Off course approaching girls on the street is not the only way.It is actualy the hardest and worst way to meet girls.But it is a good way for shy,introverted guys to change quickly.Just one day of approaching will change you so much you wouldn't belive it.It is a good way to deal with your fear and insecurities,and a good way to become more extroverted and talkative.And you are mistaken if you think for a second it is not about beeing a coward.Those guys you mentioned who have girlfriends or wifes may indeed never approached a woman on the street,but they did have enought balls to make a move,kiss,makeout with their gf / wife when she showed interest in them.So yes,my friend,it is all about courage,it doesn't metter if its courage to stop random girls on the street,or courage to be genuine with girls and don't supplicate to them,courage to state your own mind when talking with them,or courage to psychically escalate when you see girl is interested.Its all about courage.Don't tell me that in 25 years of your life,you have never met a girl who was interested in you ? Did you ever had any female friends ? Did any of them show any signs they want more then a friendship ? I mean,if you fail to escalate,its because you were affraid,and now you see how much courage is important.I mean,its courage for guys like you,for naturals its not courage because they are not affraid in first place.They are not affraid to approach girls,not affraid to kiss them,touch them,etc..Thats what you should be aiming for.And where are you going to meet them,in the street,in the club,through mutual friend,etc..thats not that much important
AFCs here is a tip
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Listen... you do not have to be an extrovert. You just have to try to be a man and have a plan of action to get a good woman.knglerxt said:
When you realize that most of women you hit on are useless anyway for anything long term then you will focus on the very few who are good.
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Kingler, I have a suggestion for you. Take this advise, because it helped me bigtime.
Don't think this is wrong or anything, but get yourself an escort. Not some crackho on the street, but a higher class call girl. Spend a night with her, she can be your "girlfriend" for the night. It might cost a few bills, but so what, DO IT! I was in your situation, and this is what I did.. called a high class escort, get the v card off of you!
Why am I advising this? Allow me to elaborate:
1. Biggest reason for me - NO CHANCE AT REJECTION!!! I was a virgin, so rejection with girls was almost automatic. A working girl doesn't give a f*** if you are a virgin or not. You will get a guaranteed lay.
2. You will feel like a champ at the end of the night! All that sexual frustration is gone out the window, the desperation that you have will be eliminated.
3. You will be more comfortable around women.
4. You won't give a fu** if you have a gf or not, because you will be able to get laid no matter what, so long as you have a few bills you are willing to part with.
5. Cheaper than a gf. You pay a call girl a few hundred for a night. A gf expects gifts, dinners at nice restaurants, movies, the list goes on...
So that's my advice. Personally, I've done this a few times, and have realized I don't need women in my life at all, and am very content with getting call girls every couple of weeks or so for a night.
Don't think this is wrong or anything, but get yourself an escort. Not some crackho on the street, but a higher class call girl. Spend a night with her, she can be your "girlfriend" for the night. It might cost a few bills, but so what, DO IT! I was in your situation, and this is what I did.. called a high class escort, get the v card off of you!
Why am I advising this? Allow me to elaborate:
1. Biggest reason for me - NO CHANCE AT REJECTION!!! I was a virgin, so rejection with girls was almost automatic. A working girl doesn't give a f*** if you are a virgin or not. You will get a guaranteed lay.
2. You will feel like a champ at the end of the night! All that sexual frustration is gone out the window, the desperation that you have will be eliminated.
3. You will be more comfortable around women.
4. You won't give a fu** if you have a gf or not, because you will be able to get laid no matter what, so long as you have a few bills you are willing to part with.
5. Cheaper than a gf. You pay a call girl a few hundred for a night. A gf expects gifts, dinners at nice restaurants, movies, the list goes on...
So that's my advice. Personally, I've done this a few times, and have realized I don't need women in my life at all, and am very content with getting call girls every couple of weeks or so for a night.
Just my 2c...
Guys, I stopped reading about half way through this thread, but I just want to add my 2c...
I think that every person is their own unique, and yes, DIFFERENT person. You get the types of people that think that doing things that are more chilled / unsociable is totally stupid and a waste of time etc etc etc... And then you get the people that are contempt with simply staying home and having a few friends over and not doing much. Whatever makes you (whoever you are) happy? right?
Now, the so called "way of life" of a person that tends to enjoy partaking in less "sociable" events is naturally less likely to end up meeting the girl of his dreams... or any girl for that matter.. but this is where one needs to be able to differentiate between "changing who you are" to "compromise" and "sacrifice".
You cannot sit at home / on a forum and cry to people that you are not getting any action, because you're not doing anything about it. And you do not need to change who you are, OR your personality in order to socialize. If you do not like or enjoy the clubbing scene, then do something less... loud/busy? .. How about going to catch a movie with yourself and a few friends and some ladies? Or maybe go out for a few drinks at a place where woman also go to socialize and have a few drinks?
Lets be straight, if you are not making yourself available to women, then how do you expect to GET a woman?
Being shy is not an excuse to not meet woman. Being shy is a good excuse to hide behind and say "but that’s not who I am!”... Well I got a secret for you.. Humans are born shy... that’s just how we are, and we all teach ourselves how not to be shy.
I will give you an example: Lets say you are a salesman for a company and your job is to go to companies and set up presentations for a whole group of people who will be sitting there judging you and then will have to decide if you "sold yourself" well enough for their likings/expectations.
Now, my point is this - The 1st presentation that you will give, and/or even the 10th, will NEVER be able to be given without you feeling nervous, shy, pressurized, and whatever other emotions you feel. This is just one simple example to show you that in life, you will only be as good at certain things as you train yourself to, and push yourself to.
Nobody likes having to go through those 1st few times, but those people that do, are the people that see the bigger picture... those are the people who end up being the successful ones, they were the ones that made the necessary sacrifices and compromises in order to get to where they are today.
Anyways, I could go on, but I don’t want to make this post longer than what it needs to be… I hope I have given some form of insight to some people.
Laterz...
Guys, I stopped reading about half way through this thread, but I just want to add my 2c...
I think that every person is their own unique, and yes, DIFFERENT person. You get the types of people that think that doing things that are more chilled / unsociable is totally stupid and a waste of time etc etc etc... And then you get the people that are contempt with simply staying home and having a few friends over and not doing much. Whatever makes you (whoever you are) happy? right?
Now, the so called "way of life" of a person that tends to enjoy partaking in less "sociable" events is naturally less likely to end up meeting the girl of his dreams... or any girl for that matter.. but this is where one needs to be able to differentiate between "changing who you are" to "compromise" and "sacrifice".
You cannot sit at home / on a forum and cry to people that you are not getting any action, because you're not doing anything about it. And you do not need to change who you are, OR your personality in order to socialize. If you do not like or enjoy the clubbing scene, then do something less... loud/busy? .. How about going to catch a movie with yourself and a few friends and some ladies? Or maybe go out for a few drinks at a place where woman also go to socialize and have a few drinks?
Lets be straight, if you are not making yourself available to women, then how do you expect to GET a woman?
Being shy is not an excuse to not meet woman. Being shy is a good excuse to hide behind and say "but that’s not who I am!”... Well I got a secret for you.. Humans are born shy... that’s just how we are, and we all teach ourselves how not to be shy.
I will give you an example: Lets say you are a salesman for a company and your job is to go to companies and set up presentations for a whole group of people who will be sitting there judging you and then will have to decide if you "sold yourself" well enough for their likings/expectations.
Now, my point is this - The 1st presentation that you will give, and/or even the 10th, will NEVER be able to be given without you feeling nervous, shy, pressurized, and whatever other emotions you feel. This is just one simple example to show you that in life, you will only be as good at certain things as you train yourself to, and push yourself to.
Nobody likes having to go through those 1st few times, but those people that do, are the people that see the bigger picture... those are the people who end up being the successful ones, they were the ones that made the necessary sacrifices and compromises in order to get to where they are today.
Anyways, I could go on, but I don’t want to make this post longer than what it needs to be… I hope I have given some form of insight to some people.
Laterz...
knglerxt
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I think the best way for me is to try the internet or to get involved in something that interests me that puts me around women. I mean I have hobbies, but most of the stuff that interests me doesn't require me to be around a group of people. I don't like the club/bar scene. I don't drink. I'm not religious, so church is out of the question.
Get your act together!
Think of it this way, perhaps my previous post was a little hard for you to grasp..
Take all the things in a persons life that brings him/her joy and brings a lot of happiness to a person. Now trail back to HOW HE GOT that thing that MAKES HIM/HER HAPPY... Most things in life that will bring us happiness/joy/ and all those other positive things in life are things that require us to make some sort of sacrifice and/or compromise that we would rather NOT do.
I’ll give you yet another example:
Think of a job.. A job gives us money, and money makes us happy. So now you ask yourself, WHY DO ALL THOSE MILLIONS OF PEOPLE GO TO COLLEGE AND PUT SO MUCH PRESSURE ON THEMSELVES AND CHOOSE to make the sacrifice of working their asses off in order to be able to get what they want at the "end of the tunnel", which is a job, which will then give them money which will then make them happy. (I am not saying money makes everyone happy, I am using this as an example.)
Much like work, MOST things worth while require a certain amount of sacrifice and compromise in order to achieve the goal.
From what I see, you are not willing to compromise OR make any sacrifices to get women, you want it to be as easy as sitting at home and meeting the girl of your dreams. Well I got news for you, you're gonna be stuck in your wishful thinking probably for the rest of your life, if you do not understand the concept of meeting women.
Its as simple as that really.. If you don’t go to college, u cant expect to get a good job, if you don’t go make yourself available to women, then don’t expect to find a good woman.
Life isn’t about only doing what we like and want to do, the sooner you realize this, the sooner you will save yourself from a lonely boring life.
Laterz...
nglerxt: Its not always about what you LIKE to do, its about compromise and sacrifice.knglerxt said:
Think of it this way, perhaps my previous post was a little hard for you to grasp..
Take all the things in a persons life that brings him/her joy and brings a lot of happiness to a person. Now trail back to HOW HE GOT that thing that MAKES HIM/HER HAPPY... Most things in life that will bring us happiness/joy/ and all those other positive things in life are things that require us to make some sort of sacrifice and/or compromise that we would rather NOT do.
I’ll give you yet another example:
Think of a job.. A job gives us money, and money makes us happy. So now you ask yourself, WHY DO ALL THOSE MILLIONS OF PEOPLE GO TO COLLEGE AND PUT SO MUCH PRESSURE ON THEMSELVES AND CHOOSE to make the sacrifice of working their asses off in order to be able to get what they want at the "end of the tunnel", which is a job, which will then give them money which will then make them happy. (I am not saying money makes everyone happy, I am using this as an example.)
Much like work, MOST things worth while require a certain amount of sacrifice and compromise in order to achieve the goal.
From what I see, you are not willing to compromise OR make any sacrifices to get women, you want it to be as easy as sitting at home and meeting the girl of your dreams. Well I got news for you, you're gonna be stuck in your wishful thinking probably for the rest of your life, if you do not understand the concept of meeting women.
Its as simple as that really.. If you don’t go to college, u cant expect to get a good job, if you don’t go make yourself available to women, then don’t expect to find a good woman.
Life isn’t about only doing what we like and want to do, the sooner you realize this, the sooner you will save yourself from a lonely boring life.
Laterz...