not, then you need to go back and kick her out) and she's the one who moved her friend in there. It's HER place.
 

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You were replaced by her friend. Thus, her friend now has the responsibility of your half of the rent and bills.

Period.....thats assuming you are paying your rent up front.

If you actually owe for time that you did live there, pay her and get away from her. Don't leave any strings attached over a small amount of money.
 

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It was when I still lived there, most of my friends said screw her, but to save face I think I'm gonna still pay her back. She even reached out to my grandmother that I owe her money, which is low. Why get my family involved? Smh. I've been nc for weeks now.
 

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Im convinced she wanted to move her friend in all along and I was more of a crutch to get the move in going, at least from how she's treated the situation post break up feels that way.

She's 22 , age wins, even if you think they're mature.
 

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So she's threatening small claims court, there's nothing in writing saying I was gonna pay her back the money. Does she have grounds? She's texted my friends now I owe her money since she's blocked...smh.

Maybe if you didn't kick me out, you'd have money from me. I bet she doesn't have enough for her own rent now.
 

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If she has no written contract proof and can't prove a verbal agreement via witness, she has no grounds. Her proof of you making past rental payments may come into play as a verbal agreement, but that's real iffy and easily defended. Chances are it's only a threat.
 
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No contract/paper trail.... **** her !
 

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So she's threatening small claims court, there's nothing in writing saying I was gonna pay her back the money. Does she have grounds? She's texted my friends now I owe her money since she's blocked...smh.

Maybe if you didn't kick me out, you'd have money from me. I bet she doesn't have enough for her own rent now.
She has no grounds to take you to court. If there is no written contract or paper trail, then she has no proof.

Her not having money to pay her rent isn't your problem. She kicked you out. She's no longer in your life, so don't give her a dime.
 

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The caveat to this tho is I unfortunately work with her as well. But if she tries to cause a scene at work she can risk losing her job. So I don't think she will do anything.
 

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Fvck her. Tell her that she should be talking to her friend that she moved in about rent money, not your friends.

Block this chick.
 
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